What makes someone look rich / wealthy?

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Piggy backing onto the LV bag thread - so many responses saying you can tell if the bag is fake / real depending on the persons hair and general look.

I've really noticed this where I live during lockdown - even though we're all predominantly in scruffy clothes / gym gear (just me?!) you can just tell some people look 'rich' - for lack of a better word.

What is it? It's like an unspoken code or something.

What happens when new money moves in on old money and appropriates their culture - my guess - money moves on, they aren't quite so resilient...How many UC people stick around to defend Burberry - it's a tarnished brand - rats leaving a sinking ship. Who wears Hunter wellies now? They used to be a posh brand, apart from being crap they are worn by [gasp] townies - surely they have lost all their credibility. Barbour are everywhere - hardly posh - how do you distinguish yourself anymore - it hardly seems fair!😂

No @Iamthewombat because you've attributed to me statements that I haven't made. So I don't get your point.

I repeat, the private school girls in the main have softer features. I'm the state school girl. I don't give a damn that my features may be hard. It's not a stain on my character or my worth. It's just a fact.

For me outwardly it's good hair, perfect nails and expensive looking jewellery on a Woman (my rings are all sterling silver, my roots almost always need doing and there's no point me getting my nails done, I work behind a bar to top up my income ).

On a man it's most often his watch.

No hard and fast rules but in years of hospitality work I've found that generally it's those that have next to no money or conversely a fuckton of money that are the nicest to service staff.

The ones in the middle that only think they're well off are the worst behaved, in my experience.

very slim with great shaped long lean legs, thick swishy hair

that's more 'young-ish wives of rich men' look. Plenty of wealthy women are not slim and would never dream of going to Pilates, if they are country types who like gardening at their big manor, they dont always have glossy/swishy hair.
Many townie 'old money' women are not bothered with salon visits much - a good haircut but hair type is soething you aer born withm can be often too fine.
The try hard grooming and gym/pilates brigade is new money - so not one rule, and een within these two types, people are not identikit.

Overall wealthhy look though, is confidence, and most of all a relaxed, unrushed attitude, usually not stressed out though obviously anyone can suffer from ill health / stressful events, but it's not like a habitual look of stress many middle / woking - class people have who ar on average or lower income.

I couldn’t read through the whole thread (it’s too long!)... I’m not British but a lot of what I’ve read seems like a cross between what “wannabe”/magazine looks tell us is rich (ie the SUPER rich (which in my view is tacky sometimes, though give me a Lamborghini and I wouldn’t say no!)).
I think it’s different to mean how does one look well groomed or rich.
Because of my education rather than (extremely poor) background I’ve spent a lot of time around very old money, upper middle class etc. They are often quite scruffy, animals everywhere etc. The upper middle classes try the hardest I think (married into it, hate it!!).
I’m still my self, no matter what, EBay clothes and dreadful language and music taste. They are captivated and horrified by my differences in equal measure 😂

I'm not sure. All I know is I am not one of them From solid peasant stock.

You can't always tell. The one person I know very sure of that he's a millionaire, looks very scruffy. He doesn't give a toss about the way he looks at all. His wife usually looks naice but no Louis Vuitton, Prada etc. more the Ted Baker, Whistles etc. type.

From what I know they're not interested to impress anybody with looks or labels, because they're very confident and don't feel the need to show their wealth. Their home on the other hand is like a dream and screams money plus good taste. But you can't tell when you look at them and if you could, they'd probably be mortified because from what I know they think (not my opinion, theirs!) that it's rather vulgar to show off how rich you are to any stranger that sees you on the street.

I repeat, the private school girls in the main have softer features. I'm the state school girl. I don't give a damn that my features may be hard. It's not a stain on my character or my worth. It's just a fact.

That you have decided that state schools girls have “harder features” than girls attending private school does not make it fact. Learn to distinguish between fact and opinion.

That you yourself went to a state school is neither here nor there. Nor is your own appearance.

You must see that opining that poorer people are uglier than richer people makes you look ridiculous.

Yeh this is such a nonsense! Harder features 😑🤔

Of course @Iamthewombat, everything is subjective. And in my subjective opinion the private school girls generally have softer features. You can think I'm ridiculous all want, makes no difference to me or my opinion.

