To think drink driving does not mean lose your license?

[berks]

Regular poster but name changed.

DH was arrested for drunk driving last night after crashing his car. He blew 104 on the breathalyser then tested 57 at the police station several hours later. He broke his wrist so had to go to hospital before the station.

He's the sole earner in our family- I haven't worked since 2014 since I had our first child- we have 3 DCs (age 6, 3 and 1). If he loses his license he won't be able to get to work which is 15 miles away and not near public transport.

He seems to think that because of this he may be allowed to keep his license. I am desperately clinging to this.

I know what he did is wrong, I know what could have happened so please don't lecture me- he's in more trouble at home I assure you.

I haven't stopped crying all morning. He's such an idiot.

Not sure if already posted, here are the official sentencing guidelines.

www.sentencingcouncil.org.uk/offences/magistrates-court/item/unfit-through-drink-or-drugs-drive-attempt-to-drive-revised-2017/

My friend blew just over 100 roadside and lower in the station. He got a £900 fine and 6 points. No ban. Which is surprising as I’m sure it wasn’t his 1st offence

Is this real? Of course he should lose his licence, what if he had killed someone? A real possibility that could easily happen, they need to throw the book at people who do this.

I'm so sorry to hear he's done this, OP. He sounds an irresponsible arsehole with no consideration for anyone else apart from himself.

I'd do as others have suggested and leave him to sort out his own transport arrangement for work. No way would I be ferrying him around. And I'd probably end up leaving him.

@Sunshine1235

I think at this point all you can do is focus on the fact that no one was killed and be thankful for that and start brain storming your options now

• you could drive him and pick him up
• car share with someone else at work?
• cycling combined with public transport
• you going back to work and him looking after the kids
• working from home more
• budgeting regular taxis
• move closer to his work

Those are all I can think of at the moment

This.

I’m sorry for you and your kids but not for him. My guess is that this isn’t his first time - just the first time he got caught.

Nope it’s an outright ban

If he blew 36 or 37 then there might be some understanding in asking for leeway, but at 104?

He wrote off his car. The only small mercy is that he didn't kill someone.

I'd be seriously considering my marriage in those circumstances tbh (admittedly I absolutely hate drunk people because of my childhood). Injured himself, could have killed people, means everyone in the family is going to have to faff around getting him to and from work for the length of his ban and all to save a 25 minute walk? Selfish prick.

If work's only 15 miles away he can cycle there.

He probably won't have a few weeks before he is in court, they get drink drivers in asap to get them off the roads. The only thing he can do is plead guilty & hope that he won't get more than 12-15 months ban.

@berks, by any means, look for a job.
But I would also want to be sure he is the one to sort the situation out. Not you ((by. Finding a. Job and. Juggling the 3 dcs, drop off at school. Etc)

I would tell him to cycle to work. He can cope with that. His mistake, up to him to deal with it.

@Saladd0dger

My friend blew just over 100 roadside and lower in the station. He got a £900 fine and 6 points. No ban. Which is surprising as I’m sure it wasn’t his 1st offence

It's now an automatic ban.

Why are people treating OP like she’s the one who drove drunk? She isn’t responsible for her husband’s actions, stop behaving like she is

Btw, what does HE propose to do?

This is exactly what I was trying to get across in the SAHP discussion a few days ago and how in the long term anything can happen to make the main breadwinner lose their job and suddenly the sahp is years out of work with zero up to date references.

Your dh better get used to cycling.

@Meuniere

Btw, what does HE propose to do?

Keep driving round till his court date under the mistaken belief he's entitled to continue driving.

Why is the woman always blamed in one way or another when her partner does something stupid? OP and her children are going to suffer here through no fault of their own! Why are people being so nasty?! It wasn't OP that chose to drive drunk - she's clearly in shock and doesn't seem nonchalant at all to me. I'd be horrified if a partner who had never done anything like this before did and it left us in the shit financially. Of course you would panic. Saying it's a bad idea to be dependent financially on your husband is all well and good, except that tonnes of people choose to live like that and have absolutely no issues, how was she to know he would do something so stupid? Jesus.

In the olden days you could plead hardship on behalf of others - you still can for speeding or other bans but not for drink driving any more.
He will lose his licence for a period of not less (and probably more) than 12 months.

I think he can apply for a work permit to drive to work. I cannot remember if this is Australia or the UK though. He would only be able to drive to and from work.

He absolutely should lose his licence though because that is a fucking huge amount of the legal limit.

He definitely should lose his licence my uncle was killed when he was hit by a drunk driver who mounted the pavement. Your husband is a moron and your kids deserve better.

@berks I’m so sorry for you this sounds so awful and stressful. However, leaving to 1 side the drunk driving (as others say he will def lose licence), please check with your insurer he’s still covered now - I broke my wrist and I wasn’t insured to drive several months. This may apply even if it hasn’t been plastered. Last thing you need is invalid insurance!

@Laaalaaaa
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In non-covid times they'd have had him in court and taken his licence tomorrow morning. You've at least got a few weeks to prepare. There are no circumstances where he will keep it and rightly so.

• made a stupid decision to drive home- it would have been a 25 minute walk. As I said, this is all his fault.

His wrist isn't plastered just sore. Obviously he wouldn't drive if he's sick but he's not banned yet was my point*

It would have been a 25 minute walk home big woop - 25 minutes I went for a walk last night for an hour for the hell of it not to go any where just wanted to walk.

What about a taxi? Bloody hell three times over the limit!

His wrist isn’t plastered only sore.

Do you understand how different your post this morning could have been

My husband Blew 104 on the breathlizer and killed someone

My husband drunk drove last night and smashed in to solid object (tree/house/another car) and he’s dead

Yeeeeees he should be banned for a pretty long time

Count your blessings he’s wrist isn’t plastered and just sore hay