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Would you date someone like yourself?

79 replies

PepsiFan77 · 04/10/2020 02:39

if they were the opposite sex(or what your type is) , but were exactly like you , would you be drawn to them

i am not sure i would.

OP posts:
Mariola321 · 04/10/2020 02:47

No because then the bulls would not be paid. 😂

Mariola321 · 04/10/2020 02:47

Bills

Enrosadira · 04/10/2020 02:50

Yes

DramaAlpaca · 04/10/2020 02:52

Nope. I'd really annoy myself.

Italiangreyhound · 04/10/2020 03:11

I used to think I would but I married someone almost exactly my opposite and I love him to bits. We have loads of things the same (values, interests) but in terms of personality, even physical build, and approach to life etc, we are different.

If you know Mires Briggs we are very much opposites.

HelloHello89 · 04/10/2020 03:14

My personality. 100%. My body... no. Hahaha.

My husband is completely opposite of me (personality and slim lol) but we work so well together and share the same values! Opposites do attract!

charmsofasimplelife · 04/10/2020 03:42

Sounds bad but absolutely not!

spottybitch · 04/10/2020 04:22

Not in a million years cos I'm fat, spotty, ugly and horrible inside and out.

Flipswhitefudge · 04/10/2020 04:40

No way, I can be a bit of an arse.

Newmumatlast · 04/10/2020 04:52

I can be a lot. And I'm a bit of a control freak. There are a lot of aspects of me I would like in a partner but I dont think an exact carbon copy would work well!

SimonJT · 04/10/2020 04:58

No, I’m natural panicker, two panickers would be a nightmare.

redcarbluecar · 04/10/2020 04:58

No. I’d be friends with myself but wouldn’t want to take it any further.

ulanbatorismynextstop · 04/10/2020 05:01

I would love to date someone just like me, I rock!

MrsCremuel · 04/10/2020 05:07

No, mood swings and I'm impatient!

Foreverlexicon · 04/10/2020 05:25

No.
I can be stubborn, hot tempered and impulsive. I mean I also have some great qualities but two of me would clash and cause problems.

My partner is super laid back and other personality traits mean we compliment each other very well.

Jointhecircus · 04/10/2020 05:30

I would! Definitely Grin

readingismycardio · 04/10/2020 05:40

Yes, I would. I know it sounds like a brag, but I'm organised, loyal and someone you can rely on. I am also pretty but I don't see it all the timeGrin

Saracen · 04/10/2020 05:57

I did date someone like myself - not exactly, but there were many similarities. It was really hard work. I broke off my engagement without being able to put my finger on the reason, but immediately felt a great sense of relief.

I've now been happily married for many years to someone I never would have thought I'd be drawn to.

The main issues with my ex were:
He was as stubborn as me, so our disagreements escalated and lasted forever.
He was slightly petty, as am I.
He expected me to notice how he was feeling and magically know how to respond, so I was always supposed to be paying attention. I am not good at that. But I do now like being in a relationship with an empath - one who doesn't mind spelling his needs out to me!
I overthink things - we were always worrying and feeding off each other. We both needed a calm steady presence.

I haven't remained in very close contact with my ex, but I get the impression that his wife complements him well. I like to think he and I both got the partners we needed after we split up.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 04/10/2020 06:12

Oh definitely not. We'd have a lot of fun together but there would be no sense of responsibility whatsoever and we would be, as a couple, eternal kids! I need my partner who is my opposite to be the responsible mature one of the relationship.

Android18 · 04/10/2020 06:43

@redcarbluecar

No. I’d be friends with myself but wouldn’t want to take it any further.
This sums it up perfectly! I'm the same.
motherrunner · 04/10/2020 06:43

Appearance wise yes. Both DH and I are runners and careful what we eat. We’re both attracted to slim, athletic builds.

Personality, no. Although we both have similar life goals we’re different in our approach. I’m highly strung, a worrier, take meds for anxiety. DH is very calm, he’s funny, an optimist. We’ve been together 14 years and I attribute our happiness to the way we balance each other out.

Mimishimi · 04/10/2020 07:33

Probably not!!

Itwasaquarterpast11 · 04/10/2020 08:40

No. Am so anti relationship we wouldnt even get to a first date. But we would be excellent in bed Wink

TheoneandObi · 04/10/2020 16:03

I'm gorgeous so of course I would. But I'm also prone to highs and lows in mood (DH thinks I could be bit bipolar and I think he could be right). I think that's probably a bit hard to live with.

madcatladyforever · 04/10/2020 16:04

Hell no, I'm bloody awful to live with. I need someone who is laid back and lets life's stresses wash over them.