What do you regret not doing?

[jennie0412]

Just that really.

Not losing weight but also sounds mad letting my weight stop doing things like meeting up with old friends etc

I regret not moving closer to where DH works. Had the chance 5 years ago and chickened out at the last minute. DH works away during the week and has missed so much of the kids growing up because of my decision.

I regret worrying about what other people think and being so uptight. I need to work on this and start living my life.

SCOUT 2016 , i saw John Martyn live in the 80's i was dragged there by a very keen x boyfriend .
We sat on the front row right near the amps and i fell asleep ! you didn't
miss much !
This is a very poignant thread , there are some sad regrets.

@northernmonkeys100 I'm so sorry. Sending you a hug.

I regret moving to America and missing all of these years with my parents, siblings, extended family. I know I've had a great life and made an excellent career, and I adore my lovely DH who would not have made the move easily, but the regret niggles away under the surface. Constantly.

Studying history instead of something that wouldn't give me MH problems.

I regret getting a dog as soon as we moved out of our mums I don't regret getting one just getting him so soon and I regret not going on more weekends away and trips to exciting places, we now have kids and dogs and can't afford to go abroad for a good while now so looking forward to our children getting older so me and dh can go away and do all these things we should have done before but hey ho I'm happy as I am for now!

I don't have too many regrets but I will always regret not prioritizing a smear test. I then got pregnant, put it off, got pregnant again and next thing I knew I was diagnosed with cervical cancer when DS2 was 15 months old. That is probably the only thing I truly regret.

I kind of regret doing mental health nursing rather than adult nursing as well. Feel like I would have had more career options 20 years down the line than I do now. Although right now, I'm wishing I had chosen anything other than nursing anyway😉

Not fighting for my career I resigned under dubious circumstances and I live with the regret everyday it eats me up the job was my reason for getting up and it lit the fire in my belly now it's too late so live with it I will

Not valuing myself enough. Putting others first at all times but in doing this I devalued me, and to some extent I still do it. Habits of a lifetime and all

@loutypips my situation is exactly the same although in my case it was my grandmother, not mother. She raised me though so was like my mother and best friend rolled into one. I had avoided visiting for a week as I had a bad cold and knew she was immunosuppressed. Then, when I felt well enough, I went to see her but she was asleep. I sat for a while but didn't want to wake her as she looked so peaceful so eventually left to go home. The call came early the next morning to say she had died and I'll never forgive myself for not waking her to have one last conversation or at least letting her know I was there after not seeing her for days beforehand.

On a more lighthearted note, I regret not taking the opportunity to have one further fling with my ex boyfriend when I was 16. I had fancied this guy for ages and was over the moon when he asked me out but our relationship didn't last long. Then one night, we were hanging out in a group of friends but he kept flirting with me and we were kind of splintering off on our own. I stupidly decided to play hard to get and really overdid it to the point where he gave up. We never had another connection like this although I remained deeply in love with him for another couple of years. I am deliriously happy with my DH and our life right now- but I still wish I'd had another go with my first love.

Not ending toxic relationships (family as well as romantic) early enough.

Not thinking about kids earlier, as my early menopause put paid to that.
Not travelling more before experiencing an injury which has left me disabled.
Not returning to live overseas in my mid-20s, because - A Boy.
Not having more confidence in my abilities/looks/personality/skills/opportunities at my Russell Group Ancient Uni. I was SO in awe/felt inferior to all of these public school types, and I was a wee girl from a big-standard state Scottish comprehensive school.
Not taking a year out after school, and trying again for Art School (although I’d probably be an Art Teacher now).
Not having confidence/voice in an earlier life stage in my feminism.

Eating too much/going out too much in my 30s. The spare 3 stones is harder to shift now!

I wish I'd lived a hedonistic lifestyle.

I regret not saying 'no' in the toilet. Not saying no to that first drag on a cigarette in the school toilets at 13 and not saying no to that first line of cocaine in the nightclub toilets at 18. Coke-free since 2009 and smoke-free for almost 2.5 years.

Not letting a dead friendship go - I resurrected it, against my better judgement and everyone’s advice, because she was going through a rough time and I felt sorry for her. She made my life hell for five years and it took me another five years to stop feeling angry about it.

Had an opportunity to join a startup company but allowed myself to be talked out of it. They sold the company 2 years later and everybody made a £1m each.

My Dad died 3 weeks ago. I regret not taking more pictures and videos of him. I haven't a single picture of him with my daughter, and I think about that every day.

Not calling my grandma more before she died. She wasn’t herself at all and it made me sad to talk to her, but she adored me and I should have called her more often.