To walk away from silent treatment

[Nutmeggy]

I have a long standing friend who periodically will ignore messages, texts and calls for a period of weeks or months if she is annoyed. I don't always know what has annoyed her as she won't speak! Just comes back weeks or months later as if nothing has happened.

This has happened again, I think because I said we would have to agree to disagree on something. Ignored my WhatsApp and texts but read them.

This time I'm just thinking of walking away, I sent a message earlier saying we have been friends for a long time but true friends talk it out and I find the silent treatment very damaging and not the way to resolve issues.

Instant answer back for the first time in 2 months saying she doesn't want to talk about it right now, I don't know what the it is but I've had enough

Have suggested meeting.up for coffee or dinner etc last 2 months and been completely blanked

Now I'm fed up with it!

This thread makes me want to crank out texts to all the people I've not responded to.

But yes, agree, ditch her. The speed with which she responded says it all .She can respond quickly when she wants to.

Is it possible she needs a bit of time out every now and again?
If it's wearying you, then this friendship maybe isn't worth the effort. But unless when she's back on the scene she's demanding of your time, maybe this is just a friendship that ebbs and flows. Only you can know really which it is.

Send @BadDucks's message, then resist saying anything else even if she responds with some other PA message. And yes, walk away now.

Hi, when things are normal she is around a lot and yes I would say demanding of time, someone above said it, it's not a pattern of behaviour I want in a friend who is supposed to be a good friend

I had a former friend who behaved in a similar way. Eventually I walked away. Hurt like hell - establishing new boundaries often does - but it was a healthy decision.

@Nutmeggy

IME when someone signs off with “take care” it usually means they don’t plan on interacting with that person for a while. It’s very final.

I think I would cut my losses now. I wouldn’t be able to resist replying though with something like, “yep all good here. Hope you are too. All the best! Nutmeggy”

Move on from her, you'll find other friendships that are worth your time and effort.

Pity her poor partner. Thankfully you don't have to live with her.

I’d reply back with something along the lines of “we clearly have incompatible approaches to resolving issues, I’m afraid I’m not prepared to hang around waiting for you to decide you’re ready to resume our friendship when you haven’t given me the courtesy I have no real

Ha ha she always signs off take care if she S annoyed !

@Jeezoh

I’d reply back with something along the lines of “we clearly have incompatible approaches to resolving issues, I’m afraid I’m not prepared to hang around waiting for you to decide you’re ready to resume our friendship when you haven’t given me the courtesy I have no real

Posted too soon but hope you get the gist! Take back the control of this situation, don’t be a doormat

What @BadDucks said. It can't just be on her terms. Make your own. You've reached out. She's not budging. Just walk away. She's not a good friend.

This person is NOT your friend. Walk away, because you deserve real friendships with people who care about you.

Your friend is not interesting in keeping the friendship, just doesn’t want to do the awkward move of replying she doesn’t want to stay in touch. There doesn’t need to be a particular issue causing the problem, you may have grown into different directions and therefore may be less compatible then other people she now has in her life.

If people tell you with their actions they are not interested, listen and leave them alone. They may come back some time later when their development takes them back to you and at that time you just need to decide whether the friendship works for you or simply let it go.

‘OK then, goodbye’

“It’s sad you feel that way. I hope you stay well and remain healthy. Goodbye”

Had another text and now thoroughly confused

Could she be on the spectrum or something? She may avoid emotionally charged situations but not actually dislike you

What is she saying now?

Had another text saying

From your message nothing I say is going to be right so I am choosing to say nothing at the moment

I've given up no idea what's going on

What immature, passive aggressive bollocks.

Block and move on. Leave her to have her tanty the way all tanties should be had - alone, without an audience.

I would never put up with this.

Ah well.
I think I'd make a fairly bland reply so not to stoke the drama and then it's up to you really, is it worth the nonsense or do you just quietly let it go.

You’re wasting your energy if you try to engage. Why not just cut ties?
What will you actually lose from your life?