You're Not Like Other Girls (or women)

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Why do men think this is a compliment? What's wrong with being like other females? If a man said this to me I would instantly think "red flag" but it's still being thrown out in Disney etc. How the f*ck are women supposed to progress when not being like other girls is condisered a compliment?

'Some women complain about everything 🤷‍♀️'..... So states the man who remains forever single 😂

Negging I guess..... but negging all other women except you because you are different.

Men can be mean but women too I think. But women say more careful. Say it so you cannot argue because they say you did not understand how they meant.

Great thread
OP last man I fell deeply for told me I was special and he'd never met anyone like me
I took it as a compliment
It wasn't

Urgh. I used to hear this in my early 20s from old sleazebags who were trying to get me to sleep with them. (Didn't work.)

Like they say that dress is interesting choice.

Ah hard to explain what I mean.

OP et Al
And I'm 50 fucking 9

@groovergirl

Urgh. I used to hear this in my early 20s from old sleazebags who were trying to get me to sleep with them. (Didn't work.)

Along with, "have you ever considered modelling?". Sure way to never get laid.

I say yes thanks already been the model. Made me prefer be round the gay men. 🤭

@Mariola321

I say yes thanks already been the model. Made me prefer be round the gay men. 🤭

Yup me too No complicated

*He is trying to put women in this imaginary boxing ring who he believes are vying for his attention and guess what - you got the prize.

Twat. Next!*

This

@Mariola321 CBA because I have done modelling
Albeit for hair but that's a minor detail. It was still catwalk 🤣

I agree OP. It's implying that women generally aren't brave, adventurous, intelligent, sensible, down-to-earth or whatever the quality they've apparently identified about you that makes you different is. Lots of women are all of these things and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who had such a low opinion in general of women.

Well I suppose you could always ask the person to elaborate what they mean? I've been told by a FEMALE friend that I was not like all most women she knew - in the sense I was up to doing loads of fun stuff with female friends without including our husbands. Obviously she was not comparing me to the whole of womankind but to the friends she had already. She was just happy to find someone with a similar outlook. So instead of assuming red flags another option is to ask 'what do you mean?' and have a conversation first... and from what follows perhaps conclude your interlocutor is indeed an idiot.

YABU for using the word "female". We are women fgs.

People make the mistake of interpreting this as meaning ‘You are unique, exceptional, special and unusual!’

What it really means is ‘I don’t respect women in general, but I’m going to pretend otherwise with you because I want something from you’.

It’s a banner of a red flag.

Sounds like a pathetic attempt at a chat up line.

I can't fucking stand it. To me it's said by people who see women as one bland 2d stereotype and use it to 'compliment' someone once they realise they have a personality. I had an ex who thought it was complimentary to compare me to my friends whilst simultaneously putting them down. It wasn't complimentary; my friends are awesome and I'm not in competition with them.

However I don't think it's just men that do this. I've met over the years women who pull out any semblance of uniqueness about themselves and use it to distance themselves from other women. 'I'm not like other girls because I like lego/rock music/know the offside rule/love pizza/love camping etc'.

It's boring and said by people who haven't bothered getting to know other women.

I'm literal so I would ask for specifics, and only after that evaluate if it made sense or if I could agree. I don't understand being offended by the raw words.

‘I like you, you’re not like other black people’. If someone said this you would clearly understand that they didn’t like the majority of black people and was almost certainly a horrible racist. Very sad that some women are just happy to get a compliment - even if it’s not really a compliment and says a lot more about the givers view of other women than their view of the woman they are saying it to.

Completely agree that it is what misgynists consider to be a compliment.

LOL at "body from Baywatch, but a face from Crimewatch" - Refreshingly gender neutral, I think.

misogynists

"body from Baywatch, but a face from Crimewatch"

Bobfoc, not heard that in yrs! 🤣

I know why the phrase would be annoying but in some circumstances there may be an element of truth? or at least compared to people you know.

When I hear that phrase I think of this cartoon