AIBU to expect DH to cut ties

[fancypants3]

Name changed because I worry this is a bit outing as it's quite specific

DH had a woman who worked with him who bascially admitted she was in love with him

She's now left the job

He is still texting her updates and being friendly to her

AIBU to expect that he would completely cut ties now they dont work together, delete her number etc??

But if he isn’t going to do anything then what’s the problem. I think many women end up driving husband away because moan about them seeing friends, moan about them going to pub, etc. Want the man to give up all of his life and then after time he’s had enough and finds a woman who is more fun.

OP. A previous poster made a very valid point, he’s so concerned about causing awkwardness with this woman if not answering her texts or blocking her number, but is happy to cause an issue with you. Of course as this woman told your husband she loves him/string feelings for him, it’s not the same situation as just being a former work mate. As he has told you he jay bump into her in future because of her being friends with other work colleagues, then surely she can message those friends for updates

If he won’t block her, then at least disengage by waiting a day or two to reply and those replies be minimal one or two words answers to direct questions. That’s a sure way of getting message across that he’s not interested (without saying the actual words, I’m not interested, stop texting me.)

See what he says if you suggest that approach as a means of compromise

Of course it would be totally different if she were simply an old work mate. But she’s not. She’s told your husband she lives him/has strong feelings for him. That’s is not the usual work relationship so you’re completely justified in feeling how you do and not wanting the continued contact.