AIBU to not want give my bf a blowjob whilst he watches other women on TV

[MirkleMe]

This is not ok is it?

I've suspected he's been watching women on TV whilst we were having sex before but last night he literally asked for a blowjob when someone he fancied appeared on TV.

So basically he wants me to suck him off while he watches this other woman.

I haven't raised this with him because I know he will deny it and call me crazy.

This isn't normal is it?

It makes me feel like I'm not good enough to turn him on. I also feel used. Am I overacting and this is just something some men like to do?

@BubblyBarbara

When you think about that he wees out of there it's just eugh

you must be awful in bed if things like that turn you off

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

You know it's really not okay to ask your girlfriend to suck your cock while you watch another woman on telly.

You know some couples like that sort of thing right?

OP needs to discuss this with him so they both know their boundaries.

Really? Do most women really enjoy behaving like a fleshlight?

BubblyBarbara has a right to her opinion.

@bubblybarbara I'm with you! Absolutely nothing appealing about it at all!

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks

The ikea near us provides mouthwash and a penis beaker at the entrance by the yellow bags. Can’t have people browsing the hemnes with lust lingering about their person

Really? Do most women really enjoy behaving like a fleshlight?

Yes, this is exactly what I said

@BubblyBarbara

Ask him to go down on you whilst you are watching your celebrity crush on TV and see how he feels!

I wouldn't. You might not like the answer. I think a man would engage in anything sexual even if you were on your phone posting on MN.

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

Haha!

I never gave a blow job until I met my husband and now I love doing them and often will just do it with out being asked as It's something that turns me on & seeing him turned on! They aren't disgusting. They are pleasing for both man & woman. I accept theyre not for everyone though.

Op, please don't do anything that makes you unhappy.

What happens when you decline his request?

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

What a weird thing to say!

No, OP, it sounds like your boyfriend isn't approaching this the most sensitively - done right, this could be quite hot, a kind of shared moment of something exciting on TV. But making you feel like a useful gadget to get off with isn't nice.

@BubblyBarbara

When you think about that he wees out of there it's just eugh

Take it up the shitter doesn't appeal?

OP, when he asks and if you're in the mood. Stick on of your favourite films on beforehand. They're handy to listen to.

He’s using you while he’s thinking of someone he’s watching on tv. You’re just pleasure holes to him.

Personally I’d tell him to fuck off.

🤪@gamerchick

"I haven't raised this with him because I know he will deny it and call me crazy."

So don't bother.

Just end the relationship because it has run its course.

Why are you still with him?

Not a fan of BJs tbh. However, watching telly while getting one seems odd!

It's okay if you're both into that kind of thing. Some people are!! But if you're not, it's absolutely not okay. I mean, it's okay to ASK, but he should accept the word 'no' as soon as you say it.

Run for the hills @MirkleMe

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

Most of us don't have ''rancid'' partners... ?
What a bizarre thing to say.

YABU - this is perfectly normal said no-one ever

@BubblyBarbara

Ask him to go down on you whilst you are watching your celebrity crush on TV and see how he feels!

I wouldn't. You might not like the answer. I think a man would engage in anything sexual even if you were on your phone posting on MN.

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

Each to their own, but I think this might be amongst the strangest thing I’ve read on MN

BJs are disgusting anyway.

Not to the overwhelming majority, they aren’t.

No not at all, but in the right context and time not whilst he's gawping at some other woman in the telly thats rank and wrong:(

Some women have seriously messed up ideas about normal male behaviour. Ok, perhaps many men might like the idea of it as a fantasy if it were suggested. But very few men would be disrespectful enough to suggest/request it.

Not being a fan of bj, "rancid body part" is just

Personally, I’d be OK with this depending on the context. If I was horny, wanted to do something a bit different and he was very much engaged with me at the same time, fine.

If he was surreptitiously ogling Holly Willoughby on Dancing on Ice and hoping I hadn’t noticed, not so much.

It’s no different to watching porn together which we enjoy. But obviously, if it’s not for you, then of course you shouldn’t feel guilty for saying no.

BJs are disgusting anyway. Maybe something you'd do in the lustful part of a relationship but do you really want to suck on some rancid old body part of someone you later go shopping at IKEA with. No thanks.

Each to their own but I'd say IKEA may be killing your libido.

YANBU OP though.