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AIBU?

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thinking a friend trying to resell something she got from me is rude

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Chocice79 · 04/10/2020 01:59

I have a friend that I know known since we were kids. she has a teenage daughter who she now says went to change her name. I have started a bead bracelet business recently and since i know it not really my friends type of thing I ask her did she know anyone else who might be interested in my bracelets She then said she wanted to get one in honour of her daughter new name and with that initial on it as a gift to her. so we talked decided on colours the design. I gave it to her a couple of days ago and she paid for it but less then 2 nights later I'm seeing it up for sale on her husband profile on a selling site! worse still they are trying to make a profit in it! I'm just so mad as I made it as a gift it not like I forced my friend to buy it.What to now say to her as there is no way I not gonna say that I dont know.

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youngdumbfunny · 04/10/2020 02:08

It's quite rude, yeah. But it's not the same as if you gave it to her for free and she turned a profit. Maybe you could have a conversation with her about why she did it?

katy1213 · 04/10/2020 02:12

You didn't make it as a gift; she paid for it, she can do what she likes with it. (And she hasn't made a profit until she gets a buyer, which seems unlikely if she has to find someone with the same initial.) Maybe she offered it to her daughter and she didn't care for it.

seayork2020 · 04/10/2020 02:14

Once I get rid of something it is the other person's not mine so they can do what they like with it

steff13 · 04/10/2020 02:16

Maybe her daughter just didn't like it and she didn't want to tell you.

Qiry · 04/10/2020 02:18

You didn't make it as a gift if she paid for it.

Oneisdrunk · 04/10/2020 02:20

She’s a nugget! That’s so rude

Spiderbaby8 · 04/10/2020 02:22

I would say people can do whatever once they receive a gift or buy something, but it does seem a bit weird when it's something personal like that. I would probably feel a bit put out.

alexdgr8 · 04/10/2020 02:24

i don't think you will get on in business if you are so sensitive and take things so personally.
probably her daughter did not like it.
so, would you prefer that she told you that, and asked for a refund.
as to the asking price, it' a free market. you sold it for a price you were happy with. just let it go OP, literally and figuratively.

TW2013 · 04/10/2020 02:25

If it is on her husband's profile is he not as accepting of the name change?

wildcherries · 04/10/2020 02:31

It's not a gift if she paid for it. She probably didn't want to ask for a refund, like PP said.

Nikori · 04/10/2020 02:49

I think if it was a gift, I'd feel differently, but she paid for it, so it sounds like maybe there is some confusion or upset at home, so I'd let it go.

BritWifeinUSA · 04/10/2020 04:17

Once she paid for it it was hers to do with as she wished.

emilyfrost · 04/10/2020 04:32

YABU. It wasn’t a gift. She paid the price you set; of course she’s entitled to go and try and sell it for higher.

Perhaps you should be setting your prices higher.

DianaT1969 · 04/10/2020 04:35

Don't say anything. Forget it. It's a bracelet and not worth damaging a friendship over.
I think you know very well that once you accepted money for it it wasn't a gift.
Use it as feedback for the business. The daughter didn't like it. Gather a focus group of non-partial people to review the products (conducted virtually thanks to Covid).

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/10/2020 04:58

I take it these bracelets are selling for about £5. Is that right? I think you need to let it go. It’s odd he’d be selling it though.

BoomBoomsCousin · 04/10/2020 05:22

"What to now say to her as there is no way I not gonna say that I dont know."

Ask her how much it sold for. Maybe you could increase your prices.

If you are making things to sell you need a much thicker skin. You lose all control after you sell it and no one is going to want to buy from you if they think it comes with strings attached.

kavalkada · 04/10/2020 05:48

I couldn't care less what my friend does with things I sell or give her.

Few days ago I gave a friend a huge box full of baby clothes in perfect condition. If she decides to sell it and earn some money of it, good for her. I couldn't be arsed.

Hangingover · 04/10/2020 05:53

If it's Gumtree or something unless you're talking about a huge margin I imagine she added a "profit" on to allow for the fact people often don't offer you the asking price.

CJsGoldfish · 04/10/2020 05:59

Meh.
She paid for it. Her daughter probably didn't like it. I see no issue.

Angelina82 · 04/10/2020 06:07

I suspect her DD just didn’t like it. I wouldn’t worry about it. You got your sale didn’t you?

Thecobwebsarewinning · 04/10/2020 06:46

Perhaps she bought it as a kindness to you and her husbands pissed off at her wasting money?

Thedevilscheesecake · 04/10/2020 06:53

This happened with my friend. She ordered and paid for a crochet blanket from me. A week after she received it I saw it for sale on facebook. I didn't mind. She had paid for the materials and for me to make it. It was hers and she could do what she wanted with it.

I also make jewellery and sell as a side hobby business on and off line. I have made many to order, that does not make it a gift. Don't take things to personally. People can take the piss always wanting a bit more. But I know exactly what every thing I make costs, the price of every bead, charm and elastic. I know for example a sterling silver beaded bracelet takes me an average of 6 minutes to make. I make sure I always make a profit and one sale often leads to another. If your friend no longer wants her bracelet i wouldn't get upset about it. But I might ask what was wrong with it because it helps me improve. But otherwise try and use this to improve the way you think about selling your bracelets. You do not sound very business like.

IvyRose77886 · 04/10/2020 06:54

It wasn’t a gift as she paid for it. She can do whatever she wants with it since she bought it.

WhatWouldJKRDo · 04/10/2020 06:58

YABVU
If it was a gift there would have been no money involved. But even if it were a gift, as soon as it’s hers she can do what she likes with it.

Either the daughter didn’t like it or the father objected. Either way they’ve been polite enough not to say it to you.

Florencex · 04/10/2020 07:02

YABU. It was not a gift, it was a purchase. She can do what she likes with it.

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