AIBU to not want give my bf a blowjob whilst he watches other women on TV

[MirkleMe]

This is not ok is it?

I've suspected he's been watching women on TV whilst we were having sex before but last night he literally asked for a blowjob when someone he fancied appeared on TV.

So basically he wants me to suck him off while he watches this other woman.

I haven't raised this with him because I know he will deny it and call me crazy.

This isn't normal is it?

It makes me feel like I'm not good enough to turn him on. I also feel used. Am I overacting and this is just something some men like to do?

[AudTheDeepMinded]

@BubblyBarbara ever thought of being @SlightlyEffervesentBarbara instead?

[rorosemary]

@BubblyBarbara

Ask him to go down on you whilst you are watching your celebrity crush on TV and see how he feels!

I wouldn't. You might not like the answer. I think a man would engage in anything sexual even if you were on your phone posting on MN.

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

What's wrong with ikea?

[ThePluckOfTheCoward]

@thepeopleversuswork

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

Each to their own but I'd say IKEA may be killing your libido.

YANBU OP though.

These days I'd rather shop at IKEA than give a blow job to be honest, my knees aren't what they used to be.

[VinylDetective]

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks

Wow, you have to feel sorry for some people’s husbands.

[ThatsHowItStarts]

So you wouldn't be up for some "a to m" action @BubblyBarbara 😂

[rorosemary]

I'm ok with a partner sharing a fantasy or asking if trying out a sexual thing is possible. Any decline should be accepted without ifs, buts, or any negative behaviour and should never be requested again.

As for this particular request, not everyone would see it as degrading or disrespectful. I don't, the request itself wouldn't bother me at all. I see it more as wanting to act out a fantasy with his partner. I see no harm in asking, or declining.

[CorianderLord]

Ask for the TV off whenever your get down to it?

[Eckhart]

he will deny it and call me crazy

This is emotional abuse. Leave. Please, take responsibility for your welfare and leave.

[billy1966]

How grim.

And he calls you crazy.

Low bar or what OP?

You deserve better.

[Dahlietta]

You know it's really not okay to ask your girlfriend to suck your cock while you watch another woman on telly.

Personally, I wouldn't be impressed if DH asked me to do this with the telly on regardless of what he was watching, but I am a bit old-fashioned.

[Alibongalong1234]

Ugh he sounds gross. Does he go down on you when you demand it?
Lalalaletmeexplain on Insta for help on this sort of thing.

[Blondiney]

@BubblyBarbara

When you think about that he wees out of there it's just eugh

Dip it in a pot of hummus first. Delicious!

[Zaphodsotherhead]

@JFDI2019

That is so grim, and such a turn off.

I haven't raised this with him because I know he will deny it and call me crazy.

This statement makes me think he neither values or respects you.

And your question about is this just something some men like to do? I'm sure it is. But none of them would be getting within spitting distance of me.

Or swallowing distance, presumably.

OP, what is your general relationship like? Because, from this, we are all getting a general sense of disrespect from him to you, and that's no real way to carry on a relationship.

[CarolVordermansBum]

When you think about that he wees out of there it's just eugh confused

Dip it in a pot of hummus first. Delicious!


Hahahhahahahahahhahahahha!!!!!

[Ohtherewearethen]

I see ol' Babs is being her delightfully unuptight self again. The solution to that then, @BubblyBarbara, is to suck on the penis of someone you're not going to wander round IKEA with afterwards.

[thepeopleversuswork]

ThePluckOfTheCoward

Who said anything about knees?

[Babysharksmom]

Jesus christ
Hills now

[hexmeginny]

Kinda rude, BubblyBarbara! I'm not sure I'd appreciate anyone thinking about my vagina in such a way - a rancid old body part that I piss out of .

[sunshinesupermum]

hexmeginny - no woman pisses out of her vagina, rancid or otherwise!

[hexmeginny]

FFS you know what I mean

[DustyMaiden]

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks

That’s funny. I’d rather give a BJ to the man that will carry my stuff in Ikea and knows how to build it.

[VenusTiger]

Why are either of you keeping the TV on whilst having sex? Where's the intimacy?

[hexmeginny]

I've suspected he's been watching women on TV whilst we were having sex before but last night he literally asked for a blowjob when someone he fancied appeared on TV.

I don't get this bit.. how would you not know? Are you somehow in different rooms while doing the deed?

[Hokeywokey]

@DustyMaiden

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks

That’s funny. I’d rather give a BJ to the man that will carry my stuff in Ikea and knows how to build it.

The resulting arguments when building Ikea furniture doesn't put anyone in the mood for a BJ 😂

[Feelingconfused2020]

but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks

Love this! And for the poster saying it's the weirdest thing they've read on mumsnet then I would say you need to get yourself over to classics. @BubblyBarbarabto be honest I'm more with you that those who love a blowjob. I do it sometimes because my partner likes them, I don't mind them, I don't love them!