AIBU to go to a hotel on my own

[Littleelffriend]

I have the opportunity to go to a hotel on my own this Saturday. I would only be haa as of an hour from home. I would go shopping then get take away and a bottle of wine and sleep.
I have a 4 year old and a 4 month old. I haven’t been alone since before lockdown. My partner works away but is home. DD2 is bottle fed do no issues there but I have a niggling guilt.
I am an introvert and feel like no one is getting the best of me just now. Thoughts?

I’m sitting in a huge bed in a local hotel, all on my own reading your post and smiling. It’s bliss

If you want to do it, go for it. You'll regret it if you don't! Seriously, i learnt the hard way that you should do something if you want to do it, regardless of what people might think

Go for it and have fun..even if it just means undisturbed sleep. :)

Do it!

I did this a few weeks ago. Went to a Premier Inn (I love their beds - so comfy and massive). I took some nice snacks, a bottle of wine, a book, a face mask and some nice bubble bath. I got a pizza delivered that I ate all to myself while it was hot! I soaked in the bath for over an hour with a glass of wine and my book. No-one needed in for a pee, no-one lost something and needed my help and I actually read half a book uninterrupted. I hooked my laptop up to the tv and watched Netflix.

It was the best £50 (room, pizza & wine!) I've spent in a long time and my family have a much better me since then.

Good for you! Go for it.

Being a mother does not mean being a martyr. Go and enjoy yourself and don't waste a second of that precious free time feeling guilty.

One night no, two maybe.

One night you can’t check in until 3pm? And need to check out earliest in the morning, not very relaxing and not much time to shop, Bath, relax. Sleep, sleep and sleep.a takeaway and a bottle of wine, you’ll then need another day to recover. You’ll be back at home before Sunday lunch and DH will expect you to be all relaxed and in full time duty where as I would feel hungover and knackered.

You need 2 nights.

Do it. It will be amazing.

Also one of the best things about PI is that you can check in at 2pm and you don't have to check out until noon.

scubadive is giving some expert advice here, I didn't even consider 2 nights...

We don’t even have children, but I love a solo night or two away in a hotel. This time last year I was away for a work training.

Day one - arrived about 5, had a lovely (paid for) meal in the hotel restaurant, shower and change, then met a friend for drinks.

Day two - training finished about 3.30. Went for a wander round the shops, had a coffee, then a glass of wine in a very chic bar. Back to the hotel for a lovely dinner again, long bath, another glass of wine, big bed all to myself.

Checked out in the morning for the next day of training feeling like a new woman. When I got home DP was out with friends, but had cooked dinner and left it for me to heat up, cleaned the house, and the cat was delighted to see me.

Bet if a man had a hobby he would go without a thought, Covid permitting of course, but in general I mean.

Why do women feel so much guilt for having a little break away? Don't understand it myself. I would relish it completely.

This thread has inspired me to book a solo hotel break. I'm checking in tomorrow evening.
One night only, but I cannot wait.

@twilightcafe please tell us all about it. The hotel pools are all closed where I am unfortunately. I feel validated that not one of you said that it was selfish.

I agree, go for two nights. Or at least get a late check out and go for lunch and a wander before you go home.

I did that yesterday although I took DS with me but he's 15 and loves a hotel as much as I do.

I've booked in to a hotel near London Bridge that I've used before. It's like a coccoon for the knackered. No pools or spa. BUT there's a super XL-sized bed, free movies on demand, complete peace and quiet, it's opposite the Tate Modern and close to Borough Market.
I'm going to drop off my bags early, and then have as much time to myself as possible.

Do it! But book two nights –you never sleep properly on the first night. Something about your brain staying half awake when you're in a new place!

Definitely 2 nights. I know that on the rare occasions that I’ve done something like this I haven’t slept well on the first night and then felt cross that I’d wasted my opportunity to sleep.

4 year old and 1 year old. I am now looking for hotel rooms in my town... thanks for the idea.

Enjoy!!!!

I'm like you. I'd want to but would feel guilty. Please do it though! You're a busy mum and have nothing to feel guilty for x

I've done exactly that. It was fantastic. If you pre-book about a month ahead you can get a room for £29. It was one of the big hotel chain like premier Inn or travel lodge. Put £29 hotel rooms into Google. Make it a regular thing.

I fantasise about this all the time. Do it for all of us.

Well that was short lived. 4 of DPs colleagues have tested positive so he’s flying away for work at 5am tomorrow morning. So not only is my night away cancelled, so is our little staycation at the start of November. I’m gutted

Do it do it do it

Do it

That’s rubbish!! I’d be gutted too.