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thinking a friend trying to resell something she got from me is rude

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Chocice79 · 04/10/2020 01:59

I have a friend that I know known since we were kids. she has a teenage daughter who she now says went to change her name. I have started a bead bracelet business recently and since i know it not really my friends type of thing I ask her did she know anyone else who might be interested in my bracelets She then said she wanted to get one in honour of her daughter new name and with that initial on it as a gift to her. so we talked decided on colours the design. I gave it to her a couple of days ago and she paid for it but less then 2 nights later I'm seeing it up for sale on her husband profile on a selling site! worse still they are trying to make a profit in it! I'm just so mad as I made it as a gift it not like I forced my friend to buy it.What to now say to her as there is no way I not gonna say that I dont know.

OP posts:
Mummyoflittledragon · 04/10/2020 08:55

Let it go

CodenameVillanelle · 04/10/2020 08:56

She didn't like it. What don't you get about this?

Standrewsschool · 04/10/2020 09:10

I think that’s rude, to sell it so soon after purchase. If she didn’t want it, she shouldn’t have purchased it in the first place.I can understand why you feel miffed.

SpeckledyHen · 04/10/2020 09:22

@Fullof

She paid for it

She can do what she likes with it, even if it was a gift, which it wasn’t.

^^

Agreed

Laaalaaaa · 04/10/2020 09:24

Maybe she felt intimidated to buy it from you and didn’t have the heart to tell you she or her daughter didn’t like it?

StillCoughingandLaughing · 04/10/2020 09:27

Why do you think she is selling it? Do you think she saw a potential profit in it, so lied and said she wanted it as a gift for her daughter? It seems very arse about face. Now she has to try to sell a bracelet that, theoretically, 25 out of 26 people won’t want even if they do like it. Why wouldn’t she just have asked for one without an initial?

letmethinkaboutitfornow · 04/10/2020 09:27

@steff13

Maybe her daughter just didn't like it and she didn't want to tell you.
This was my first thought as well 🤷🏻‍♀️

It wasn’t a gift, she paid for it.

You sound really unpleasant

Todaythiscouldbe · 04/10/2020 09:28

@Chocice79

it's the fact she is selling it 2 days later when she claimed she wasn't even gonna give it till the name change was official in a couple of wks
She didn't like it. So she didn't want to give it to her daughter. Let it go.
BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 04/10/2020 09:28

Maybe her dd has decided against the name change.

Comment on the post "hi, sorry if it wasn't what you had in mind. Happy to refund"

bonjonbovi · 04/10/2020 09:29

@Chocice79 - I’d message her something along the lines of “was there something wrong with the bracelet?” And see how your friend replies.

IrmaFayLear · 04/10/2020 09:31

She probably bought it to be polite. Dh’s friend’s wife makes jewellery. Her client base is friends who feel obliged to buy her wares. I had to invent an allergy to avoid having to buy a pricey creation.

How much was it, incidentally? A fiver and I’d have thrown it in a drawer; £50 and I would have tried to quietly sell it somewhere and pray friend didn’t ask me to buy anything else.

Pinstripes6 · 04/10/2020 09:31

She’s done this in the hope you wouldn’t see - she has gone out her way not to hurt your feelings.
She didn’t like it. That’s life. You need to drop this.

BlueThistles · 04/10/2020 09:32

She's taken it home and DH has not liked it. They sell it.

or

She's quietly using You as a supplier in her new online selling page.

Mittens030869 · 04/10/2020 09:33

But it wasn’t a gift if she paid for it! I really don’t get your outrage about this. You really are going to have to take things like this less personally

lljkk · 04/10/2020 09:36

Let us know what happens when you ask your friend about it, OP.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 04/10/2020 09:43

Maybe the husband doesn't agree with the name change, maybe the daughter is no longer changing her name, maybe the daughter or husband saw it and didn't like it, maybe the friend wanted to support you so bought something she really didn't like because you're her friend.

Regardless of the reasons why would you embarrass a friend, and yourself by asking? Just forget about it.

Zaphodsotherhead · 04/10/2020 09:59

How old is her daughter?

I'll take bets on her daughter deciding that she's not going to change her name at all now and she was just saying it to get a rise out of her mother, who now has a bracelet with an initial that means nothing to anyone in the family.

What else would she do with it?

WhereYouLeftIt · 04/10/2020 10:01

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

Maybe the husband doesn't agree with the name change, maybe the daughter is no longer changing her name, maybe the daughter or husband saw it and didn't like it, maybe the friend wanted to support you so bought something she really didn't like because you're her friend.

Regardless of the reasons why would you embarrass a friend, and yourself by asking? Just forget about it.

All these possibilities, especially the daughter having changed her mind.

Plus, off-topic I know, but - do teenage girls really change their name? Officially?

rwalker · 04/10/2020 10:01

she proberly didn't want to buy it in the first place just supporting your venture.
As for the price he will of paid listing fee's and you always get people make offers.
so if if put it on for the price she paid they've already lost with the cost of listing .
You SOLD it to her please don't embarrass yourself and say anything she clearly don't want it .

sapnupuas · 04/10/2020 10:05

Then ask her about it.

Asterion · 04/10/2020 10:06

Why are you looking at her husband's profile on a selling site Hmm

Aloethere · 04/10/2020 10:07

She didn't like it but she bought off it off you to be a supportive friend. It wasn't a gift.
I have an online store, I know some people resell things they buy off me, so long as they pay the price I want for my items I don't care what they do with them afterwards. They can bin them for all I care.

SuitedandBooted · 04/10/2020 10:11

You have to let this go. You are supposed to be running a business.

She bought it. She now wants to get her money back without involving you. Either her daughter doesn't want it, or her husband isn't happy about the name change. I doubt she commissioned it just so she can sell it on. It's a craft-made bracelet, not a Tiffany egg!

Trinacham · 04/10/2020 10:12

Seems like an odd thing to do, but she has every right to do that.

SinisterBumFacedCat · 04/10/2020 10:12

I think it’s rude. It’s the fact that she commissioned you to make it specifically for her daughters name (change?) and the time you have taken to make it. Could be five minutes, if it’s fiddly could take several hours. If they didn’t like it they could have waited a couple of months to sell it on, the turn around is so quick though. Not a fantastic friend. Hmm

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