aibu to say that wedding dresses are booooooring

[pinkbalconyrailing]

2 grand for a bit of white curtain fabric?
really?what's so special about a white dress?

I have always rallied against tradition for tradition's sake as it were.

My engagement ring is not the classic solitaire as I'm unique and don't want to look the same as a lot of other engaged people! It's not even an "engagement" ring - I simply chose it because I loved the look of it (and Welsh gold, my OH is half Welsh).

I'm wearing a pink tea length dress when I get married - I don't care what people think! I'm also not walking down an aisle and definitely not having my dad "give me away" (he doesn't own me!) Not getting married in a church as I am not Christian. I won't make promises to a God I don't believe in! My fiancé and I are both double-barrelling surnames so we're the same as our daughter. Not having a top table but one table with everybody around it - I don't believe in the "hierarchy" of the usual set-up but that the guests who are there are as equally as important as one another. It's not going to be a big wedding.

But that's just me. I don't judge others who do things differently

First marriage an awful peach suited outfit hated it hated my flowers hated everything about my first wedding day.
The second time around totally different first dress I saw I fell in love with in the sale so affordable, my step mum brought it for me, I loved it and still do, it’s in my wardrobe bagged up but I felt like a princess that day.

Are you being unreasonable to have an opinion on whether a particular type of garment is nice/worth the money or not? No. I'm pretty sure everyone has. It's pretty normal for people to have different tastes.

I find them boring too. However, I will say that generally the expensive ones are not just a regular dress, they are constructed in a different way. My friend donated her wedding dress to a dance troupe and they were able to take it apart and use it in a variety of ways for costumes that wouldn't have worked with a regular dress. That ind of construction s what you are paying for.

I don't know why so many people feel they should have a dress like that though. Aside from being incredibly expensive, a dress like that is really meant to be worn at an event where the guests are also wearing high end clothing, probably something fairly formal and certainly posh. I guess it has a fantasy element. But a much more reasonably priced dress looks more natural at the sort of weddings that most people have.

Designers are creating a wider range of looks nowadays. I remember about ten years or so ago, I went through one of those phases were I went to a load of weddings within the space of a few years. Every single bride wore a strapless dress with a fitted bodice and a poufy skirt. When I shopped for my own dress, that was the default style, whether it suited you or not. Then after Kate Middleton wore the dress with sleeves, that lace sleeve style got done a million times and that can look really frumpy if not done right.

I think wedding dresses are getting a little more interesting now. There's more choice, and you don't have to go to a bridal shop and see a hundred variations on the same dress.

my ring is a clunky practical affair from pandora as well.
I'm clumsy and anything with a sticky out stone will certainly end up smashed into every door frame.

white/ivory/beige doesn't suit me, makes me look sickly.
and as I'm clumsy I wanted a dress that doesn't show the wedding breakfast for the rest of the night.

Mine was £300 plain white satin. Your right I probably won't wear it again (have been known to do the hoovering it in) but that doesn't mean it was wasted money, just because I am unlikely to wear it again. No other dress I am likely to own will give me that feeling I had wearing it and its not like you could rock up anywhere in a big white dress is it. I did originally want to wear a little black dress but thought actually sod it I am only hoping to get married the once each to their own!

Well, they’re boring to you because you’ve clearly got a very limited kind of dress in mind, and already have your mind made up. I always wanted to get married in a colour (like Harriet Vane getting married in cloth of gold) but my father died and my mother was determined my wedding would be just as good as my sister’s, which means she wanted me to have the white dress, same venue, lots of bridesmaids... it made her happy so I went with the big traditional wedding and actually we both loved it, including the dress, and I don’t regret not being able to flaunt my originality in threads like this because it was full of love. In other words, people choose dresses for all sorts of reasons; don’t judge them if it doesn’t affect you.

@pinkbalconyrailing I am really clumsy too and avoid the wedding breakfast fiasco by getting married at 8pm, either that or my mum wanted to get me a bib

Nicest wedding dress I have ever seen was a family member of mine who got married in a dusty pink dress with a matching jacket. Bought in a second hand shop and her shoes were bought in a chain store sale. This couple had a tiny wedding and spent €500 all in which included paying for both sets of parents hotel rooms. Best wedding I was ever at. No stress and they were not paying debts for months/years afterwards.

