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Would you date someone like yourself?

79 replies

PepsiFan77 · 04/10/2020 02:39

if they were the opposite sex(or what your type is) , but were exactly like you , would you be drawn to them

i am not sure i would.

OP posts:
Pickypolly · 04/10/2020 16:07

No.
Nothing would ever get done.
So glad I have DH.

SentientAndCognisant · 04/10/2020 16:08

No,we’d talk about work all the time. Be too intense
I’ve had colleagues who met through work and it’s worked for them. But they do incessantly talk about work

Thecazelets · 04/10/2020 16:10

Good god no.

FlouncerInDenial · 04/10/2020 16:12

God no! I'm a nightmare

ArabellaScott · 04/10/2020 16:12

God, no. I'd piss myself right off.

AfterSchoolWorry · 04/10/2020 16:14

No, I don't like my face and I'm overweight.

Personality wise yes, I'm quite low maintenance and like a lot of time to myself so that would be ideal for me.

Dozer · 04/10/2020 16:14

If was single with DC my DCs’ age think it’d be v hard for me to date, due to limited time, energy left after parenting and work, and childcare/costs.

ArabellaScott · 04/10/2020 16:14

@spottybitch

Not in a million years cos I'm fat, spotty, ugly and horrible inside and out.
Aw, I bet you're not! Don't do yourself down.
Dozer · 04/10/2020 16:15

But otherwise, yes, I would date me Grin

RaspberryToupee · 04/10/2020 16:17

Looks wise - no! I’m quite short and my type is tall so that doesn’t work.

Personality wise - DH and I share some positive and negative personality traits but not enough that we drive each other crazy. I make myself crazy, so living with another one of me would be a nightmare. Following on from the Myers Brigg that a PP mentioned we’re in the same group but one letter apart - ISFJ and ISTJ. Although apparently our combination doesn’t work so read into that what you will.

BexR · 04/10/2020 16:18

No I get tetchy.

OohKittens · 04/10/2020 16:23

Yes 100%

spottybitch · 04/10/2020 16:24

Aw, I bet you're not! Don't do yourself down.

Haha, you haven't met me.

User36258 · 04/10/2020 16:24

Yes, I’m excellent Grin

I jest. I have many good qualities which I think I would find very positive in a relationship - kind, clever, pretty funny, empathetic, warm, generous, good at planning, always go the extra mile to make an event or celebration special.

But I have pretty rocky mental health, and I need someone a lot more stable than myself as a partner. I’m quite lazy, I’m perpetually burdened by terrible anxiety, I catastrophe easily and I can be very defensive. I don’t like those qualities in myself, so can’t imagine I would want to date someone with them!

My husband is the most sunny-tempered, even-keeled, calm person I know and I really feel like a thrive because of those qualities in him.

Kidneybingo · 04/10/2020 16:28

No. I have good points. I'm hardworking and always try to do the right thing and give people the benefit of the doubt. But I don't make life easy for myself, or a partner, with too much worry and overthinking.

Kote · 04/10/2020 16:34

No way. 1 of me is bad enough, 2 would be a disaster!

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 04/10/2020 16:38

I did once upon a time and it was awful.

I definitely wouldn't now, I'm annoying, set in my ways and selfish, and have no plans to change anytime soon.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 04/10/2020 16:45

Fuck me, no. I'm an absolute nightmare.

Fortunately the male population has worked it out already, so .... they're safe Grin

AriesTheRam · 04/10/2020 17:01

Probably not,I'm a control freak.Having said that ive got great tits so..

ChalkDinosaur · 04/10/2020 17:02

My body? Sure. My personality? No fucking way.

Judashascomeintosomemoney · 04/10/2020 17:09

No. We work precisely because my husband is not like me. At all. I don’t even think I’d be friends with me, if I was still me. Only room for one opinionated arse in any kind of relationship Grin

ladybee28 · 04/10/2020 17:17

This whole concept is blowing my mind a little –I'm not sure I know what I'm like to be in a relationship with!

I would ask DP but I know already he'd raise an eyebrow at me and very slowly say: "This? This, is a TRAP." Grin

midnightstar66 · 04/10/2020 17:19

No, I need someone more organised and tidy than me lol

Crunchymum · 04/10/2020 17:22

No way.

Physically I'm a mess and quite frankly emotionally I'm even worse Shock

ImEatingVeryHealthilyOhYes · 04/10/2020 17:23

Yes. I’m not perfect but I’m loving, fun, hard working and reliable. And we’d have great sex!

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