AIBu to think my tenant throwing me shade?

[YouMatterTheMostLeast]

Ive got a tenant and she’s from South America. She’s ok, clean.

I wonder if she’s being rude or not.

I got a new kitchen, got rid of the awful one I had before which was small and had painted doors.

The sink is now black. Before I had a silver sink that was probably twenty years.
Her reaction to the new sink - oh why did you get rid of the silver sink, it matched.

My kitchen matches. It’s black, white, stainless steel and Dark grey.

I found it strange going from a stainless steel to a ceramic sink.

Maybe she finds the change strange and is just adjusting?

She was probably just taken by surprise by the black sink and words came out of her mouth. I'm sure you've probably done similar yourself.

Failing to see how relevant your tenants nationality is here 🤷‍♀️

is there any reason you mentioned where she comes from?

You upgraded the kitchen in the house she's living in? any reason you didn't ask her if she had any preferences within reason?

Throwing you shade? That sounds like gangsta- speak.

I'm still stuck on the fact that you wrote that she is 'clean' straight after telling us her nationality 😱 What on earth does that insinuate, and what does it have to do with your post about the sink? I'm baffled!!

Disappointed in the lack of lamp throwing in the story.

She didnt cry with joy because you updated your house. Big woop.

P.S I dont like black sinks.

I’ve got a black sink and it is peng. Don’t let her diss your sink, fam.

Why has this triggered you enough to go online and start a thread about it?

What does her nationality have to do with anything?

Shes not being rude. You are being unreasonable.
This is insignificant. Move on.

You know, I had a sinking feeling as I opened this thread, but it’s the complete composite of what I was expecting.

My twenty year old kitchen sink is black. I have always liked it.
Now I have a vague feeling of dissatisfaction. I wish I hadn’t read this thread.

What shade of black?

I've got a tenant and she’s from South America. She’s ok, clean.

And yes, this is a nasty insinuation.

@BewareTheBeardedDragon

I opened this expecting an exciting story of a physical altercation involving a flying lampshade.

Anyhoo - do you live in a hard water area? If so the black sink will be a bugger, if not impossible, to keep clean. I hate black sinks. I kinda get where you're coming from - the whole kitchen is better so she should be grateful. But I guess if she's living there then she has a right to an opinion? Doesn't seem particularly rude, though maybe a little tactless. Other cultures don't do tact the way the British do (it's much easier in many ways not to...)

That was my thought too. Black in a hard water area is going to look grim very quickly

I don't know what you mean about shades and sinks. I'm trying to understand so I'm not being difficult... maybe tired though! Hope you get it sorted.

OP I can't really work out why you are getting a hard time here. Maybe 'throwing me shade' wasn't quite the right phase but I think I get it. You're a landlord, you've replaced an old, knackered kitchen with a brand new kitchen and your tenant criticises the colour of the sink where many people would say how lovely it was to have a fresh new kitchen.

I agree with you, it's a bit rude of her.

@YouMatterTheMostLeast

The thread is asking am I being unreasonable

Yes. Yes you are

HTH

@Cocomarine

Do people actually say throwing me shade? 🤣

Only bloggers

@nocoolnamesleft

What shade of black?

For the sink or the tenant ?

What a shit thread

For the sink. I would not want to encourage the OP in describing the tenant, as I fear it would be extremely unpleasant.

Black sink? Wtaf?!

Word of advice, don’t get over involved with your tenants. They’re not your mates. Keep a professional distance. She shouldn’t be moaning about the new sink; does she often message you?

Exactly. So why did she feel the need to tell us where the tenant comes from and then say she's clean.

I wonder is she is also a Trophy Wife :)

If English isn't a strong language/first language, this may not mean how it comes across. Match has a lot of synonyms. Even with typical English, I wouldn't neither assume the worst or dig into it.

I can see why it might be annoying after all the work, but it's not an insult or any other word for an insulting someone. It's likely was just unexpected and the first thing that came to mind.

Personally, I would find it odd if a sink was replaced if it was still in good condition and still fit (as it would with the colours listed) just because the rest of a chipping kitchen was replaced. For some, it would be normal to ask if they weren't expected it or from concerns there was some sort of unseen issue to replace something like that for something more unusual. I wouldn't - though I might ask if it looked like it might need special care what would needed.

That's not shade