to want someone to be excited

[pregnantanon]

So I'm currently 19, single and pregnant which although it was a big shock at first, it is what it is and I'm now happy to be having a baby. But, not a single person has had anything nice to say, I've not had a single congrats or anything and actually had a few people straight up say sorry :(

I just don't understand why everyone sees the baby as such a negative thing, especially as I've made it clear that I'm excited. I just wish I someone would share the excitement with me :(

Congratulations!

Something to keep in mind is that when you are pregnant, or have a child, people feel more free than ever to have loud opinions about your life.

You can be too young, too old, too many kids already, not at the right point of your career, not in the house they think you should be, not have the car etc etc.

It will then move on to your bump being too big or too small, sitting high or low, you eating right or not, being active enough or not, doing things you "shouldn't" (which can be as minor as going for a walk up a medium size hill), and not doing things exactly the way people think you should.

Then when your baby is born people will have opinions on how they're fed, when/how/where they sleep and it doesn't stop there.

When it comes to pregnant women the filter where people think things and then just say something polite is very often missing.

Ignore the negativity. Some people just think because your not doing it their way your doing it the wrong way and become very bitchy and opinionated on the subject. People on here will tell you the right time to have a baby is when your 34 1/2, married, you own a house, you can afford private school etc. congratulations on the baby. I’m sure you’ll do your absolute best by your baby!

The reality is that having a baby when your 19, and single, is far from ideal. You will face hurdles in your life you wouldn't have if you were older and more settled before having a baby. So I'm not surprised people aren't jumping for joy at your news. It doesn't mean they won't be happy for you, it just means they realistically know it's not going to be easy and are probably, justifably, concerned. I would support my pregnant 19 year old, and love my grandkid, I wouldn't be happy at the situation though

Congratulations! That must be really frustrating. I'm sure once the baby is here you will get more excitement off people but it's lovely to have something positive going on in your life so enjoy!

Oh come on, RosieGirl27, people on here haven't been 'bitchy'; where is the negativity? If OP is a big enough woman to come on to a chatboard asking for views then she's big enough to accept them.

Not falling over with gushiness isn't being bitchy. I would be concerned if it were my daughter and I would help her in any way I could. I hope that the OP has people in her corner who will help her.

Posting 'likes' and cheerleading on a chatboard doesn't mean much in real life. Are you going to be there for her?

Congratulations, I hope all goes smoothly for you. Its such an exciting time. I hope you find people to share your excitement.

My best pal at school had her first at 16. I had mine 15 years later. There were times when she was envious of my freedom when she was at home with a baby and toddler and I was off doing whatever, there were times when I was envious of her for having a home and a family when I was on my own and wondering what to do with myself every weekend. When mine were babies hers were teens, I wished mine were teens and sleeping 14 hours a day, she wished hers were babies again. Swings and roundabouts. There are good and bad things about having babies at any age, young or old.
Don't let anyone burst your bubble, be happy and let the miserable people walk right on by.