As a fully paid up member of the aristocracy (married to slightly newer money by about 200 years) can I just check that I'm doing MN wealthy right....

So, do I need to be well dressed or pulled through a hedge backwards?

I've already failed totally on the slim and leggy front - but as mentioned up thread that's generally a sign of old rich men pulling young model types.

Hair is ok most of the time, but as my mother was half Nigerian I can't claim it meets the levels of straight swishiness needed.

Jewellery- hmm, don't have an engagement ring (but getting one for our wedding anniversary yay) and wedding ring just standard gold ring that probably came from Argos joke - it was his grandmothers

Guess I'm just a normal human being after all.....like the vast, vast majority of people of all classes.....but keep the batshit coming.

Have you got an old Volvo covered in dog hair, SecretSPAD? Do you help out with delivering papers in adverse weather conditions? Are you popular with personal shoppers despite very seldom buying new clothes? Only then can you claim that you are doing rich right.

everything is subjective. And in my subjective opinion the private school girls generally have softer features.

Then don’t claim that it’s a fact, as you did upthread.

You can think I'm ridiculous all want

Thanks, I will.

So many over generalisations...

Household income is in top 2% nationally - so presumably considered 'wealthy'.

I am not "gym slim" - I am noticeably overweight. I'm not groomed. Get my haircut about three times per year. Mostly wear leggings and baggy tops. Just never been one to care a fig about appearance.

You’re in a double bind there, Limitisup. If you decided to care a fig about your appearance (which is your prerogative), you’d be derided on here for being vulgar and wanting everyone to see that you have money etc etc. Unless your family are in Debrett’s of course. Then it would be OK.

I used to take my dc to an after school activity and a footballers wife (not a household name or a British one by the way) used to take her kids too. She was always dressed down, trainers, leggings, puffer jacket, like all the other mums...but, every item she wore just looked so expensive and such good quality. Her skin was amazing, her hair and nails always looked perfect. She was just so polished.

Have you got an old Volvo covered in dog hair, SecretSPAD? Do you help out with delivering papers in adverse weather conditions? Are you popular with personal shoppers despite very seldom buying new clothes? Only then can you claim that you are doing rich right.

No Volvo but instead a shiny, sexy Audi.
I have a retriever - everything in my world is covered in dog's hair 😂
Delivering papers? Does picking up the Guardian from the supermarket for my dad count?
I've never met a personal shopper.....but very excited that we're renewing our wedding vows next year so I get to go wedding dress shopping

I'm not doing rich right.

I've definitely got soft features though that might be the double chin

Nah, you are not doing rich right. Happily, it doesn’t sound as if you care!!

This is a weird thread. I mean what even is looking expensive? You’d look expensive if you were dressed head to tow in obviously expensive items i.e. clearly designer, logo all over the place.

Now of course, MNetters will say but that doesn’t show class or style. Then it moves onto MNs obsession with class and what defines class. There was a long thread on here the other day on what the upper class are like as the OP married someone who was but didn’t fit in with his friends. Again, everyone defining what they reckon class is and “new money” vs “old money”. Most people on MN think that old money and upper class are amazing and down to earth, don’t have to prove themselves. It’s the horrid new money that have had to work for their money that feel the need to show off.
I am neither by the way but MN does
Seem class obsessed.

What makes sense to me is asking is how one looks groomed/polished rather than expensive.

Sorry, was meant to say rich/wealthy looking

The mn cliche of a scruffy toff with a volvo covered in dog hair and wearing 30 year old shoes always strikes me as someone who is probably asset rich but cash poor.

But ‘‘twas ever thus about the old vs new money thing. You only have to read a few old books to grasp immediately some people’s distaste at “new” money acquired from trade.

Imagine all those country houses built on the back of successful mills etc. Nowadays we might think, “Ooh, a lovely Palladian stately home,” but at the time those sitting in their Elizabethan manor houses were turning their noses up at such vulgar displays of wealth.

New money looks far more fun than old money.

Splurging on clothes and holidays- yes!
Worrying about the west wing collapsing and only living in one room of your stately pile - no thanks.