What do you regret not doing?

[jennie0412]

Just that really.

Not saving. I could own my own house now instead of living in rented. I was given a load of cash when I was 17 that my parents had saved for me. It was to pay for driving lessons and big stuff. I learned to drive but the rest I just pissed up the wall. In 2000 my mum offered to double what I had (she assumed I'd carry on saving) and I could put a deposit on a house. Of course I had nowt so just said I didn't want to buy a house.

Not travelling more before I settled down. I guess there is time in later life to visit the world though.

I regret..
. Ruining my credit
. Not living my life more before my daughter came along
. Losing my friends
. Not living my life because of insecurities.
. Not having a career
. Not educating myself better
. Not travelling the world like I always thought I would.
. Being such a horrible gobby little cow to my mom. (I've spent the last 5 years making it upto her I'm every possible way) I'm deeply ashamed of myself.

Right now? Not putting the research into ADHD earlier, as well as not putting pressure on the doctor to help me a year ago when I went to them for a referral.

22 years without a diagnosis. Makes me wonder where I would be if I'd known sooner.

The touch typing tip is a very good one. I taught myself when I was about 20 (after a bad year of single finger typing) and it's hands down the most useful thing I've learned on my own initiative.

I was asked to be the singer for a band once and said no. Although I did and do sing, it was out of my comfort zone. Wish I'd said yes now! Generally I wish I'd done more jazz, swing and pop and less Classical. If Covid ever goes away maybe I'll do something about it.

What is touch typing? It sounds useful!

Aw, Chaotic, I'm just going through that with my 7 year old (lockdown learning made her symptoms so obvious, I felt confident to push for a diagnosis). I hope you can get some help and support. The ADHD society are good.

Typing without looking down at the keyboard. It's not hard to learn if you can devote a bit of time (and can use the same keyboard consistently).

Oh! I've been doing that since i was about 10 years old

@Nannewnannew - as pp said, you cannot know that picking your son up would have changed things and small comfort as it is, I hope you can find peace.

I regret not phoning 999 when I was having a placental abruption because I couldn’t accept that I wasn’t just going to go into labour and listened to all the midwives telling me it was ok. I lost my full term DD.

I regret staying with my husband when he tried to throw me out just so he could get with someone else (that he wasn’t even sure was interested in him). In a way then the rest of the awful things that happened to my two children (the stillbirth and my seriously disabled DD whom I adore but who has such a hard life).
I also regret not cheating on this same husband with someone I was tempted by. I thought I’d feel awful if I did. I don’t think I would have felt as bad as I do most days now

Not sorting my skin out when I was younger - it could have cleared up long before it did
Not going traveling when I was younger
Not appreciating the body I had
Not moving to Spain
Not knowing what direction I wanted to go in
Meeting certain blokes
Putting the weight on
Not taking time to sit back and enjoy my babies when young, I spent my time doing everything to care for them and not enjoying the moment
Not taking enough videos of my children

Not saving more when I was earning loads with minimal outgoings in my late teens/early twenties. Around 2007/2008 I would happily spend £200 -£300 or thereabouts monthly on Asos and other rubbish without hesitation!

Honestly wish I could go back and bang my head against a wall!

Spending stupid amount on clothes as feeling I needed new stuff to make me happy. Definitely a slight addiction but the amount I wasted...painful really.

Not being more confident about myself and worrying what others thought of me. Over thinking so many situations as well.

Losing touch with my best friend. I didn't speak to her for 15 years but I thought about her all the time. She was this amazing, beautiful person with a fabulous life, she got married and had lots of rich married friends, and I felt like I didn't fit in so I let our friendship drift. I always planned to get back in touch with her and then I googled her one day (sheer curiousity, she had a v unusual name) and found out she'd died. It is my biggest regret and the one I can't change at all. I miss her a lot.

Working harder at school.
Going to see my dad when we got back from holiday because I’d got a cold. He had a heart attack and died that night.
Travel.
Being spontaneous-going straight to Holyhead with my mates to go for an absolute blinder of a weekend in Belfast and similarly not jumping in the car to head to the last Glastonbury when you could sneak in.

Had kids sooner. I could have had more than one.

Pension planning.

Taking a chance with a small company. I would be sitting on millions now.

That’s it.

I am very well traveled and have lived and worked in lots of countries, have slept with more than 15 people, can play the piano and speak passable French. I can scuba and salsa and have had a rare old time.

I have lively life now.

I regret some things I've said and done that hurt people I love.

I regret not being braver about putting myself forward for things and taking more of a risk. I married the wrong man but I have two amazing children now and I could never regret that.

But to be fair I've been pretty bold and brave in my life and had a lot of adventures. I've achieved a lot and done most of it on my own.

Not answering the phone to my dad one morning because I wanted to eat my breakfast before it went cold. He took his own life later that day

Not shagging around a lot more. I was raised Catholic and had it drummed into me that it was a sin before marriage. While I didn’t quite last that long I married my second boyfriend and dated my first one for 7 years. I was quite attractive and had my fair share of chances but was really uptight. I’d definitely love to revisit those uni days for a few weeks a year for a bit of a rampage 😁

I wish now that I’d recognised the emotional impact of having a sibling who spent most of their formative years ( and mine) in a top security mental hospital as a result of committing violent crimes. In those days other people just blamed the family (us) and we muddled through our lives trying to keep it together at school, and work, without support or understanding. I’ve always felt slightly detached from others as an adult. This is nothing compared to the experiences of others on this thread, I realise.

Not listening to my mother’s instincts when I knew there were something wrong with my son. everyone said he’s fine, he’s fine but I knew he wasn’t.

Turns out he had ASD, ADHD/ADD plus a chromosomal disorder.
Severely dysxleic

I just wish I knew how much his little brain and to process and how hard everything was for him.

He’s 7 now and no one will tell me better than I know.

Taking a gap year and travelling the world.

I always wanted to go on a ranch holiday in America - being a proper cowgirl for a week or two! I promised it myself for my 40th, but became disabled before that and will likely never get the chance now.

Not having a decent amount of therapy after my divorce 15 years ago. I haven't had a partner since and I don't think I will now. I missed out on the chance to have a family.