aibu to say that wedding dresses are booooooring

[pinkbalconyrailing]

2 grand for a bit of white curtain fabric?
really?what's so special about a white dress?

I kind of agree.
Although I look forward to see the dresses they are so often very samey.
Or they were from 2000 to 2015 ish.

The variety of styles seems to be wider now which means people are getting what suits them rather the standard identikit dress which was around for so long.

The royal wedding dresses since Kate have helped with this. I think so many celebs were wearing the strapless look it became default bride for a while.

I loved my wedding dress.
I wear dresses a lot. I can wear an off the peg dress any day of the week, for my wedding day I wanted a special 'proper' wedding dress. Each to their own.

The most important thing is that the bride feels good in what she's wearing. You could have the most beautiful dress in the world but if your not comfortable in it you'll never carry it off.

You don’t have to spend thousands on a white dress. Wear what you like.

DD is a fashion student and plans to make her own dress should she ever get married. Long way off though 😁

I've never actually got married, so in the unlikely event that I meet someone and do, I'd rather like a pale blue dress, 1950s swing style, as a nod to my late mum. She was married in a blue dress, looks lovely in the pics. Mid 60s, this was.

I adore my wedding dress. It was handmade in a style that suited me to bits and even has Norman Hartnell beads on the bodice. I would like someone else to benefit from it (it is beautiful silk) and have looked at donating it to a charity that makes beautiful clothing for stillborn babies but they are inundated with dress donations. So long after my divorce it still sits in my wardrobe. It is not boring. I cant remember what I paid - perhaps close to the figure you quote in your OP. #shrugs It was one of the very few times I have worn something that luxurious and glamorous. If only my taste in men were as good!

No YANBU. Most are. The kind of dosh most people spend could see you in Harvey nicks choosing something from Dior. Something really amazing. Possibly even couture. Wedding dresses are over priced IMO.

@spongedog

I adore my wedding dress. It was handmade in a style that suited me to bits and even has Norman Hartnell beads on the bodice. I would like someone else to benefit from it (it is beautiful silk) and have looked at donating it to a charity that makes beautiful clothing for stillborn babies but they are inundated with dress donations. So long after my divorce it still sits in my wardrobe. It is not boring. I cant remember what I paid - perhaps close to the figure you quote in your OP. #shrugs It was one of the very few times I have worn something that luxurious and glamorous. If only my taste in men were as good!

Sell it! Buy yourself something lovely! A starting again present to yourself! A nice watch maybe. A lovely trip even.

Yanbu. I think the world would be better if brides on their wedding day wore something really unusual but really them. Of course some should choose simpler tastes if that is what they really want but the adhering to guidelines has no place on 'your' day Imho.
I would love to have a really unusual wacky but tasteful wedding dress rather than a samey samey one. Something really representative of me.
dreams

Sadly I'm 40 now and haven't had the chance yet...

I'm not keen on most of the long white dress style dresses either, I freely admit to not being much interested in fashion, but 9 out of 10 of brides I've seen would look better in something else, IMO of course. But then bog standard church weddings bore me senseless too, I just find them all a bit samey. I like it when people so something a bit different, but each to their own!

Since you wore a cheap blue dress you could spill your dinner down OP I doubt you've looked at buying wedding dresses recently. My dress cost 1.3k and its definitely nicer than yours. You just can't compare the level of work and detail that goes into a designer wedding dress to an off the peg high street number.

You aren't edgy for having a cheap wedding, you just make different choices to other people

@HollywoodHandshake

I got married in an ivory dress just under 2.5k, it was amazing and I love it to this day. 🤷

I can buy a blue party dress and wear it to any party of the year, each to their own.

Agreed. My dress was a similar price but in white.

Why buy a cheap dress you can wear anywhere? You only get to wear a true wedding dress once (hopefully!).

Each to their own? Relative has a 16k engagement ring which they designed with their partner, and is an amazing personal piece of investment art they love. They can well afford it, so if they love it then why not? Another friend paid £400 for their wedding day in total and loved it just as much. I don't think either is 'better or lesser' imho. You should pay exactly what you're willing/able to afford based within the budget that you can/want/are willing to pay. There's no point in being snotty about virtue signalling that someone's better/worse than anyone else for what they choose personally to do.

16k engagement ring? I'm glad they can afford it but I'd be too terrified to wear it incase I lost it.

I roll my eyes at people who fall into that “too cool” category. People trying too hard to be something they’re not because they think onlookers will think they’re a sheepy moron if they get married in a white gown.

Yes, I was that person. I think I probably worked with a lot of MNetters at the time . So we had our little and sophisticated wedding and everyone thought we were so cool....but we weren't because as soon as we got back to our oh so trendy hotel, all alone, for a meal for just the two of us.....we kind of looked at each other and thought "is this it?".

Weddings are like Christmas (except they don't happen each year!) - if you genuinely want to duck out and not celebrate then fine. But don't look down on, or judge, those of us who are excited and want to celebrate this part of our lives.

We're looking at next September so should be post covid by then and it gives me an incentive to loose weight

Mine was £600 and was gorgeous. Where have you got the generic figure of £2k from? Spend a tenner on something from the charity shop if you want. It doesn’t have to be a white meringue.

I got married in a meringue in 1990. Loved it at the time but seeing modern dresses wish I’d chosen something a bit simpler and more sophisticated. Still my groom turned out to be a brilliant choice and that’s what counts!

Still my groom turned out to be a brilliant choice and that’s what counts!
Isn’t it just, I love that.

the wedding dresses I have seen (a good few years ago) were mostly around the 2k mark in bridal shops.
and if you watch someting like 'say yes to the dress' most seem to be around that mark, too. with of course some variation in either direction.

My dress was £400. It was nice enough but not the one I wanted. Unfortunately/fortunately I had a 5 month baby bump I had to squeeze into it, so the tight mermaid fit I originally wanted was replaced with a boho style beach wedding dress.

I don't understand why people on ordinary incomes spend so much - £500 still buys you a good dress.

@movingonup20

I don't understand why people on ordinary incomes spend so much - £500 still buys you a good dress.

In your opinion. There’s no way I could have found a wedding dress around that price that I’d have deemed acceptable.

Whereas £500 buys a pretty reasonable ocassionwear dress. That will actually be lovely. £2k something designer but not couture.

This is on sale for £90. Ted baker is good quality too. www.selfridges.com/GB/en/cat/ted-baker-gabie-one-shoulder-satin-crepe-midi-dress_870-10003-157697/?previewAttribute=LT-PINK

I must admit that white bridal gowns all in serried rows in bridal shop windows do give me the creeps somewhat. It’s the whole set of assumptions about women and their value, and what that dress symbolises, plus the fact you wear it for a few hours of your life and never again. That said, I ‘ahhh’ and get a bit teary on seeing any happy bride and it’s an unassailable truth that all brides look beautiful if they are happy.

I got hitched in a purple two-piece that made me look like a very avant garde lampshade and which, in spite of my protestations to the contrary, I never wore again. I enjoyed wearing it and it was a lovely day, but I look back at the photos and the person in them is so different from who I am now.

I’m trying to decide what to do with my late mum’s wedding outfit - a lovely cream silk suit from the 60s. Sadly the fabric has deteriorated so much that it’s mostly unsalvageable, though I may be able to take the buttons. The idea of just binning it feels awful though!

Mine was less than £400 including fitting, veil, shoes, etc etc. I looked and felt amazing.