To think drink driving does not mean lose your license?

[berks]

Regular poster but name changed.

DH was arrested for drunk driving last night after crashing his car. He blew 104 on the breathalyser then tested 57 at the police station several hours later. He broke his wrist so had to go to hospital before the station.

He's the sole earner in our family- I haven't worked since 2014 since I had our first child- we have 3 DCs (age 6, 3 and 1). If he loses his license he won't be able to get to work which is 15 miles away and not near public transport.

He seems to think that because of this he may be allowed to keep his license. I am desperately clinging to this.

I know what he did is wrong, I know what could have happened so please don't lecture me- he's in more trouble at home I assure you.

I haven't stopped crying all morning. He's such an idiot.

I can’t understand why you even asked this or hoped he wouldn’t lose it. If my partner did this I’d want him off the road regardless of the consequences to our family. I’d rather my family suffered financially than another family suffered a tragic loss because of a drunk driver.

I absolutely agree.

OP, your hisband has taken away your option not to work. You'll need to get a job, and he will have to stay at home.

@Happyotamus

I think he can apply for a work permit to drive to work. I cannot remember if this is Australia or the UK though. He would only be able to drive to and from work.

He absolutely should lose his licence though because that is a fucking huge amount of the legal limit.

That must be Australia because you certainly can't do that in the UK.

Drop him and collect from the nearest public transport. Or get him a scooter/ bike so he can make his own way.
Don’t be his chauffeur, he doesn’t deserve it and your kids don’t deserve their routines to suffer.

I hope he loses it. Thank goodness he only injured himself in the crash

OP, you need to be thankful that you are not waking up this morning to your first day of widowhood or your first day as the wife of someone who killed someone.

If it were reversed and your husband was out last night or driving home from work and was hit by someone who was three times over the limit and seriously injured or killed, what penalty would you think would be suitable? What if your children were hit by someone 3 times over the limit?

Cycle

@berks I’m really glad your going to job hunt, you are so vulnerable and if your vulnerable so are your children & they don’t deserve that.

He will find car insurance hard to find after this so he’d better get saving up.

He's big and stupid enough to know that pouring alcohol down his throat and getting into a machine on wheels, capable of killing himself and others, is a stupid fucking idea. As a child of someone who died as a result of drink driving, he deserves to have his licence taken away for the rest of his life. Inexcusable behaviour. Maybe now he will think before being a stupid idiot and risking making you husbandless, your kids fatherless and causing devastating loss to another family.
Get a job yourself and get used to your new reality, OP.

He'll need to ride a bike. Will take just over an hour.

He deserves to lose his licence. 104 after crashing is astounding

I’m 99% sure I’ve read this exact thread before!

YABVU I'll be disgusted if he doesn't lose his licence. Why should we allow someone who has proven they care more about their own convenience that other lives to continue putting lives at risk? He could just as easily have killed someone, never mind break his wrist.

Be thankful he's just losing his licence and that no one was seriously hurt!

@Happyotamus here in the US we have permits for people to get to work who have lost their license. I don’t think it exists in the UK. We have almost no public transport, however. I live 75 miles from the nearest train station and that’s a long-distance Amtrak train that goes across the country once a day. We don’t have regular commuter services here. I’m 23 miles from the nearest bus stop too.

He will, and 100% should, lose his license

Disqualification.

Points.

Huge hike in insurance.

IMO Small price to pay for going to bed at night knowing you luckily didnt kill anyone.

What happens to the wrecked car insurance? I'm assuming the insurance company won't pay out , hope it's not on finance because they will still want their money even if the car is a wreck.

I would like to see drink driving a zero tolerance crime, and don't really understand why it can't be, any amount of detectable alcohol in your system should be an automatic ban.

His wrist is broken but not in plaster?

@Laaalaaaa you’ve already had one of your neeedlessly unfair and horrible posts deleted, I expect that one will go the same way. Perhaps you should read the talk guidelines again.

@beenheresince2001

Is this a joke? Three times the limit? I couldn't give a toss if you don't want to be lectured, I'm sure many people who have lost loved ones to idiots like your Dh don't feel your pain, absolutely disgusting.

I think it was more that the poster doesn't want a lecture. It wasn't her who did it and made those choices. She doesn't need dragging for her husband's bad decisions, she'll pay for them enough as it is.

I have no sympathy for drink driving but so many people just asually throwing out the suggestion of a bike for a "few minutes" or 30-40 min.
I know it's completely his own fault but by default OP will become involved in solutions to his problem of not being able to drive.
A 15 mile drive might be on a motorway for all we know ....and even on normal roads, allowing for traffic, traffic lights, hills, junctions, rain, snow etc I would think more like an hour each way on a bike unless he is Chris froome. My DH used to do a 6.5 mile commute in central London and that used to take him 30 min.

I would like to see drink driving a zero tolerance crime, and don't really understand why it can't be, any amount of detectable alcohol in your system should be an automatic ban.
Because there can be genuinely innocent reasons for tiny amounts to be present. We could have a lower limit - Scotland's is lower than England's.
In the sense of an automatic ban it pretty much is zero tolerance - if you are caught over the limit your licence will be taken off you for a time.

How bad was the crash? I’ve seen two people in court this week given suspended prison sentenced for drink driving offences that ended in crashes.

I sit in mags all day and listen to cases like his. He’d be looking at a community order and an 18 month ban from my experience.

Drink drive rehabilitation courses are not running around here at the moment due to Covid.

As the relative of someone who blew 135 at the roadside, the morning after, no accident fortunately. I guarantee he will lose his license. My relative was begging not to be jailed, the license was definitely going. Spent a fortune on legal representation, first offence, good reputation etc. Got a 3 year ban, which has been reduced by a quarter after sitting a course, and about 8k fine I recall. God knows what insurance is now.

Nah, sorry but I’ve got no sympathy for someone who doesn’t want their drink driver husband to lose his license as it may impact on their family life and force her to work. I make no apologies for this.

Hope he does lose his license, people who drive whilst drunk are scum.