Teenager believes trick or treat will happen

[nicegirl73]

I have told them straight from the start that it won’t happen. They are 14,12 and 10.
My 14 year old just got angry with me now saying I dont know that it won’t.
I just don’t want them to be disappointed but am I unreasonable trying to manage their expectations here?
Will it still happen in some places? Or Should I just let her find it since she clearly doesn’t trust me. Help!!! Otherwise sensible teen

Agree with pp, just tell them it's not happening, sod the disappointment.

@RishiMcRichface

I'm in T1 and the council have sent a message saying it's not advised.

Did they post it out? Or do they gather a more modern form of communication? Mins are probably still handwriting any notifications 🤣

Name change fail 🙄

Teenagers shouldn't be trick or treating anyways unless they are taking younger siblings.

We already had some scruffy teenager try his like ringing the doorbell (at bedtime) saying trick or treat the other night. We're tier 2. So yes some idiots will still go out doing it

I wont be opening the door to trick or treaters, it annoys me in general (i grudgingly participate for dc) but in the middle of a global pandemic its just irresponsible.

@Dutchesss

Let children be children. People moan when children are too quick to grow up yet also complain that children are 'too old' to be doing children things.

Because a 14 year old knocking your door in the dark asking for sweets is intimidating. A 4 year old is not

@stackemhigh

A 14yo going T&T? I’m embarrassed for him.

Does he often lose his temper at you, OP? Is he manageable?

I'd stop trying to the 'cool kid' & focus on your comprehension skills if I were you

In Scotland, just on teatime news advised against trick or treating by deputy first minister.

I'm glad DS is 14 as he was a massive halloween fan. He and 2 pals even went out last year, but I insisted they had a proper costume and joke each. Provided they are polite and only knock on doors with decorations, then where's the harm?
But yes not happening this year sadly. Just checked with some of the neighbours with younger DCs and they won't be coming round, so guess I best eat all the chocolates I bought

Some of you are absolute wankers on here. Not every 14yo is the same, for a start and using this thread as an excuse to make shitty comments about a disappointed kid is pretty shameful. You people are much, much worse than a young teenager wanting to go trick or treating.

We didn't go out- it's not something I agree with. We did celebrate big time at home.
We baked a whole pumpkin stuffed with sausages and tomato sauce.
Played hide and seek in the house, in the dark.
Played hunt the malteser (like hunt the thimble but tasty!)
Walked in the woods in the dark with torches
Face paints.

I wouldn’t mind a 14 year old trick or treating with their younger siblings 🤷‍♀️

Why is 14 too old? Are they not allowed to be children by 14?

I don’t think this year it should happen. Where I live the local Fb group are being defiant and claiming they’ll go out anyway and people will put bowls of sweets at the end of their drive but putting your hand in a bowl for sweets and coming away with the horrors (covid) is probably more likely around here.

I know it’s hard. My daughter plans all year for it so we’re doing something in the house for just us. Her school are also doing dressing up the day before for the kids where they don’t usually

My teen doesn’t go alone but with the siblings and myself, I encourage this as I think it’s great they still want to spend this family time as teens yoh know. I will never say they are too old for that

@MJMG2015 you’ve replied to your own NC thread as though you hadn’t posted it. You gave yourself away. 🤭

Thanks @Crinklyoldhaginthibkbpeoole who say 14 is too old have little kids themselves and can’t put themselves in the shoes of teen parents, they are stilll our little babies and in some ways so cute and little still

Because a 14 year old knocking your door in the dark asking for sweets is intimidating. A 4 year old is not

Why would that be intimidating? Assuming they were well behaved. And people have no obligation to put out a pumpkin and answer the door if they don't want to.

@MJMG2015

I'd stop trying to the 'cool kid' & focus on your comprehension skills if I were you

What have I failed to comprehend? I’d stop trying to be cryptic and spit it out.

Going by our local fb page (tier 2) people are still planning to do it. The majority seem to be dressing up and walking round, not knocking on doors but giving the sweets yourself. A few people have said they’ll leave sweets in bowls. To be honest I wish they wouldn’t, if we do do it I’ll bring our own sweets.

I’m edging towards just doing games and dvd at home though.

@borntohula and @Dutchesss thank you. So many lovely 14 year olds (and older 😳) out there I don’t know why they get such bad press. They are not intimidating they are super polite.
Anyway thank you to you and anyone else I’ve missed who’ve been supportive. I won’t read all the bad stuff it’s so depressing.

Perfectly reasonable to have an opinion that 14 is too old for trick or treat. I wouldn’t answer the door to teenagers myself. I’m not criticising them, I just think it’s too old.

@Angelina82 and to all the others who think 14 is too old. My 14 year old would still want to go trick or treating if it wasn't for covid. It's nothing to do with being desperate for sweets, she doesn't even like most of the sweets given and gives them to her siblings. It's about the fun of dressing up with her friends and siblings, walking around in the dark and seeing other people's costumes and decorated houses. We have a few streets locally who go all out with decorations and it's fun, even the adults dress up. If teens stick to the rule of knocking only if people have decorated and as long as they are having appropriate fun not actually trying to scare anyone or do any tricks, I don't see why they shouldn't do it.

Having said all that we have already managed expectations this year and planned to do Halloween games at home instead. Even if some people still go out I think they will find that most people will not be opening their doors. So it won't be the same.

We actually had a big fight about trick or treating in my town a few years ago. We had a hurricane a few days before Halloween and most of the town was without power, dark, and there were power lines down and blocked roads.

Some people insisted they were going to Trick or Treat anyway because it would be so unfair otherwise. Most sensible people just stayed home.

@Hahaha88 I don't believe a 14 year old in fancy dress knocking on a door of someone who has shown themselves to be actively participating in Halloween, taking a sweet and saying thank you is intimidating at all.
Gangs of teens aggressively knocking on doors where there is no pumpkin and behaving threateningly is a different matter. But why should the well behaved kids be prevented from going out because there are other idiots out there who don't know how to behave?

A 14 year old should not be trick or treating in normal circumstances nevermind this year. It's for little kids.

Exactly @bonbonours