To think this is a total fucking dick move?

[FairfaxAikman]

Toddler spilled juice on our bed, soaking the duvet and mattress protector.

Both too big for our washing machine so I popped it in the car and headed down to our local supermarket where there's a big automated washer and dryer in the car park.

Shove my stuff through the washer (it fills the 18kg drum completely) and as the timer counts down I'm getting ready to shove it in the dryer.

With the big neon timer showing just two bloody minutes of my wash cycle left, an arsehole of a woman swings her car into the spot next to mine and empties a tiny bag of washing (enough for a standard home tumble dryer or to put on a single aired) into the dryer, sets it to half an hour and waltzes off to the supermarket.

The dryer and washer are a single unit so there's no way she missed my timer showing only two minutes or the fact it was full of bulky bedding.

I have no other way of drying my duvet and mattress protector, which I need dried so I can sleep on tonight.

AIBU to think that was a total dick move on her part?

Maybe no drinks in the bedroom 😜

@Teddybear27

Wow, did you read the OP? Duvets don’t fit in standard machines. And your response was really unnecessary.

Op, I agree it’s a little annoying but she probably didn’t even notice you there, people can be very blinkered, I expect she just pulled and thought great, the dryer is free.

YABU
The dryer was free so she used it.

YABU it is annoying to you, but sorry not wrong of her to use the empty drier.

Why bother posting here at all? Almost every reply says yes you are being unreasonable. No it was not a dick move. You sound entitled. But you are adamant it was a dick move and think you've a right to be annoyed at her. What's the point in asking if you won't change your views at all? I find it so frustrating when MNetters are like this.

OP - trust me, almost everyone on here, had they been in your shoes would have considered it a dick move.
But you had the temerity to come and post your annoyance on this hallowed forum.

What's the point in asking if you won't change your views at all? I find it so frustrating when MNetters are like this.

Haha, it’s only a chat forum
I and a few others happen to agree with OP, I haven’t changed my mind just because the majority don’t also agree 🤷‍♀️

Did you assume she was taking notice of your washing and the machine flashing? Irrespective of who should wait 30mins and that she was there first, she may we’ll have come with the purpose of using the dryer while she shopped and just been looking at the dryer, saw it was empty and used it. Not everyone is interested in what you are doing. They have their own life and concerns.

@DagenhamRoundhouse

I've never heard of a supermarket having a washer and dryer in its car park!

Ha! Love your sarcasm 🤣

@RandomLondoner

There's no such thing as a "Scottish accent" in the same way as there's no such thing as a British accent.

If you are trying to say that no-one in Britain or Scotland has an accent of any kind, you are using words correctly, to make a factually incorrect statement.

I suspect what's going on is that you don't know how the word "a" works. If there are (for example) 100 different Scottish accents, then there is such a thing as "a Scottish accent". Any one of the 100 is "a Scottish accent."

No. I know that, despite being born and bred etc in Scotland, I don't have the same accent as someone from Glasgow or Dundee or Aberdeen or Fife or many other places. I don't expect Liverpudlians to sound like Cockneys. It's the same.

@RandomLondoner

There's no such thing as a "Scottish accent" in the same way as there's no such thing as a British accent.

If you are trying to say that no-one in Britain or Scotland has an accent of any kind, you are using words correctly, to make a factually incorrect statement.

I suspect what's going on is that you don't know how the word "a" works. If there are (for example) 100 different Scottish accents, then there is such a thing as "a Scottish accent". Any one of the 100 is "a Scottish accent."

Or perhaps if you could use your apparently deliberately obtuse mind to change my original sentence to "no generic Scottish accent" then that would allow you to read into the sentiment behind the comment correctly. Correct comprehension is fabulous.

YABU

Why should she wait 30 minutes instead of you?

I hardly ever post but this thread has made me rage and I'm ashamed to say I've risen to the bait a number of times (and none of them to do with the OP or the original AIBU)!

The comments and the attitudes and the disdain and the disbelief from posters absolutely sum Mumsnet up at it's absolute worst.

YABU

"Entitled" is so overused these days. And is especially tiresome when thrown around by the "do as I say but not as I do" brigade.

She probably didn't even notice the 2 minutes left on your timer. People are mostly unconscious today. I don't think it was personal. If you pile your duvet on top of the hub thing of your home washing machine you won't get an unbalanced signal. Laundromats are icky places. You never know what disgusting thing has been in that washer before you plus they are a RIP off.

You had to wait 30 mins - boo hoo. Sorry but thinking you are more entitled than her is a pretty dick move.

Duvets take forever to dry and the other woman would have been waiting over an hour. Just because yours is nearly finished doesn't give you dibs - hers was ready to dry and drier was free so she gets it. Annoying for you yes but brilliant timing for her.

Also - if her load is small enough for a home drier but she is using one in a car park, have a think - maybe she doesn't have a drier! Maybe she can't afford one, maybe it's broken - maybe that's her work clothes she needs to start work tonight.... There is more to this world than your needs.

There’s a washing machine and dryer in your supermarket carpark?? misses point

I'm actually starting to think some of the posters the ones who clearly haven't RTFT are bigger dicks than the original woman 🙄

I was amazed this weekend to see one of these mini launderettes has opened in the all night garage near us! Never heard of them before

An unmanned machine? It'd get pissed in round ere 😂. Or some knob would fill it full of condoms for giggles.

Yabu

I appreciate the general consensus that OP was being unreasonable. However I think the fact that she was clearly already in the vicinity of the machines using the washing machine meant that she was at the front of the queue for the dryer. She was there first and perhaps a ‘politer’ individual would have recognised this and even queried whether they could jump in. I think we all know that the other lady seized an opportunity to use the dryer first as it wasn’t currently in use. But that OP had already waited the wash cycle to be able to use the dryer and had her 1 hr plan changed to a 1h and a half plan, so was inconvenienced and is entitled to feel cheated on some levels.

I'm pretty sure I'd have been delighted to grab the dryer before op took it over. She had tons to do and if I just had a small amount I'd have thought "oh no, I'm going to be here forever, waiting". I don't think it's jumping the queue and sure, it's a dick move from op's point of view, but at the same time, if you've got loads and someone else would be done quicker, it's a bit of a dick move to hog the equipment. Like not letting someone with a couple of items go before you when you've got a massive trolley full of shopping.

@category12 if you actually read my subsequent posts you'd see that actually I would have taken no longer than her. This thing is a big industrial drum and does a duvet in half an hour.