aibu to say that wedding dresses are booooooring

[pinkbalconyrailing]

2 grand for a bit of white curtain fabric?
really?what's so special about a white dress?

For me, I told the wedding shop my price range & they brought me several dresses in that range. People should only get what they can afford. If 2k is it, fine. Or if its £150 that's fine too

@pinkbalconyrailing sorry but £150 is cheap for a wedding dress

Yanbu. But also wedding are boring and all the traditions around a wedding are boring. Or over-romanticised.

The older I get the more I feel weddings should be a simple legal contract to protect women, take all the romance and emotion out of it.

But she didn’t wear a “wedding dress” @Dillo10

@ReeseWitherfork Okay then £150 is cheap for a dress you are going to wear to your own wedding ... Haha

Seems to me that most people who post this sort of thing would probably have loved a beautiful wedding dress but either couldn't afford it or were insecure about wearing one?Otherwise why do you care so much to comment? Jealous.

I loved my wedding outfit but it was a very simple Jackie O-style aqua shift dress with a matching coat. Since I was married, 28 years ago, I have worn the dress and coat again, separately and together, to my grandparents 60th wedding anniversary, as a matron of honour for a close friend, and to my niece's wedding four years ago. 28 years on, it is getting a bit too closely fitted but it does still just fit.

Happy for anyone who's happy in a big white dress. Wasn't for me as a) I can't move nicely in full length dresses and so feel a bit of a twat in them b) I'm so pale that I'd look awful in white c) I'd totally have spilt something staining down it in two seconds flat

I get that a lot, if not most, brides want to look like a bride, but in my case I felt I'd have looked like 'me, dressed up as a bride' not 'me getting married'

But also wedding are boring and all the traditions around a wedding are boring. Or over-romanticised.

I feel sorry for you that it's the most you can get about weddings. I must be pretty lucky to have avoided all the "boring" ones whenever I get invited.

YNBU. Most of them are very samey. I reckon wedding dresses were cooler in the 60s /70s.

Some weddings are boring but we went to a really lovely one last Christmas. We were with lots of Friends and the Bride & Groom had arranged it so their were mo sitting about with nothing to do.. I would love to relive it especially in these rubbish times.

The Bride looked beautiful in her wedding dress.

You also get what you paid for. I tried some rather lovely looking dresses, but the fabric wasn't so great, they were awfully see-through, really not that practical.

It's nice to have a luxury gown at least once when you want one.

I won't even mention how much I spent on underwear, veil and shoes to go with my dress, some posters would pass out in rage by the look of it

These days so many of them seem to look much the same and cost a ridiculous amount. When I was young wedding dresses were all different.

I like simple ceremonies where it’s about the vows, not the venue, dress or chair covers.

Totally agree with this.

There there there not their

Got myself a vintage 60s number for 50 quid. Lovely.

I agree. I got suckered into all the usual wedding nonsense and my dress was just under £2k. It was very kindly bought by my parents but looking back it was a gigantic waste of money and I wish we had used that money for something boring yet useful, like a new boiler or big TV! It was an nice dress, but certainly not worth that amount of money.

@chicchicchicchiclana my pre-nup provided my financial surety. The marriage vows provided my spiritual surety.

I do agree that weddings have got more boring with every advance of the wedding industry but ours was I think traditional and fun. The music was a high point, the flowers were country summer blown hues of Roses, delphiniums, sweet peas, etc., tent in the garden, easy served food (pate and meĺba toast, poached salmon, salad and new potatoes, filigree brandy baskets with soft fruits and ice cream criss crossed with spun sugar. Lashings of beer, Pimms and fizz. And all the while a string quartet played in the garden.

The bonus was the weather which was 80° + so the drinking carried on well after we left and who cared that the button holes dropped in the heat.

@Sparklesocks

People should wear what they want to their weddings. You might think some people’s dresses are fuck ugly, others might think yours was too. It’s all personal preference and doesn’t really matter as long as the person wearing it feels good in it.

^^This

Why do people have to be so judgemental over things that don't actually affect them?

And the work that goes into some dresses is absolutely amazing

I like simple ceremonies where it’s about the vows, not the venue, dress or chair covers.

Why does it have to be one or the other? You can have both.

I know on MN an expensive wedding has to mean divorce, whilst a cheap private affair means happily ever after. Back in the real world, it's absolutely not true.

I agree that there is a lot of skill involved making impractical fabrics into a nice dress.

but it's not my style and I think many wedding things are vastly overpriced.
and they all look similar

You don't have to pay 2k for a wedding dress! Mine isn't even white, mine is a cream 1920s flapper style dress & I paid £140 for it. I love 1920s fashion, I didn't want a traditional white/ivory dress 😀

I got married abroad 15 years ago last month. I wore a gold shift dress that my sister designed and made. Didn't have an engagement ring, guests or bridesmaids etc. I was so intent on being minimalist, edgy and cool that I was determined not to fall into the cliched white wedding.

I hated it and so did my husband.

We were planning on renewing our vows on our 15th anniversary this year but covid. So we're doing it next year instead and we're having the wedding we were pretending to be too cool to have....

Having a ceremony on my dads estate followed by a reception for all our friends and family (about 100 people). I was of the mind that I'm too old to wear a proper white dress but then my daughter and I had a look through the wed2be website and found some dresses to try when we go shopping together for my dress some even go up to my size. She's going to be my bridesmaid, along with my two nieces and my sister will be my matron of honour. My husband and son want top hat and tails as groom and best man and there will be a lot of flowers. Lots of food, lots of dancing, speeches, cake.....everything we were too embarrassed to admit we wanted 15 years ago.

For most people a wedding day only happens once and is a celebration as well as a legal process. Wouldn't life be boring if we didn't celebrate?

Agreed.

I bought my dress in 20 minutes and carried it home in a bag for life. It was a saree.

I know on MN an expensive wedding has to mean divorce, whilst a cheap private affair means happily ever after. Back in the real world, it's absolutely not true.

It's got nothing to do with the money, people have drawn the wrong conclusion.

What causes a marriage to end quickly after the wedding is stress. If you get too stressed planning your wedding, become a bridezilla about the details, your marriage is likely to fail. Usually, that does also correlate to an expensive wedding though.

It's your wedding, it shouldn't be stressful. Have plenty of food, plenty of booze options and music, you're sorted. Have a small wedding with just family and a pub meal after. Anything in between or bigger or smaller. No one remembers the details except the couple. Just don't get stressed about it, it's one day. A marriage is no different to a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, its just a piece of paper. You still need to work on both, a wedding doesn't make all your problems go away. In fact if you already have problems, it's going to make them show very quickly and make them worse.

You don't have to do anything, but if you want to and can afford it, why wouldn't you?