to want someone to be excited

[pregnantanon]

So I'm currently 19, single and pregnant which although it was a big shock at first, it is what it is and I'm now happy to be having a baby. But, not a single person has had anything nice to say, I've not had a single congrats or anything and actually had a few people straight up say sorry :(

I just don't understand why everyone sees the baby as such a negative thing, especially as I've made it clear that I'm excited. I just wish I someone would share the excitement with me :(

Congratulations! I don't think it's much of a hinderance to have your children young, and people I know who have are always glad of it. My mum was 20 when she had me, and I like being so close in age to her.

Congrats! What’s your due date?

I don't think you're being unreasonable, but neither are they.

And I'm sorry that I can't offer you the excitement and congratulations you're looking for. Maybe someone else on here can. Good luck x

I'm sorry that you aren't getting the reaction that you're looking for, OP. In all honesty, I think most people would probably assume that a pregnancy in your situation (19, single) wasn't planned, but they should be sensitive in how they respond. Are you making it clear to people that you're happy about the pregnancy when you tell them?

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Congrats! What’s your due date?

thank you! due febuary 5th :)

I would have thought that most people would think a single 19 year old had got pregnant unexpectedly and might think you weren’t over the moon about it.

I'm happy for you. Please share as much as you like. There are certainly advantages to having babies young.

Congratulations. I wish I could have started earlier as my lo who is a miracle looks like she will be my only. I’m 40 and didn’t start until my very late 20s. You will have loads of energy to run about after them and lots of time to plan more and it will be fantastic I’m sure x

congrats, if you are happy that's great and the neggies can jog along and pee on someone elses fireworks.

Congratulations! I’m happy for both of you - if I could do it all again i would have had my children younger. I waited until I was financially settled, married, great career, early 30s and I honestly wish I’d had kids 10 years younger. I love being a mother and If I could I’d have 2/3 more but I’m 40 now so may not happen.

If my daughter came to me at 19, single & pregnant I’d support her.

I also know the feeling - when I was pregnant on DD no one was excited for us. We already had a very sick child and I think they thought we were taking on too much. I remember their confused, fake smiles - it does hurt.

Good luck

I see you say that you’re “now” happy. So you weren’t at first either. Try not to judge others for feeling the same way as you did. They should, however, be polite and congratulate you if you’re presenting it as positive news - but if it seems a bit fake, then as I say - remember that you needed time yourself.

Just like you, people in your life will come round to being excited for you!

Congratulations. I had my first baby at 18. It's much easier when you are younger, fitter and have more energy.

If you're happy then I think it's fantastic news and congratulations

Massive congratulations OP!

Hope the pregnancy is healthy and easy 🎉

Its not necessarily personal OP. Some people just aren’t excited by other people’s pregnancies regardless of circumstances. I never wanted biological children of my own so I don’t get that woo hoo feeling either.

Congratulations to you OP. I'm happy for you! People are miserable bastards.

Had DD1 at 19. Initially, my parents struggled to be excited about it (as did DH and I) because it wasn’t what I had planned and I was mid-degree. After my scan, they became really excited and both absolutely adore DD. I’ve just had DD2 (I’m 26 now) and they were really excited from the beginning.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. It will be hard but so worth it.

Congratulations! I was just having a daydream about what it would be like if I'd had my little boy when I was younger as I'm getting all sorts of joint problems and mobility issues (I'm late 30s and he's 3) and can't keep up with him at the moment! I think there are loads of reasons this is a good thing! I'm sorry people aren't more excited with you. Tell those close to you how you're feeling if you can.

Congrats!

Massive congratulations . As a young mum you will have loads more energy and cope with sleepless nights more easily. Once the baby arrives, people will cluck over you and him or her.

So I'm currently 19, single and pregnant

You’ve made life very hard for yourself OP. The reactions you’ve been receiving are justified.

Please stop with the younger parents are so much fitter blah blah.

Parents in their 30’s and 40’s generally have better education, homes and resources. I had my last child at 42 and never felt better.

Congratulations, Op. I hope you have some rl people to love and support you through this pregnancy.💐

I would straight up call them out on their shitty behaviour. Especially if they say sorry. It would be "I think you mean congratulations!"

What a bunch of twits.

Congrats from me!

Most people would not consider your circumstances ideal. But if you are happy they should be happy for you.

Congratulations OP

My mum was 19 when she had me (waaaay back in the 70s so she married my dad not too long beforehand). I didn't appreciate it at the time but having a young mum was brilliant and when I hit teenagerhood all my friends with older parents really envied me and used her for advice all the bloody time

It is more unusual now to have a child so young, but don't let the judgy tribe take the shine off such a special time