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To encourage my DH to sell an inherited table?

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janey83 · 10/10/2020 16:48

My PIL bought a very expensive table in the 1950s which my DH inherited when his father died around 15 years ago. It’s in a poor state of repair and really not my style. The table now lives in my husband’s study (where I rarely spend any time).

We are about to move into a lovely smaller flat so we’re selling things that we don’t want to take with us. We do not agree about the future of the table.

It is in a real state and would cost £££ to renovate. However because it’s a rare early edition it’s fairly valuable even in its current state. My suggestion is we sell the table and buy another item of furniture which we both love. My husband agrees there is nowhere in the new flat for the table to be “out” but wants to store it in the flat somewhere (taking up much needed storage space!). I’ve asked my dh to see if his brother wants it but he hasn’t done anything about this.

I’m very unsentimental about stuff and growing up we didn’t have much money so had to make do with crap inherited furniture, making me quite resistant to the idea of having to cart my pil’s furniture around with us forever. My husband is both sentimental and much posher than me - he’s got quite a few inherited items but it’s the table that is really winding me up!

AIBU to the suggest again that we sell the table? A big argument is likely.

OP posts:
Scoobidoo · 10/10/2020 16:50

YABU. It is clearly of sentimental value to your DH and you should not force him to sell it.

MissMarplesHandbag · 10/10/2020 16:53

YABU
We are about to move into a lovely smaller flat so we’re selling things that we don’t want to take with us
He doesn’t want to sell this table though and wants to take it with you.
So yes YABU to suggest again selling it.

AnneLovesGilbert · 10/10/2020 16:53

YABU.

ohidoliketobe · 10/10/2020 16:53

I see your logical points, but yes I do think YABU.
I inherited a few bits from my grt grandmother and DH hates them. But he would never suggest I sold them as they are mine and hold dear memories. Even if you take the sentimental reasons aside, they're mine and not his. Let him put it in storage if it won't fit.

BeBraveAndBeKind · 10/10/2020 16:56

YABU I'd feel very upset if I was being press-ganged into getting rid of something that I was attached to. It's not your PILs table, it's your husband's.

Regarding the repair, maybe apply to The Repair Shop - I think the items are repaired for free if they're chosen to be filmed.

lioncitygirl · 10/10/2020 16:57

Yabu. You’re not sentimental, he is. You’re asking him to sell something his dad that once owned so you can buy something with no value to either of you - pretty selfish IMO.

picklemewalnuts · 10/10/2020 16:58

Yes, YABU I'm afraid- nice try though!

I've taken on a few items from my mum so she can move to a smaller house. Passing the problem down the generations in some ways, though!

One day you may be able to restore it, or live somewhere it can be properly shown off.

picklemewalnuts · 10/10/2020 16:58

Yes, YABU I'm afraid- nice try though!

I've taken on a few items from my mum so she can move to a smaller house. Passing the problem down the generations in some ways, though!

One day you may be able to restore it, or live somewhere it can be properly shown off.

Doingitaloneandproud · 10/10/2020 16:59

YABU, it's not sentimental to you but is to him

AuntPeggy · 10/10/2020 17:01

Sorry but YABU - he wants the table and doesn't want to get rid of it. You now need to work something out but he's not BU however much the table isn't to your taste.

CakeGirl2020 · 10/10/2020 17:02

Yabu I’m afraid

TheBoar · 10/10/2020 17:04

YABU Sorry.

janey83 · 10/10/2020 17:05

Fair enough. Seems unanimous!

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TremoloGreen · 10/10/2020 17:12

I think yanbu. If you're moving to a small flat, where are you going to store it? It would be different if he was thinking of having it renovated and using it. Of all the things to get attached to a table seems a bit impractical. Surely DH has other items that are a more meaningful reminder of his dad? That said, forcing him to sell something he likes will cause resentment. But it seems a bit selfish to take up space simply storing something.

noworklifebalance · 10/10/2020 17:14

YABVVYU

noworklifebalance · 10/10/2020 17:16

Meant to be YABVVU

DueNumberTwo · 10/10/2020 17:16

Reverse?

Pikachubaby · 10/10/2020 17:17

Yanbu

I hate useless bulky items!

waltzingparrot · 10/10/2020 17:17

Sorry OP, it has to stay but is there a compromise solution? Could you cover it with a modern table top, remove legs and store under a sofa. Basically, he still has it but you never have to see it.

Satsuma2 · 10/10/2020 17:17

YABU.

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/10/2020 17:26

#TeamTable

HandfulOfDust · 10/10/2020 17:27

I think it's fine to bring it up and see what DH thinks but would be unfair to actually pressue him to get rid of the table if it has sentimental value.

Levatrice · 10/10/2020 17:29

It’s only a table yanbu

ivykaty44 · 10/10/2020 17:30

Does your dh actually like the table? Or does he want to eep it out of guilt?

Etinox · 10/10/2020 17:33

Euffff stuff Angry
YANBU

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