AIBU to not want give my bf a blowjob whilst he watches other women on TV

[MirkleMe]

This is not ok is it?

I've suspected he's been watching women on TV whilst we were having sex before but last night he literally asked for a blowjob when someone he fancied appeared on TV.

So basically he wants me to suck him off while he watches this other woman.

I haven't raised this with him because I know he will deny it and call me crazy.

This isn't normal is it?

It makes me feel like I'm not good enough to turn him on. I also feel used. Am I overacting and this is just something some men like to do?

[Nottherealslimshady]

You aren't unreasonable for not wanting to but he's not unreasonable for asking. DH and I often give oral while the other looks at porn, it's more fun than seeing just the top half of someones face poking up from your crotch.

[enigmatoto]

@BubblyBarbara
BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

[Notthetoothfairy]

Another one here who agrees with @BubblyBarbara (and to the PP who thinks they have to give BJs to be good in bed, you couldn’t be more wrong!)

[Kolsch]

It would be goodbye from me.
I expect a man to give me the same high level of respect that I have for myself.

[iklboo]

DH and I often give oral while the other looks at porn, it's more fun than seeing just the top half of someones face poking up from your crotch.

But thus wasn't porn they were both watching / enjoying. It was normal TV.

[IWantT0BreakFree]

If you're going to quote me then please quote the parts where I say that they need communication and discussion of boundaries and respect too hmm

I haven't misrepresented your comments at all, which I think will be very evident to anyone who scrolls back through them.

Saying that they need communication and respect etc is almost irrelevant. You're framing OP's situation as if her boyfriend is doing something that's perfectly OK if only he communicated properly. The entire issue is that he sees her as an object to satisfy his sexual desires and is deliberately trying to trick her into engaging in sexual contact that's not on the terms she believes it to be. That's not a communication issue. He hasn't just done a bad job of expressing himself. It's deliberately using her as a living sex toy and not a partner.

[DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult]

Saying that they need communication and respect etc is almost irrelevant. You're framing OP's situation as if her boyfriend is doing something that's perfectly OK if only he communicated properly.

He did ask for something that was ok if he communicated properly and op agreed.

Different people like different things.

[Port1aCastis]

Sorry OP but your user name tickled me, isn't a mirkle a hair piece for the chuff?

[Hyperfish101]

What is he watching though? Standard TV programmes might have women he fancies in them but unless it’s porn then they’ll be cooking, reading the news, being a copper....just normal TV stuff. Hardly sexy!

[allyjay]

Why has this been turned into a joke thread when it clearly wasn't a joke? Childish and ridiculous comments on here. Can't be arsed with all the 'tee hee sex' vibe about it

[Mlb123]

I am wondering if he actually said he wanted you to suck him off as a woman he fancied was on tv or whether you know he fancies this woman who was on tv and that you assumed he asked you to give him a BJ because she was on tv at the time. If he definetly said it then that's not resoectful, but if he didn't then you may just have made thstonk yourself and are thinking too far into it xx

[JudyGemstone]

@Port1aCastis

Sorry OP but your user name tickled me, isn't a mirkle a hair piece for the chuff?

That's a merkin but close!

I couldn't get my boyfriend to come to IKEA with me if I offered him a BJ every day for a month

Feel sorry for mr bubblybarbara, now everyone knows about his rancid penis.

[daisychain01]

I expect the OP got too caught up in servicing her DPs needs to come back to this thread ...

[Thorilicious]

Anyone else really fancy IKEA Meatballs now?

[seabreeze77]

I must be prudish but the thought of doing a blow job repulses me. Ughhh.

[Dislocatedeyeballs]

Iklboo u r hilarious sorry if this is a very serious issue but this is making me laugh my head off

[Limeandlemon]

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.


At least if you give him a blowjob before ikea you mite get a new lamp out of it.
I don’t view blowjobs like that. As long as they are clean and fresh then I’m in....but op I would hate this, totally disrespectful. And you are good enough he’s just not good enough for you

[Boobissue]

*BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

*


Love giving them, DH loves receiving them!

When does the "lustful" part of a relationship have to finish?

You remind me of that old joke, how do you stop your girlfriend giving you a blow job.... marry her!