AIBU to be annoyed at people saying I'm buying too much for my baby

[peonyrose87]

I sent my family a picture of some baby clothes I've bought, literally 6 sleep suits, maybe a dozen vests, a snow suit and two hats.

They're all saying I've bought too much and to slow down, that other people will buy me things, and I'll end up with two much.

The things I've bought are all newborn/first size, so are for the hospital bag and the first few weeks. And I've really not bought a lot? I'm 21 weeks so still have a long time to go obviously but if I see something and like it I pick it up.

We live three hours away from family and I don't like relying on getting things for other people so why is it unreasonable to make sure my baby has clothes?

Congratulations and no YANBU, but as others have said, everyone will give you advice on what to do whether you want or not. Just smile, tell them you disagree and enjoy your baby when s/he gets here... I was living in the North East of Scotland when my first was born, definitely need a snow suit

Ds was a September baby in Yorkshire i never thought a snow suit was needed, its up to you what you buy, we just had some vests and baby grows (all in one clip ones) we were given clothes as presents and not sure what size he was going to be when he was born

@AintOverUntilTheCatLadySings

Probably quite sensible to buy those things as it might get harder to buy bits with another lockdown

That's a good point.

Other people really don't need to know what you've bought.

YANBU!! Ridiculous people. Keep sharing to a minimum?

@jessstan1 @neighbourhoodwitch absolutely
they don't need to know, I was just excited to share 😂 will keep it to myself from now on

Just ignore them. What you have is right for a newborn. They sick over everything anyway, so you need plenty of clothes!

@Jent13c I think people underestimate how cold it is up here 😂 I had a woolly hat on in June and my friends in Glasgow were horrified 😂

[quote peonyrose87]@AintOverUntilTheCatLadySings that's what I thought! I know people were struggling to get the tiny clothes during lockdown[/quote]
Even secondhand bundles were hard to get in the last lockdown. And boy/unisex stuff was even harder to get in the shops (before people get on me about gendered clothing - no, I wouldn't buy a boy brand new pink dresses to wear by choice. Down to you if you would).

Some babies don't even wear newborn but go straight 0-3 and you do get given alot. That said it can be fun shopping for you baby's stuff and if you enjoy it why not treat yourself to a few bits.

It’s possible they didn’t mean the amount of stuff you’ve bought but more like ‘slow down - you’re only 20 weeks!’. Some people are very superstitious and I know lots of people who don’t buy anything for the baby until much later in the pregnancy. Obviously it’s totally personal choice though and there was no real need for them to comment regardless.

There were a few things that my first baby didn’t wear owing to the size and season or to gifts. The second baby used all of those, and it was nice to have some new things for him.
So if you think you might have a second, another reason to stock up.

My son was born on a snowy January day. I regretted buying snowsuits! It was a faff getting a newborn into and out of one, and he hated how it immobilized him. It worked better for us to layer up & use blankets!

YANBU. Crack on: your baby, your money, your business!
Tons of ppl told me the same and granted, we did get some lovely outfits as presents but we still needed basics like vests, sleepsuits etc. So many of the gifts were either too big or not really my style as well.

Agree with PP that this is just the start of the unwanted opinions from every person you know about every aspect of your parenting. Get used to it - mostly people are trying to be helpful. Welcome to motherhood!

@DappledThings tell that to my four month old baby 🙄

You’re just proving the point a PP made about know-it-alls.

From personal experience it's not how much but what size. My newborn skipped newborn clothes as she was on the large size. We had loads of stuff that wouldn't even fit her and DP had to go out and buy bigger stuff whilst we were in hospital 🤣

[quote Wibblypiggly]@DappledThings tell that to my four month old baby 🙄

You’re just proving the point a PP made about know-it-alls.[/quote]
I know! Happy to prove a point 😅

Seems fine to me
Two observations I have on the stuff other people bought for my babies -mainly they bought 0-3 months or even 3-6 months. My babies were small so it was too big initially. And secondly I didn't like some of it so never dressed them in it anyway.

And incidentally, I wasn’t given anything much, just a couple of outfits for 6-9 months. Maybe because he was born in lockdown, I don’t know. Enjoy it, it’s good fun, it’s your money and it’s your baby.

I would take 6 sleepsuits and vests in the hospital bag in a range of sizes, other people will say you only need one you don't know if you'll get a puker or not OP, best to be prepared my dd1 swallowed meconium and was copiously sick the first day I went through everything in my bag pretty quickly and had to get extras brought in. Also I found that people bought outfits rather than practical items like sleepsuits/vests/blankets/sleeping bags/Muslins so you'll still need those.

Buy a morrck blanket for your car seat for bringing the baby home! These blankets are the only crash tested blankets that you can add to your car seat and are a life saver! I see so many small baby in big snow suits in their seats and it always annoys me that information about the dangers of bulky coats and suits weren’t shared with the parents before the baby came along. Also, buy as much as you like, it’s your baby and I think that is one of the most exciting things of pregnancy, buying all the cute things!🙂

OP if I was having a baby now I am sure I would be sharing what I had bought on Social Media somewhere even if only to our closed family groups. Even 20+ years later I can remember the excitement of shopping then washing the items and folding them up and putting them in the room ready.
Mine wasn't the first baby of the family and I had learnt from my sister that not all babies come in the same size, so I had a range of sizes. The stuff she had that was far too small, my stuff in newborn and 0-3 months.
In this instance my mum was the best as she always waited until baby arrived then did a mad dash to the stores to but the correct sized sleepsuits etc.
However I am sure MIL would have been judgemental on what I had bought.

You can never buy enough sleep suits and vests!!

Ignore the moodhooverers

Get ready for LOTS more advice! Something about having a baby makes you the target for this. Some is good - some irritating- much conflicting.

The best advice I was given:
Take all advice gracefully... and simply save it for passing on to someone else :)

@Princessbanana thanks, the snowsuit isn't for the car but for walks.