Losing the plot with oh's alarm

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OH wakes up so early for work. He sets his alarm for 15 mins before he needs to wake up then snoozes it about 3 times. He puts it at bottom of bed so he has to get up to turn it off which means it goes off for so long and it is the most annoying thing ever. Also it wakes the kids earlier than i want them to be up tbh.

How do i handle this without being a cow?

I dont see how it can get better unless i ask can you turn volume down and get up after the first alarm. Which seems mean as you cant control how you act when half asleep haha

Do i just need to deal with it

No, you don't. Especially when he's waking the children up!

He needs to find another routine, that's less disruptive to the rest of you.

Feeling your pain. Mine does this too! Hopefully someone will come along with the cure soon

Mine does the same it drives me mad every morning

That is so selfish of him. Why would you wake up the house like that? Can’t he just get up like an adult rather than a teenager?

Turn it down and keep it on a bedside table nearer the top of the bed! YANBU.

Does he go to bed earlier than you and the kids to?

Why can't he get up at the first alarm and setbig properly?

• set it

Why do you feel you can't just ask him not to do this? It's very selfish

Don’t let him use snooze. It’s evil anyway - just the pain of being woken X 3 instead of just once. Alarm goes off - you get up.

Can you get an old fashioned alarm without a snooze function?

YANBU. This drives me up the wall. I've got my first day off in 3 months today but still was woken up by his alarm and three snoozes. When I have to get up earlier than DP I use the alarm on my fitness tracker. The vibration wakes me up but not DP.

Selfish! Why can't he get up when it first goes off? I can imagine nothing worse than being woken up repeatedly in the mornings. If he's that tired he should go to bed earlier

Id an x who did something like this, if we n3eded to get up at 7 he'd set his first alarm for 5am and torture himself and me too for 2 hours. I get the concept of a snooze bringing you out of a deep sleep but an rem cycle is 90 minutes not 2 hours.

15 minutes should be the max time for a snooze, imo, otherwise you are just getting LESS SLEEP which obviously makes it harder to wake up. 😑

There are alarm clocks that give you a natural dawn. Expensive mind you. I want to get one. I struggle with leaping out of bed first moment i hear the alarm too but i dont want to prolongue the torture

I would have to really bite my tongue to not pull the same stunt on his day off 😬 sometimes people just don't realise how disruptive their actions are to others.

YANBU. Wow how have you let this go on so long! He needs to sort it out definitely.

He needs to put the alarm so he has to get up and then stay up. I wouldn't put up with that.

He needs to set it for the time he needs to be up and just get up, no snoozing. Putting it at the end of the bed is probably a good idea so he has to get up but he doesn't get back in. He's being very selfish.

Had a similar problem with DH many years ago. I don't think he had realized quite how much it disturbed me until I pointed out that I started every working day furiously hating him for being so selfish. He never used the snooze function again.

He needs to put the alarm clock closer and get up when it first goes off. He’s a selfish twat for subjecting everyone else to his early start.

no no no no no!! That is so so rude and inconsiderate. He needs to shift his arse out of bed as soon as it goes off, and if it's much earlier than everyone else needs to be up, be bloody quiet about it!!!

Needs to stop snoozing! Not fair at all on you. He can train himself to just get up after the first alarm.

DH does this too and often sleeps through the alarms anyway, meaning I have to kick him awake to stop the incessant bleeping. this has driven me to the guest room on several occasions (and on those mornings he is often late for work!). It’s so tedious but he says he ‘can’t remember hitting snooze’ or ‘I didn’t hear it’. Feel stabby just writing this.

This would drive me up the wall! Agree with others that it's selfish.

Really recommend the app Sleep Cycle for him, it tracks sleep and wakes you up when you're at your most 'awake' within a half of hour window with a gentle tone (my partner sleeps through it). It's a much nicer way to get up and, though it can be snoozed, he shouldn't need to as it's a lot easier to just get up. It'll also tell him if he's sleeping enough.

I also have a Lumie sunrise clock which is lovely but gets quite bright so probably would wake you up too.

If my DP did this there would be a massive shove out of the bed and I would encourage him not to do it again in the sweetest way possible.

No excuse for waking up the kids.