I do agree to an extent, it’s crazy the amount of money some people choose to spend on an item of clothing that will be most likely be worn just one day. I’m getting married next year and spent 400 on my dress and feel slightly guilty about it, but I’m not having bridesmaids or flower girls etc so that’s how I’m justifying the cost

Mine was a £2k tea length white beauty that I absolutely love! I felt great in it. It cost me £400 in the sample sale though and was perfect because most people go for long one. Result! DH’s tailor made suit cost over double that but at least he will get a fair bit of wear out of it.

Agreed!

Most wedding dresses are horrendous and are 99% of the time, are not the best thing the bride has ever worn. Either massive and floofy or way too tight.

I wore a £250 white 'red carpet' style dress rather than a wedding dress and I loved it.

I didn’t have a traditional dress because the trend was started by Queen Victoria, there’s nothing lovely and traditional about it really. Once I’d read into it I couldn’t buy one. But I don’t judge people who do want the white dress etc. some of them look amazing and enjoy being dressed up. I agree that everything wedding is usually very boring and standard. Photo booths and sweet stands have been done to death, I’ve been to all the local wedding venues at least twice too

I had a strapless tulle meringue. I loved it! I got married in the Caribbean in the heat and still wore heels, meringue, false lashes and big undo with hair extensions.
I loved my dress. Utterly.
I started out thinking, oh a beach wedding, I am going to spend £300 tops on a destination dress. Nope. I was always going to be a princessy bride.
I don't judge your choice, don't care if you judge mine.

Mine was £350 from Monsoon.
If I had been 20 years younger, 4 stone lighter and had the money, too right I may have had a ‘dream’ dress.
Personal choice.

Each to their own. My dress was more than £2k, it was the most beautiful dress I have ever seen and I felt amazing in it. You would have hated it but I didn't ask you to wear it or indeed, pay for it, so not sure what other people's choices have to do with you, but yeah seeing as you are SO opinionated, have mine, I think your dress sounds awful, I can wear a £150 blue dress any mundane day of the week, to work, to the shops, doesn't get more 'boring' than that!

I agree but I don’t subscribe to the whole “big day”. I’ll help with house deposits but won’t pay for a party which is what most of it is. Many are still paying it off even though divorced.

I like simple ceremonies where it’s about the vows, not the venue, dress or chair covers.

What you need is a bridal bag.

it’s crazy the amount of money some people choose to spend on an item of clothing that will be most likely be worn just one day.

why? As long as they can afford it, why wouldn't they?
I am not a Hollywood star, unlikely to ever need to wear a designer gown, it was lovely to chose a really perfect dress. I love white and off-white on me in the summer, can't wear anything in these tones as a wedding guest obviously.

I chose to get married before having kids, we had the luxury and freedom to splash out, which I could never do again (because of the kids).

Spending more than you can afford is sad, having a cheap diy wedding can be beautiful, but nothing wrong for going for a full on wedding affair. Life is too short, I am glad I did.

And I am not bitter or hateful towards other people choices like some posters on this forum, which is a clue I've done it right...

Here you go...

It is only 90 seconds long....kind of sums up the wedding industry .....

I am not being sniffy!.....stupidly spent too much on a dress myself

I loved mine. Tiny sleeves that covered my shoulders in church and pulled off the shoulder afterwards. Fitted at the waist and flared to a Princess line floor length gown with a small train. I got married in 1991 so what was unique was the fact there was not a single frill, bow or other adornment. Just simple white duchesse satin. Short veil, handmade silk headdress of soft, discreet roses.

Whole outfit was £1000. I don't regret a stitch of it. Still have and just wish I could squeeze into it still!

Engagement ring was/is a step cut sapphire flanked by two diamonds. Had it made bigger over the years ;)

My dress was a designer dress and cost almost 3k. It’s the most I’ve ever spent on myself and 8 years on I still absolutely love it. Why does it matter to you?

I’m early 30s and don’t know many people with a diamond engagement ring. So I’d say over the last 5-8 years ish when most of my friends have got engaged they haven’t been in fashion.

My friends was a grey and black and stunning. Other people i know have married in red, or half black half white. Mine was white but not even £200. You don,t have to spend £2000 you don,t have to get married in a wedding dress.