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To think its ok to send my ironing out?

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elliemac · 13/10/2007 21:45

Have discovered this fab ironing lady just down the road from me but DH keeps moaning that i'm sending it out all the time. Its just such a relief to bung it in a bag and have it all come back nicely pressed. Am a SAHM so should i be making time to do it myself?

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minesalargeone · 23/10/2007 16:45

I'm at home and if I could afford it I would send my ironing out and get a cleaner in...who wouldn't?!

Kewcumber · 23/10/2007 16:52

I think it is outrageous that SAHM's send thier ironing out. In fact I think they should refrain from using a washing machine or a dishwasher, should make their own clothes and do all meals from scratch with vegetables they grow themselves and using eggs from the chickens in the garden.

SAHM's are meant to suffer, ironing is your penance for being allowed to look after your DC's full time. All this frippery will indeed spoil you unlike us WOHM who are not intended to suffer and thereofre are allowed to send our ironing out. Except me, I just go to work creased in solidarity with my SAHM sisters.

iamasurvivor · 23/10/2007 16:53

i have sent my ironing out lots of times, i dont get to go out much these days so for me its money well spent, especially if it means i dont have to do it on my days off, sometimes my dh even pays for it

Kewcumber · 23/10/2007 16:54

your poor DH!

ssd · 23/10/2007 16:59

very droll kewcumber

beeper · 23/10/2007 17:05

lol kewcumber.

Oh this SAHM is also Stay at home teacher to boy of 9yrs. Try ironing while you are explaining the digestion of a great white shark!!!!!

And IMHO....I grew up poor and had to do all my mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers ironing. While my mother worked and I looked after her other children.

I am overdue a break....anyway ive just done some so there lol

peacelily · 23/10/2007 17:17

My MiL cleaned for us for a while when I was pregnant with dd (she offered to I might add).

We paid her £25 a week PLUS train fare back to Yorkshire PLUS an evening meal, sometimes eating out cos she didn't like any of my "funny organic veggie stuff" (!).

When I was sat in the bath in those last few weeks like a beached whale I used to nearly cry looking at the horrible mildew stains and gruby florr cos she lietrally just "gave everything a wipe". I'd then have to lumber about doing it all over again!! After this experienec it put me off cleaners cos I know how hard it is to find a good one.

Too skint now cos of job change so I'm a working Mum who splits the chores equally between me and dh (in theory!). Maybe could economise in other areas but I'd rather have the organic veggies and the odd curry out.

As for ironing tho if it's important to you and you can afford it SAHM or not go for the paid option!! It's THE most onerous household task around. It's not an issue for us, leave dh to his own devices for shirts and stuff and I wear "smart casual" work clothes with a high lycra content so the creases just strech out of them

Irined bed clothes not important to us, did attemot to iron a sheet once but regretted it 2 minutes in what a ball ache! If I had to have smarter stuff for work I'd find a way of economising somewhere to have an ironing person and pay for it myself, lifes too too short to iron.

Similarly if dh wants iroend shirts he can arrange it and pay for them himself.

Sorry gone on a bit as usual

morningglory · 23/10/2007 18:14

ssd: you must the woman who accosted me on the bus the other day to chastise me on the size of my engagement ring, and was outraged that I would wear it out in public.

Honestly, don't understand some of the attitudes in this country when it comes to money. If you have it, you musn't enjoy it or use it to make life comfortable or convenient...no, you must self flaggelate yourself and continuously punish and deprive yourself just because you dare earn more than you need to get by.

minesalargeone · 23/10/2007 18:57

I'd like to know what ssd means by 'spoilt'...or is it envy on her part?

The way I see it if you've got money you bloody well spend it how you like and if you choose to employ someone to clean and iron then good for you!! And if you happen to be a SAHM then, hey, good for you on that too!!!

I've got mates who are SAHM's and well off but I see them for who they are - my mates - yeah I'd love to live like them but I don't and that's my look-out. But they're my mates and money doesn't come into my friendship with them.

RoyKinnear · 23/10/2007 19:01

i have two overflowing blue ikea bags every week - any guesses how much? family of 7?

minesalargeone · 23/10/2007 19:02

Ikea bags? I'm a Lidl kinda girl myself....

RoyKinnear · 23/10/2007 19:03

those big blue ones!

minesalargeone · 23/10/2007 19:08

Oh what the bin liner sort of size bag?!

minesalargeone · 23/10/2007 19:10

My ironing pile lives in the airing cupboard and every time I run into the cupboard for a loo roll (cos no-one in this house ever replaces the empty cardboard inner on the loo roll holder....) my ironing pile falls down, knocks me out, I recover some minutes later and crawl back to the bathroom, with my legs crossed and hope to christ I make it in time.....

BroccoliSpears · 23/10/2007 19:27

God, I would if we could afford it.

I really enjoy ironing the things that don't need to be ironed - dd's clothes and the tea towels and dp's handkerchiefs. I hate hate hate ironing dp's shirts or the bed linen or my skirts. So I usually end up feeling all virtuous for having ironed for an hour, only for us to still go out looking like crumpled heaps.

beeper · 23/10/2007 19:44

minesalargeone.

If I was rich enough I would employ someone just to change the bog roll.

pigletmaker · 23/10/2007 19:48

Sounds fantastic.

I have a cleaner who irons DH's work shirts and does a great job of it too.

minesalargeone · 23/10/2007 19:57

Guess I'm not the only one who runs to the loo, desperately holding on and finally sits down with a huge sigh of relief only to find there's no damn loo roll? And then just a few seconds later there's a huge great groan at the door followed by ....'but Mum I need the loo too...NOW'.!!

ssd · 23/10/2007 20:50

yeah, minesalargeone, part of my problem is envy, you're right

and no I didn't accost you on the bus morninglory!

I know I come across as bitter and I am, it's something I have to work on

but as usual on mn there is more to my story than whats written here

RoyKinnear · 23/10/2007 20:51

i pay 6 for two blue overflowing ikea bags each week!

pigletmaker · 23/10/2007 21:01

having said that our cleaner does my DH's shirts, I actually LIKE ironing. Its relaxing and satisfying at the same time. It maybe that this is purely a consequence of living without an iron until the age of 30.

But I'm currently 33 wks preg with a 13 month old tearaway to catch up with. Its not an option for me at the moment.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 23/10/2007 21:17

I work 20 hours a week, I have a cleaner, an ironing lady and a dog walker.My DH does all the cooking and will frequently do the Sainsburys/Waitrose shop. I am lucky, I know I am. But equally I run the finances, I run the social calendar.... and so on and so forth......

SSD I am not aware of what is behind your name, but as it appears on its own your comments are chippy. IMO

ssd · 23/10/2007 21:37

Bree i know I come across as chippy, did you not read my last post?

your comments appear to me as boastful.IMO

pigletmaker · 23/10/2007 22:06

I love the fact you've called yourself Bree.

They're not boastful, but maybe a little competitive...? Which is OK. I see a lot of that here.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 23/10/2007 22:36

It is not boastful...it is a statement of fact.

Should I apologise for the fact that I am lucky ??

Should I not mention it ??

FGS