That this is an unforgivable thing to say?

[allthebuns]

During an argument? I wish you would have died in the car crash you had last week 😞. I feel like there's no going back from here.

Depends on whether they meant it, had been provoked, were drunk, grief stricken...the usual.

And whether they are actually looking for forgiveness. Maybe they did mean it, and don't care.

Context matters.

Clearly there’s a backstory we’re unaware of but on this in its’ own, yes, not very nice. Equally, we don’t know if you have said anything similar to the other person before.

Sorry you were involved inna car incident....hopefully all will be resolved with that and this hassle-free.

who said it ?

an angry child ?

and angry adult ?

An adult, my mother to be specific.

Was she drunk?

Your bloody dm?
Unforgettable imo...

No, completely sober. It was a disagreement over money.

It’s pretty bad, but context is all.

I’m so sorry OP. There’s no going back. You might want to talk to your GP about getting some therapy sessions to help with this.

Are you just going to drip feed the entire thing, or could you just give the context properly?

@allthebuns

An adult, my mother to be specific.

JFC your mother?

Unless she was semi drugged up and you were removing one of her teeth with a pair of pliers, then no.

It's not acceptable & personally I wouldn't forgive her.

I'm sorry your mother said that, has she always been like that?

What's going on??

(((HUG))))

What’s she usually like?

Would something have happened to her to make her behave like this or is this standard for her?

That’s up there with my my family member telling another family member “ I wish I had aborted you “ totally unforgivable imo op especially from a mother. Don’t care what’s been said before that, you should NEVER say that to your child no matter what age they are. My family member has never forgiven her for saying it and never will. They speak but only just. I’m so sorry she said this op and hope your feeling ok after your accident

I feel trapped as I'm living with her at the moment and I know I need to get away from here as this toxic environment is affecting my wellbeing but I just don't know how I'm going to afford it. I can't see a way forward as to how I'm going to get out 😞

Wow!

Your mother?!

I’m so sorry that’s a level I can’t comprehend.

Are you working at the moment?

No
There is absolutely no excuse to say that to anyone. Regardless of circumstance

I'm not drip feeding I'm just in a bit of a state at the moment this only happened around an hour ago and I'm just trying to process things.

How old are you? Can you not go elsewhere?

There's more OP is not telling us.

So won't comment until the context is known.

23. I am in a tier 2 area so can't really go to anyone else's house and I don't really have the money for a hotel. I could afford one night maybe but then I'll still have to come back here. I was a student and I'm now working but only minimum wage.

Well she sounds like a charmer.

Is it possible to move under certain circumstances?

Flat/house share?

I'm.not sure about the rules at the moment.

Regardless of circumstances, I think that’s a really shitty thing for her to have said. Back in my day, I used to read the live in position adverts avidly. Is that something you could consider to get away? I did, moved abroad to get out.

I'm sorry your mother said this to you. I think it's time for you to leave home to be honest, there's no getting away from this