Pervy Driving Instructor from Years Ago??

[purplesky18]

So a bit of backstory, I was learning to drive roughly around 6 years ago now. I must've been 17 just turning 18 at the time. I picked a reliable driving school that is very well known in my area.

My driving instructor seemed happy and friendly at first. Would make me laugh during lessons and generally seemed like a nice guy. He must've been early 30s when he began teaching me. I also had a boyfriend at the time. All was going great until around 10 lessons in when I noticed he would start making near the knuckle comments. Things like 'oh I bet you like going reverse don't you' and generally starting making strange comments about my relationship at the time.

He then began to WhatsApp me really quite shocking inappropriate sexual messages and almost downplaying it and gaslighting me. At this point I got freaked out and blocked him never to have a lesson again!

Now my AIBU is... Would you report this incident now even if it is almost 6 years ago. The said driving instructor was married at the time with 2 kids, the awkward part also being his wife and father in law run the very well known driving school! Would I wreck his marriage? Is it worth potentially destroying a family? Would anyone believe me as I have no proof now? I can't stop thinking about this incident even all these years later, I really wonder if it's ever happened to other young girls also? Or would you just accept he was a perv trying his luck with an 18yr old and try to forget about it! Thanks.

I had a really pervy driving instructor when I was 22 and early stages of pregnancy with my firstborn. Started off with crude jokes, then he would throw in the odd inappropriate comment. He even asked what my bra size was! The last straw was making me drive round to an unlit residential area and asked me to pull over so he could go for a pee! When he got back in the car, he put his hand over mine on the gearstick. I felt sick.
Told my husband and family who told him not to contact me ever again. He still tried calling me but I blocked his number. I thought about reporting it but as I’d just found out I was pregnant I just didn’t want to the stress and anxiety involved in the process. I have thought since that I should’ve done something.

God the number of perverts in this position is horrifying. My daughter (16) is at the age were she is excited about learning to drive soon. I dont know what I would do if she came home and said even half of the things that are on this thread.

My first driving instructor gave me the creeps, he didn't do or say anything but I followed my gut feeling and only had 3 lessons with him. My second instructor was lovely, kind and patient and made me feel at ease immediately. I obviously dont know if anything would have happened with the 1st and will never know but my DM taught me at a young age to follow my gut feeling and he made me feel so at unease I was never going to pass with him.

OP I'm sorry for what you (and others) have been through I would consider an anonymous report.