Dh flashy twat

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I'm not being unreasonable it's annoying I just wanted a rant and didn't no where to put it.
Dh loves designer gear just because well it's designer. Like we may need a new fridge but he doesn't want to buy that and will buy Hugo boss trainers for the same price. His socks had holes in yesterday I went ooo nearly Christmas il get you some socks joking around. With a straight face he turned around and said I don't want socks but my Ralph Lauren aftershave is running out 😑 I like nice things but I would happily buy a whole outfit with no holes then buy one item because it has a label

Dh obviously owns more than one pair of socks 🤣trying to make my point like he doesn't care about certain things looking crap but likes to pretend he is flash with designer labels

Your dh is a marketing man/woman's dream.

so he stinks of aftershave, but if he has to take his shoes off, his toes are poking through his socks?
Nice

Is he a very insecure person?

@Rotundandhappy - yes, it's caused by lack of blood circulation to his toes

OP when did you find this out? Before or after you married him?

Like we may need a new fridge but he doesn't want to buy that and will buy Hugo boss trainers for the same price.

And you're still with him?

No way on Gods green earth would I tolerate a situation where we need a fridge & he buys himself trainers.
Self absorbed, self centred, selfish, man child utter cock.
He would need to sort this out IMMEDIATELY or go.
My utter contempt and lack of respect for an individual like this would not make for a healthy relationship.

Is it that he doesn't WANT to buy a fridge or that he WON'T?
I'm sure most of us would prefer to be able to buy something we want rather than have to replace an appliance.. I've just spent £300 on a Lumea Prestige and I was excited to get it, I'd spend the same on a fridge but wouldn't exactly get enjoyment out of it. Just something we have to do as adults.

Very different if he's refusing to buy a fridge and spending money earmarked for that fridge on trainers though.

• Is it that he doesn't WANT to buy a fridge or that he WON'T? I'm sure most of us would prefer to be able to buy something we want rather than have to replace an appliance.*

Of course. But adults buy what's needed not just stuff 'because they want it'.

I'd have left ages ago or not married him in the first place.

Can you see how selfish he is to put his clothing before the need for a new fridge?

Sorry but he sounds a complete dickhead.

Yes, but the OP hasn't said her husband is refusing to buy a fridge.
OP has only said he doesn't want to, this doesn't mean he isn't going to? I have a whinge every time I have to buy a new hoover because I get absolutely no joy from it. Its a boring purchase, they're expensive, but I still buy one.

You're right OP - he is a twat.

Like we may need a new fridge but he doesn't want to buy that and will buy Hugo boss trainers for the same price

That doesn't read like he's refusing to buy the fridge, though, just that he doesn't want to. Maybe he doesn't think you need a new fridge?

I think this is a sign of insecurity, he wants to look like he is something he is not, he clearly cannot afford designer clothing if he cannot but it and a new fridge at the same time, its a bit sad and pathetic to be honest.

My DH is like that. It’s insecurity. It seems a dreadful waste of money to me but I’m sure he thinks that a lot of what I buy is wasted money.

One important difference between my DH and the OP’s is that my DH doesn’t spend money we can’t afford in these luxury goods. The household bills and savings are always taken care of before either of us embark on discretionary spending.

I would say insecurity as well. I have a friend who keeps going on about his new Mercedes and how he's made it. He hasn't, it's a company car and he lives in a rented flat as he could never get a mortgage as he's always in debt buying designer crap he can't afford.

LTB !!!

Can you photoshop a few fridges with designer labels on and ask him which one he's buying?

I couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone who had such different views to money than me. Maybe talk to you DH about a 5 or 10 year plan and see how they differ and what you need to prioritise to get there.

It's not insecurity, it's self-absorbed posturing.

If he works hard, as long as you’re not going without or paying for them, I don’t see the problem.
To me it seems not too dissimilar to a woman buying a designer handbag, or fancy lipstick as a treat for working hard in her job ? Obviously a generalisation - I understand that not everyone is into those things.

He's a fool. Lacking in any self respect and thinking labels will earn it for him. They won't. He'll still be a prat.

I couldn't/wouldn't live with him.

Fill his empty aftershave bottle with Aldi's own brand...
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