You know, I sometimes hear it said that women save their worst behaviour for other women and this is proof of what hateful bitches we are. There may be some truth to this (emphasis on the "may"...I think this is something of an oversimplification, and you might like to ask yourself what's likely to become of a woman who isn't nice to a man). But if it's true, it's sure as fuck just as true that men also save their worst behaviour for women.
But do we ask why everyone treats women badly? Do we hell. We instead castigate women as a class as WORSE than men. Even though it's pretty obvious that when it comes to exploitation and harm, women suffer far, far more from men at a class level than other women. Yes, I've had a shit bullying female boss too. And a shit bullying male one.
And when a man strays, we talk about how WOMEN have failed the "sisterhood". A stupid concept with no male equivalent that serves as another double standard against which women can be found wanting, and to make them responsible when a man acts like a shit. And when this gets a woman angry - and I won't deny it makes me very angry - I'm simply "projecting", from some unspecified "struck nerve". Because I couldn't possibly have any legitimate reason to be angered by this.
I'm a girls' girl, so yes, I object to being told what a cow I am because of what a MAN did. It's insulting to me and to my female friends who work towards support in body positivity, support in motherhood, community cohesion (which has been invaluable in the pandemic - the people doing shopping and errands for isolating people in my area have mostly been women), mental health, eating disorders and all the rest of it. It's actually even insulting to those women who really do dislike other women. Although I still think they're usually trying to escape the effects of misogyny by distancing themselves rather than actually really inherently hating female people.
And because I know someone's thinking it: no, disagreeing robustly with a woman about her internalised misogyny does not make me myself a woman hater. But it's handy that the concept exists to be used that way, isn't it?