AIBU to be really irritated by public nose blowing

[Georgeoftheinternet]

Currently at McDonald’s eating my feelings away. Women starts to blow her nose loudly, three large nose blows. Firstly, it’s not a corona issue, it’s just gross at all times to me. She doesn’t appear to have a cold.

I used to work at a place where a guy would blow his nose whilst walking to the photocopier. Really mould nose blow. My colleague who sat next to me had a constant cough and he never used his hand to cover his cough. It was perhaps allergies as it was constant. He also would sniff up his snot constantly.

I find nose blowing in public disgusting. My housemate also blows her nose in the bathroom daily and I can hear it from the front of the house. Ahhhhhhh. Lol.

Obviously I’m sensitive to this noise.

YABU - blowing ya nose loudly in public places is perfectly fine
YANBU - blowing your nose can be done discreetly

@Ingridla, I had sinus surgery in 2003, and still shudder at the thought of how vile the aftermath was.

Be as irritated as you like, there is not a thing you can do about it!

[quote LakieLady]@Ingridla, I had sinus surgery in 2003, and still shudder at the thought of how vile the aftermath was.[/quote]
They do not tell you about it do they! I was led to believe it was a simple 'sinus flush' Horrible business.

Sounds like you have misophonia, it’s a thing.
I can’t stand it either, really gets on my nerves. When my DH sneezes 3 times in a row, loudly - I really get annoyed.
Snoring or breathing is another one.

@Goldenbear

I think you'll find it's generally thought of as impolite.

It is about being discreet, you wouldn't declare you are going to the loo to blow your nose, you just move away from the table at the very least! It is really quite disgusting. I've just asked the people I am with and not one of them would do this.

Maybe it's a class thing then. I only found out recently that blowing on hot food is not considered the done thing by some people. It's still something that millions of people do.

@Skyliner001 I’m “horrible” because table manners aren’t being upheld. I would probably tell you to stop speaking with your mouth full and you would find that deplorable.

@ Elcantador I’m implying she didn’t appear to have a cold so there was no urgency in her blowing her nose. We’ve all been there when we’ve had a drippy cold nose and had to get the tissue straight away, regardless of what we were doing.
I’m saying there didn’t appear to be any urgency in her nose blowing.

She was also with another mother and blow whilst facing this women, and maintaining eye contact. I think it’s good manners to at least blow to the side and say “excuse me for a minute”.

Plus being out with a cold in corona times, bit gross.

@Yohoheaveho

Im not going to put myself out because other people have a problem with my body functioning as a human body does. I wont be made to feel ashamed of my body so you like to perform your bodily functions in public view and if anyone objects you call them out for 'shaming' you? Is that what you're saying?

No I dont "like" to "perform" bodily functions publicly. But I cant help the farting and neither can the medical profession. I have just as much right to exist in public as the next person regardless of how snotty my nose is or how much wind I have that day. Would I like it if I didnt fart like a bastard? Very much so. But it aint gonna happen. Comments like the OPs make me feel unwelcome and less worthy and its total bollocks. Im not having it.

No I'm not going to get up and walk half a mile to blow my nose, if I have to pass wind I will wherever I am - do you really find an empty field for these natural bodily functions OP?
I wonder if the OP Carrie's fabreeze in case of a particularly bad smelling bowel movement!

Do you have children? I know that my teenager would be embarrased if I passed wind anywhere but particularly in a public place. I would be embarrased if he did this as it is pretty obvious it has happened from the smell etc. I think if you have been brought up a certain way, where these things are not tolerated you can't help feeling it is inappropriate but to this thread has given me food for thought as I wouldn't want anyone to feel they are excluding from life due to a medical condition.

I don't think the Op is horrible if like me it is down to upbringing and what you perceive as good and bad manners.

I'm torn between amusement and pity at getting so het up at someone having the temerity to blow their nose around you in a manner not to your liking. Covid or not!

@Georgeoftheinternet

@ Elcantador I’m implying she didn’t appear to have a cold so there was no urgency in her blowing her nose. We’ve all been there when we’ve had a drippy cold nose and had to get the tissue straight away, regardless of what we were doing. I’m saying there didn’t appear to be any urgency in her nose blowing.

She was also with another mother and blow whilst facing this women, and maintaining eye contact. I think it’s good manners to at least blow to the side and say “excuse me for a minute”.

Plus being out with a cold in corona times, bit gross.

I’ve heard it all now .. no one can go out with a cold because of Covid? Ok , I’ll just take leave from my job , not leave my house and not take my kids to school because I have a runny nose .. after all , I don’t want to offend people like you

Noisy public nose blowing is perhaps a bit annoying. My uncle blows his nose really loudly and it makes people jump.

But I would take 100 nose blowers over one sniffer. And just because people’s noses aren’t visibly streaming doesn’t mean they don’t need to blow their nose.

what would you prefer to someone blowing their nose - that they sit there and pick it?
I feel sorry for your housemate.

Infinitely better than sniffing, which gives me the major rage.

Nose blowing > constant sniffing 💯

Expelling bodily fluids in public is disgusting. That’s what bathrooms are for. It’s incredibly rude to blow your nose at the table. And don’t get me started on people who catch their bodily fluids in a tissue then put the tissue in their pocket or up their sleeve! Just throw it away fgs!

Who goes to a toilet to blow their nose! Good grief who has time for that sort of nonsense.

I am COMPLETELY with you OP. It's disgusting! I've always hated it.

Good grief who has time for that sort of nonsense
Everyone in Asia. You don’t see Japanese people etc blowing their noses because they have more respect for others.

I actually thought it was pretty understood to be impolite in this country but that's probably to do with upbringing. My DH is the same about it and my SIL, so three different upbringings but a commonly understood feeling about not doing this at the dinner table.

Yes, but not everybody is brought up in the same culture, let alone family, or class, so there are bound to be different understandings of what is acceptable. And perhaps some of the ones who think they are better brought up, might want to think about showing some enlightened understanding towards those who have been differently brought up. And if you're in an office, or a shop, you deal.

That works both ways though - understand, from your 'different' upbringing that some people find your loud nose blowing at a dinner table rude and intrusive.

I'm not from a 'different' upbringing. I'm from an upbringing that gave one to understand that we might be brought up to understand that something was not what we would do - but that other people might have had a different upbringing, and it would be rude of us in the extreme to comment upon it or draw attention to it.

A bit like Scout, in To Kill a Mockingbird, when the boy from a less advantaged background came home for lunch and poured the wrong syrup on his biscuits.