My SD15 has all the typical symptoms of coronavirus which developed on Sunday evening. We hadn’t seen her since the weekend before. We have EOW contact and usually the odd night for tea after school.
Last week just coincidentally we didn’t have my SCs over in the week due to them ha bunch other things planned (the arrangements are pretty flexible due to them being older kids).
She had a test on Monday - not a proper NHS testing centre, apparently her mum knows someone who works at a care home who did one for her 
Well the results aren’t back yet and DP and I are concerned about having her here without knowing if she’s contagious or not.
I have 2 young DC of my own and help care for my elderly gran so we don’t want to take the risk.
DP is also a key worker and only 2 weeks into a new job so he can’t really risk potentially exposing himself that closely to the virus.
We’ve spoken to DP’s ex about it and said if SD’s results come back negative either today or tomorrow then we’ll carry on with contact as normal, or if they come in on Saturday we’ll pick her up and keep her Saturday and Sunday.
If they’re not back by the weekend then we can postpone the contact and then have the girls 3 weekends in a row so it doesn’t mess up the contact schedule going forward and mum still gets a break and we get to still spend time with them.
DP’s Ex has hit the roof. She’s screaming down the phone saying she has plans etc.
She shouldn’t really be going out anyway if her DD is displaying all of the symptoms?
What’s worse is we’ve just found out she’s sent SD into school today and when DP said she should be isolating she said “it’s only a bloody cold”... but it was serious enough for her to get SD tested?
Just a side note, DP’s Ex doesn’t work so I can’t even sympathise and think perhaps she’s worried about childcare and has had to send her DDs to school. She could easily just stay at home for 2 weeks with the kids.
She doesn’t seem to care that she’s potential putting other people at risk so I don’t trust her to tell us the truth about SD’s results anyway. DP has asked for a copy of the email or letter showing a negative result but I doubt we’ll see one.
I’m not sure what to do here... it’s my sons birthday this weekend too (not SD’s brother, they’re step-siblings) and my gran and my mum were going to pop over to see him which again can’t happen if SD has coronavirus.
I’m not sure what my AIBU is to be honest... but any advice on how to handle a high conflict ex who is flouting safety rules?
I’m tempted to report her as she’s putting so many others at risk.