Teenager believes trick or treat will happen

[nicegirl73]

I have told them straight from the start that it won’t happen. They are 14,12 and 10.
My 14 year old just got angry with me now saying I dont know that it won’t.
I just don’t want them to be disappointed but am I unreasonable trying to manage their expectations here?
Will it still happen in some places? Or Should I just let her find it since she clearly doesn’t trust me. Help!!! Otherwise sensible teen

Is she wanting to go out trick or treating or thinks people will come to yours? I wouldn't be meeting her go out and trick or treat anyway at 14, sorry. I think unless their escorting younger children they're all too old now, and I wouldn't be taking any children round this year

It does seem like it'll be risky- perhaps when families can make some fun halloween home games and treats instead. it might be area dependent, but I wouldn't like lots of different households knocking at my door when we have such high numbers in the UK. (Although we live in the middle of nowhere so it never happens)
It's just such a sad tme for eveŕyone OP- sorry you're having to disappoint them again :(

She's too old anyway, so it's irrelevant.

Little kids dressed up are cute. Teenagers knocking on strangers doors in masks is just intimidating.

I think 14 is a bit old for trick or treating. Maybe just let her find out for herself. I won't be handing out sweets/putting out pumpkins this year.

14 year olds never believe us as parents anyway so just roll your eyes at her knowing you’re right.

Aside from that, TELL them it won’t be happening as you’re saying so. No waiting to see. At 14 she’s really too old as teens at doors can be intimidating to some people. The 10 and 12 year olds will just have to be told “not this year”.

Kind of surprised they want to go at 14.

@Orangeblossom7777

Kind of surprised they want to go at 14.

Free sweets and pissing about in the dark with your mates!? Isn't that kinda the dream at 14?

I am really surprised that a 14 year old would be that bothered about Halloween. Is she really that desperate for sweets?

TELL them it’s not happening. Let them have some sweets, decorate some cookies, watch a spooky film together at home. 14 is too old, my hulking great 14 year old would terrify people if let him go out in a mask/ knock on doors. (I appreciate that your DD might not be terrifying but even so...)

I heard it's illegal for over 13s to trick or treat so just tell her that

@jimmyhill

I heard it's illegal for over 13s to trick or treat so just tell her that

Except that's bullshit, and unless she's a moron she'll google it, find out and tell her mum where to stick that nonsense.

I don't know, I'd have thought that it wouldn't be being entertained by most, even in T1, but the shite you read on here, who knows. My friend, who I'm about out of Covid patience with, was saying about TorT & I said 'I doubt anyone will' & he said 'X wants to, he'll be so disappointed not to!'

X is 11, knows full well about Covid, but given his parents I'm not surprised he's a bit confused about what's ok & what's not frankly.

What Tier are you in? Is it permitted locally where you are? Look up the rules first - might save you the grief?

If T1 I think it will be permitted, but discouraged.

15yo who is not at all intimidating. She's tiny and more scared than scary! Is disappointed, but has worked out for herself that next to no one will want their door knocked but she's still excited to get dressed up & go fir a walk around. Done if our neighbours do incredible displays. Really amazing. So we'll all enjoy that and if any doors look inviting they might knock, but if not they'll still enjoy themselves scaring each other and looking army the decorations, then we'll have spooky fiid & watch a film or two. I have plenty of spooky sweets for them. & some individual little packets for if any do knock (won't have a pumpkin out, so not expecting any, but some of the regulars might still knock)

If you're happy for them to go, just let them go, they'll either be thrilled to price you wrong or find out the hard way. Just make it Crystal clear they're only allowed to knock at any doors that have pumpkins out.

Have the cheer up hot chocolate on the go fir when they get back!

In our area on facebook people are suggesting a pumpkin trail. Whereby households and businesses put an image of pumpkin in windows or an actual pumpkin and younger children do the pumpkin trail with parents. If they spot a pumpkin their parents give them a sweet or treat. Clearly this is just for little ones. It avoids touching and knocking on doors, coming into close contact with people and umpteen little hand fishing about for sweets in a bucket or bowl which would be a covid petrie dish. I won’t be answering the door to any halloweeners and I think displaying a pumpkin might encourage older ones to knock and expect sweets.

The only kid in our area who trick or treats at that age is a lad that has down syndrome and his mum checks in advance. She shouldn't be trick or treating at 14.

This is the facebook group.

We are in tier 1. I'm planning on taking my daughter around our area to just look at decorations. No knocking on doors. Similarly we will decorate our house but I'm putting a sign up on our door to say no sweets / trick or treating this year.

I'd be very surprised if it happened in England. We're in Scotland, so at least we know already that it's a no go. I'd have been keeping mine at home anyway this year.

I'm in T1 and the council have sent a message saying it's not advised.

The kids round my way will be dressing up and walking round in small groups to look at the decorated houses. I'll be leaving bags of sweets in a bowl on the wall for passing kids to help themselves and DS will be going around with two friends he's at school with. I'll give them some sweets to munch as they walk around. It's fun to be out in the dark eating sweets with your friends even without the door knocking but.

A 14yo going T&T? I’m embarrassed for him.

Does he often lose his temper at you, OP? Is he manageable?

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Americanized bollocks.

Let kids stay kids. There is nothing wrong with truck or treating at 14 as long as they are polite and don’t run over the little ones. Most of the teens I have seen out and about have been great. A few bad apples, but most are just sweet kids.

As for whether or not it will happen, lots of people are looking for ways to hand out candy in a socially-distanced fashion.

@Angelina82

I am really surprised that a 14 year old would be that bothered about Halloween. Is she really that desperate for sweets?

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Nope. Not desperate for the sweets at all. She'll have a couple, but she'll leave them in the kitchen & won't care who eats them

She just loves the dressing up, being out with other people, the sense of community & the brilliant decorations many of our neighbourhood put up

There's really no need to be like that.

Let children be children. People moan when children are too quick to grow up yet also complain that children are 'too old' to be doing children things.