AIBU to be annoyed at people saying I'm buying too much for my baby

[peonyrose87]

I sent my family a picture of some baby clothes I've bought, literally 6 sleep suits, maybe a dozen vests, a snow suit and two hats.

They're all saying I've bought too much and to slow down, that other people will buy me things, and I'll end up with two much.

The things I've bought are all newborn/first size, so are for the hospital bag and the first few weeks. And I've really not bought a lot? I'm 21 weeks so still have a long time to go obviously but if I see something and like it I pick it up.

We live three hours away from family and I don't like relying on getting things for other people so why is it unreasonable to make sure my baby has clothes?

mmm... we were given a huge amount, too. They have a good point there.
It's very easy to end up swimming in excess stuff when you have kids.
If you don't mind excess stuff, then just tell them that. That you love your stuff & more is better.

@ChristmasStocckings yes I'm not buying anymore newborn, I just wanted to have a few things incase needed! I'm a paediatric nurse so have dressed lots of babies and know what styles I prefer so I've bought those! Thank you though

Probably quite sensible to buy those things as it might get harder to buy bits with another lockdown

@Sawyersfishbiscuits

What's the difference between a pramsuit and a snowsuit?

Pramsuit = fleecy, warm and flexible. Still too thick for a car seat but could go in a sling.

Snowsuit = fleecy inside but additional waterproof layer. Much bulkier and can't go in a sling with it.

I bought absolutely loads and it gave me lots of pleasure when I was pregnant. I had the chest of drawers and wardrobe all
stocked and sorted by age and I loved doing it. You need a lot of vests and sleep suits anyway as they might need changed a few times a day at first. Probably too many teeny “proper” outfits is a bit of a waste but doesn’t sound like you’re doing that and anyway who cares if it makes you happy

I'm 33 weeks and have boxes waiting for our house move next week!! It helped having family who are 1year ahead and passed me loads. Whilst the ones you receive are lovely, it's great to but a few that are your own style and to know you have the basics covered. I didn't want to much pink, but mum has been gently steering people away from it.

@DappledThings

Snowsuits aren't any use till they are walking in my experience so I'd return that if you can.

As someone who had a 20 centile December baby I disagree. He wore his 0-3 month snowsuit until April.

@ChristmasStocckings

I would stop buying newborn size cause it’s a bit risky. My baby never fit into anything in that size. They also grow so quickly! I would also not stock up to much on any particular style until you work out what you both like. I thought she would spend most of her time in zip suits but I’ve actually been using the bodysuits and leggings the most

Depends on the size of the baby. Mine was smaller than expected so we had to then buy newborn stuff which was frustrating because I had birth injuries and so DH and I had to rely on others to buy stuff. It’s far, far better to be prepared

As someone who had a 20 centile December baby I disagree. He wore his 0-3 month snowsuit until April.

I did say "in my experience" in my first comment. I had 2 tiny, winter babies and never found a situation where a snowsuit, with a waterproof layer was of any use.

Yeah I had way more clothes than that and my lo wore all of it.

@AintOverUntilTheCatLadySings that's what I thought! I know people were struggling to get the tiny clothes during lockdown

@westendgirl780 that sounds so lovely!! It definitely such a happy thing buying outfits for them

My ds had an entire wardrobe of clothes by the time he was born became i was excited and loved buying him clothes. What's wrong with that? Buy all you want and ignore what other people say.

Not all.

People will offer advice but they will all have different experience. For instance my babies were too big for newborn and I’ve never used a snow suit because they can’t be used in car seats.

Prenatal shopping is one of the joys of a first baby! If you end up with too much just keep it for the next one or donate it to charity

This thread is funny. @Nottherealslimshady kinda hit the nail on the head very early on.

Then lots of different people with lots of different points of view on sizes, snowsuits etc.

OP, crack on and enjoy buying whatever you want for your baby!

I'm 16 weeks and have more stuff than that. IVF baby and we waited a long time for him. I'm enjoying this part.

Prom suits are not recommended for use in a sling.

Ignore them & do what you like Op, it sounds like you know what you’re doing. People love to point out everything they feel a new mother is doing wrong, it never ends.

I don't think they're being mean - you will be astonished by how much stuff you get. Everyone loves a baby, i got stuff from neighbours of my mum that I hadn't even met. It's really lovely.

But I also don't think you've bought loads and I agree, it's a really nice thing to go shopping for your bump.

So I'll mainly be over here on the fence, picking splinters out of my bum...

@LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett yeah I don't think they were being mean either. But just let me enjoy buying things for my baby 😂😂

YANBU, it annoys me too. I’m sure I have bought too much but it brings me joy to buy things, it’s my money, and there are plenty of babies coming up behind mine to pass it on to once I no longer need it. There’s no need for joyless fun suckers to smugly tell me it won’t all get used, or that I’ll only put my baby in onesies for 6 months, etc. Even if that’s true, what’s the benefit in them spoiling my enjoyment now?!

@Nottherealslimshady

You are going to be inundated with advice from people who know better your entire child rearing years. Grow a thick skin and if you can afford it then buy whatever the hell you want, it's your baby.

This is all that needs to be said.

Anyone who has ever given birth to another human becomes a complete expert in everything from painkillers to feeding when confronted by a primigravida..

Do what you feel is right... You probably will be inundated with clothes... and you don't yet know what size your baby will be.

He or she might be a big baby..a man we knew was 16lbs as a newborn. and set a local record for his hospital... Seems unreal. {Tall, well built man}

Hope yours won't be quite so huge!

I think the only difference between us OP is that you've posted on SM the things you've bought whereas no one knew what I'd bought.. (90s Pregnancy..no SM!) Ignore and enjoy!

I'm very near you and my baby has had a snowsuit on everytime he has been outside since March apart from maybe 3 weeks in July when he had shorts on . I think that seems a normal amount of things but literally everyone has an opinion in every single thing you do as a mum so just listen to what you want and smile at the rest of the advice.