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My friends have fallen out with me but is it my fault?

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Findmeatthegym2020 · 23/09/2020 13:52

I was in a relationship with my good friend of 10 years brother a few years ago. She was always supportive of the relationship and it was her who actually set us up. We split up and he ended up starting a new relationship with a mutual friend of mine and his sister. Me and his new girlfriend fell out as I wasn’t comfortable being friends with her and we left it at that. They split up a year ago and we made up, however we both knew this was more of a civil friendship rather than true friends due to the issues in the past. Anyway, for the past few months I have been having a fling with ‘our’ ex but I recently found out that she has also slept with him recently also. My original friend and his other ex found out about our fling and have fallen out with me. I haven’t spoken to them for months because they said I was sly for going behind their backs to sleep with him even though the other friend has done the same thing. Am I really in the wrong here or is she wrong too? And how can I make up with my friend of 10 years (his sister) as she was one of my best friends and I’m very surprised about how upset she was over this?

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Pregernaught · 23/09/2020 15:05

Does this bloke have a vibrating cock?

pastandpresent · 23/09/2020 15:05

Sorry, this is pathetic. Sounds like soap drama.

Dillydallyingthrough · 23/09/2020 15:09

FGS grow up, both of you should stop sleeping with him and he done with it. I expect better from my 16yo.

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Findmeatthegym2020 · 23/09/2020 15:12

I agree but I have no desire to make up with his other ex, I only care about making up with my best friend and in regards to him I can take it or leave it. It was just a bit of fun that no one was supposed to find out about but clearly it hasn’t gone the way I thought it would

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ColleagueFromMars · 23/09/2020 15:15

Crikey - there's this thing called Internet dating now which means you don't have to inbreed only date your mates. I think it might solve your problems.

Bluntness100 · 23/09/2020 15:17

How old are you op? How old were you when you were with him?

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/09/2020 15:20

None of these people are your friends.

This boy (as I assume you are not adults) is not worth the aggro.

Either its ok to sleep with peoples ex's or it isn't, you seem to think its ok for you to do it, but not others which seems confusing at best.

Find new friends. Grow up.

Kanaloa · 23/09/2020 15:20

So there’s another separate ex of yours that this friend is seeing as well?

Bluntness100 · 23/09/2020 15:24

I’m assuming teenagers as well,

Op looking at your other thread I think you’ve other issues here if it’s the same guy.

boredboredboredboredbored · 23/09/2020 15:24

@Chicchicchicchiclana

Oh dear, where is Jeremy Kyle when you need him?

GrinGrinGrin

Thepilotlightsgoneout · 23/09/2020 15:24

Let me get this right.

You’re in a relationship with him and you break up.

Your friend starts seeing him and flaunts it which is upsetting for you so you fall out.

He and friend break up and you rekindle your friendship because he’s in the past for both of you and it’s time to move on.

You found out she hasn’t in fact moved on and has slept with him again and is begging him to rekindle their relationship.

You find this deceitful so sleep with him yourself.

The sister finds all this out and is angry with you for being sneaky when you feel the other friend was just as sneaky.

Is that it?

1forAll74 · 23/09/2020 15:25

Well what a nice lifestyle you all have.!

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Findmeatthegym2020 · 23/09/2020 15:29

No I don’t think it’s okay for me to sleep with him but not her, my issue is that I am being blamed for doing something that she has also done! I think neither of us should have gone back to him but we clearly both have yet I’m the only one who everyone has fallen out with over it

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AwaAnBileYerHeid · 23/09/2020 15:34

I take it you're all in your teens?

Cocomarine · 23/09/2020 15:36

I wish you could post a photo of Mr Golden Cock!

I’m picturing him as being like Jock O’Keeffe in The Young Offenders 🤣

Billben · 23/09/2020 15:42

OP, walk away from all of them. Or in a few months time we gonna be reading your thread about which one of you two got pregnant first buy this fool. Because people with this much drama in their life always seem to attract even more.

WhatWouldJKRDo · 23/09/2020 15:45

OP, does your mum know you're using her Mumsnet account?

ddl1 · 23/09/2020 15:52

The most unreasonable person in all this is the ex. But you and your friends are also a bit U to let yourselves be drawn into this toxic environment, and spoil your friendships for the sake of someone who isn't worth it. Run a mile from him!

Original poster
Findmeatthegym2020 · 23/09/2020 16:00

I’m aware this all sounds very immature! I’m not the one with the issue here however, I’m aware I made a mistake but so did others - I just want to fix my friendship

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PalTheGent · 23/09/2020 16:00

He must be one hell of a shag to be worth all this hassle!

SirGawain · 23/09/2020 16:01

Ooh! Didn't realise that Jeremy Kyle was starting a new TV series.

Bluntness100 · 23/09/2020 16:03

Again how old are you op?

And you’re not going to repair your friendship by trying to make out she’s as bad as you, that’s not how this shit works. And quite frankly she’s not

Because the issue isn’t you both slept with him. The issue is you lied. And repeatedly.

overnightangel · 23/09/2020 16:04

Sounds fairly straightforward, the original friend likes the other friend more than you

KatherineJaneway · 23/09/2020 16:08

Sounds like a game of one-upmanship between you and this other girl and the sister is fed up of it.

IndecentFeminist · 23/09/2020 16:08

Maybe because they were together longer, and it was a more serious relationship so she is trying to get back together whereas you were just after a shag? You're looking fickle and she isn't?