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Losing the plot with oh's alarm

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chanme · 02/10/2020 07:21

OH wakes up so early for work. He sets his alarm for 15 mins before he needs to wake up then snoozes it about 3 times. He puts it at bottom of bed so he has to get up to turn it off which means it goes off for so long and it is the most annoying thing ever. Also it wakes the kids earlier than i want them to be up tbh.

How do i handle this without being a cow?

I dont see how it can get better unless i ask can you turn volume down and get up after the first alarm. Which seems mean as you cant control how you act when half asleep haha

Do i just need to deal with it

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maybelou · 02/10/2020 08:12

That is really annoying YANBU!! I'd suggest maybe he tries a fitbit type watch? You can set alarms on them and they vibrate to wake you up which is much less disruptive!

Lemoncurtain · 02/10/2020 08:13

He could get a fitbit type thing (just a cheap one) they often have a vibrate alarm function that he could set to go off every 5 mins without waking anyone else up

Heyahun · 02/10/2020 08:15

Omg 😆 I’ve been so annoyed with my husband about this for years - he doesn’t hear the alarm sometimes and i wake And have to wake him to tell him to turn it off - so annoying!

I’m due a baby soon and never even thought about how we will deal with this alarm situation when baby is here 😂 I don’t have a solution for you - but feel your pain
Luckily I’ve had a break from It last few months as we’ve both been working at home

popcornlover · 02/10/2020 08:20

All this people saying he is selfish - I presume he’s going out to work to support a SAHM so just shows how much you all appreciate that.

Gobbycop · 02/10/2020 08:23

The solution is get up and fuck off (him)

My alarm goes off at 0530 I turn it off, get up, and fuck off.

It's that simple.

Audreyseyebrows · 02/10/2020 08:23

@popcornlover

All this people saying he is selfish - I presume he’s going out to work to support a SAHM so just shows how much you all appreciate that.
How do you know that op doesn’t work? Don’t be an idiot.
MadCatLady71 · 02/10/2020 08:23

Get him a Fitbit with a vibrating alarm. It will buzz against his wrist to wake him up while you sleep in blissful unawareness.

jdoejnr1 · 02/10/2020 08:25

@popcornlover

All this people saying he is selfish - I presume he’s going out to work to support a SAHM so just shows how much you all appreciate that.
This! I know many people, mainly men, who get up early than their partner yet go to bed at the same time. Perhaps they should be getting their arses out of bed and putting it to good use rather than complaining that their daily lie in has been disturbed.
Eileithyiaa · 02/10/2020 08:28

I agree with the advice above for a FitBit!

I have one and it gently buzzes me awake each morning. They do come with a snooze function but it's a bit fiddly and I'm worried about switching alarm off - so I get out of bed!

LockdownLump · 02/10/2020 08:28

Why do you feel you can't just ask him not to do this? It's very selfish

This ^

Do you usually have to walk on eggshells around him. If the alarm wakes the kids up and he is getting up anyway, why don't you let him get up with the kids?

Absolutely bizarre that you put up with this selfish behaviour.

Mosasaur · 02/10/2020 08:28

I bought my husband a Fitbit to stop him waking the baby. He sets the alarm and it vibrates on his wrist to wake him up.

Nanny0gg · 02/10/2020 08:31

@popcornlover

All this people saying he is selfish - I presume he’s going out to work to support a SAHM so just shows how much you all appreciate that.
Oh yes. Nothing must interfere with the Master's day.

ODFOD

TwentyViginti · 02/10/2020 08:32

@popcornlover

All this people saying he is selfish - I presume he’s going out to work to support a SAHM so just shows how much you all appreciate that.
Whether OP is in paid employment or not is irrelevant. He is still a selfish arse.
VivaMiltonKeynes · 02/10/2020 08:34

What is it with men and this ? Just get the fuck up !

Witchend · 02/10/2020 08:39
Grin

I had similar with dh.
If he has to get up, it goes along the lines of:

  1. His alarm goes off.
  2. After 5 minutes I poke him and point out it's his alarm and he needs to get up.
  3. He sets it on snooze and goes back to sleep.
4.Repeat steps 1-3 between 3 and 8 times (depending on length of snooze I think)
  1. By which point me and the dc are all wide awake and he's still asleep Grin

I almost always get up before him, so it normally isn't an issue. Eventually I lost patience and now he doesn't (normally) snooze it more than once, which is irritating enough, but more reasonable.

I always wondered how it was that I could get me and three (at the time) small children up and out of the house without disturbing him. But if he had to get up early everyone was awake before he'd got out of bed.

The upside is that if the children were ill during the night, he's very quickly wide awake up till about 3am, so he'd dealt with many beds of vomit single handed.
I'm not totally sure I got the worst end of that deal. Grin

2me2u2u2me · 02/10/2020 08:42

No help for you here but sympathising, if my OH stays at mine on weeknights he sets alarm for 4.30, he snoozes a couple of times, gets up, puts the big light on, no warning, opening doors loudly, using the bathroom loudly, all whilst humming and singing, slams the front door when leaving and leaves all the lights on! Bloody nightmare he is.

My brother stayed over a while ago and when I went downstairs at 7 he was in the kitchen having coffee, I said god I never heard you get up, he'd had a shower too, I said nothing like my OH, he said yeah, I heard all that hahah

NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 02/10/2020 08:50

I'd be very tempted to turn the alarm off to teach him a lesson!

It is the ultimate in selfish behaviour to behave like that when you have a family.

Just get on as soon as the alarm goes off FGS!

KatharinaRosalie · 02/10/2020 08:50

This is massively selfish and inconsiderate. He needs to get a vibrating alarm, Fitbit or similar, many smart watches come with those nowadays.

I get up several times per week before everybody else and manage to get out of the door without waking the rest of the family. Yes, to go to work to earn money for this family. I don't have to be an inconsiderate wanker because of that.

Original poster
chanme · 02/10/2020 08:51

@Ednafrommooneyponds omg this is genius! Thats his xmas pres sorted! Vibrating fitbit!

Why didnt i think of that

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AltoCation · 02/10/2020 08:55

What time dies this happen?

Purplewithred · 02/10/2020 08:55

@2me2u2u2me are you serious? That would be a one-night-stand for me, horrifically selfish!

MimsyPorpington · 02/10/2020 08:57

You can also get silent vibrating alarm clocks which you just put under your pillow. I got one for DH when I had the same problem. Cheaper than a Fitbit and might tide you over till Christmas.

Imbc · 02/10/2020 08:57

I had this a few years ago except it was my next door neighbour’s alarm 😫

Your husband needs to set one alarm and get up then, it’s not fair on everyone else.

Rae36 · 02/10/2020 08:58

I use a vibrating watch alarm. Never wakes Dh and always wakes me. Mine is a garmin

doctorhamster · 02/10/2020 09:00

He needs to put the alarm next to him where he can reach it and turn it off as soon as it sounds. No snoozing. Any grown adult who can't do that is fucking ridiculous.

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