Minor things your other half does that make you all stabby 🙃

[ChilliOnTheWilli]

My DH is constantly asking for brews. I have never ever seen someone drink so many cups of tea and coffee in my life. His family are all the same, offering each other brews every 5 seconds. You literally put your cup down at my MILs and she's got the kettle on again.

I honestly can't take one more 'are you making a brew?' any time I look like I might be leaving the room or at the first hint of getting out of bed in the mornings. It gives me the RAGE 😂 (don't get me wrong, he makes a lot himself too). It's worse than hearing 'mum, mum, mum' for the millionth time a day.

He will even ask or get up to make one at like 11pm when we're in bed or if he's in the middle of drinking a beer in the evening.

Can I divorce my husband for making and requesting too many brews? Do your partners do anything minor that make you all stabby?

And obviously this is light-hearted, I won't actually stab him unless he asks for another brew

Always asks me where his stuff is. Fuck off put your own stuff away.

Ex would wake me up because its morning. Go and die, it's my day off. 💣

Kept saying he was tired.

I worked, studied, did all the housework, admin, marathon training, took care of the dog, socialised. He played computer games all day and complained no one recognised his genius and was depressed he wasn't magically the CEO of something.

Should have stabbed him but I was to busy 🤣(-:

Folds wrappers into a tiny square and places them inside his cup with the last dregs of his tea. Then places the cup on top of the dishwasher.

Whenever he wants me to do something he begins his sentence with, “Do you just want to...” NO I don’t, “Just want to make a brew.” for example.

Has to google everything. Like "where was this filmed?", "what was that actor in?", "where was that person born?", "what's the currency in Outer Mongolia?", etc etc. He's the looky up king!

Oh thought of another one. Expresses absolute shock that his electric toothbrush needs charging. Every fucking time. “Babe my toothbrush is running out of charge!” Yes dear, they do do that. Every 3 or 4 days. It shouldn’t be such a surprise. Or if I put his on charge for him he’ll enquire as to the where abouts of his toothbrush. On charge I’ll say. Oh did it need charging again? No dear, my day is just so empty I fill my time completing menial tasks that don’t actually need doing. Just to fill the time until you come home and we can discuss the surprising news that your toothbrush has run out of charge. Again. Like it did a few days ago and like it will again in another few days.

Washes up (for me, apparently ) but never ever does the cutlery so I'm left with a washing up bowl of greasy water hotter than the sun with a pile of cutlery at the bottom.

Never closes cupboard doors or drawers properly

Leaves used tissues lying around like rancid confetti

Does a weird shout yawn that immediately makes me murderous

Wakes me up 10 minutes before my alarm goes off.

@littledinokitty I get the "are you OK?" Too. ALL the time, at least 5 times a day. He knows it gets on my nerves but it's a habit he can't break!!

So many things..
But number one has to be taking a sip of wine, whisky or beer and holding it in his mouth for about a minute. Why? And he has this tight little horizontal mouth thing while it’s in there, and if you ask him a question he says ‘hmm’ with the tight little horizontal fucking mouth

@Pizzaistheanswer I do realise how bad some of that sounds, like like the mocking people when he's arguing with them, but that's the way his whole family are. He had a really terrible childhood. Alcoholic, drug taking, abusive parents. Lots of siblings and they were all a bit feral and grew up in a really rough area, and it doesn't seem to have been able to realise that some of the things that happened to him aren't right. He's quite cut off emotionally in that nothing offends or upsets him. I could say anything to him and he wouldn't bat an eye.
He also grew up in a shithole so thinks I'm obsessive about cleaning, which is why I think he thinks its my job, also because I wfh he thinks I have the life of Riley and should be able to get it all done during the day.
As for the feeding the dog, its things that he thinks the dog will like to eat. Like sausages which he would have snatched off you when he wasbyounger, but now he's old, I think he realises that these things don't agree with him so hesitates to eat them now.

Not making excuses, I just know why he does some of the things he does. Its easy to see when you are around his family. He is one of the most generous and loving people I know though. Just has quite a few problems (including the gambling, which he was introduced to very young. Just can't admit its a problem).
I have thought about ending it many times, but I'm in no way perfect and he puts up with me.

Weird burp thing that sounds like a big fat toad 😡

Rubs his eyes and one of them squeaks!

He doesn't turn over in bed like a normal person, it's like the orca show at Seaworld.

Snores.
Chews really loudly, particularly apples.
Walks past and 'didn't see' stuff like mess kids have left on the floor, or clean laundry to go upstairs.

@MoonDelay @littledinokitty oh god this is me! It drives DP insane but he’s either the happiest man alive and enthusiastic about everything or wants to sit silently and not speak and the sitting quietly makes me concerned he’s not okay so I have to check

Puts my things in random places, forgets where he’s put them, is adamant he hasn’t moved them, then remembers much later.

Says he’s ‘cooking’ or will be ‘busy cooking’ when he means shoving something in the oven and standing there for 20 mins watching the football.

@MoonDelay @littledinokitty

Mine does this! Constantly asking if I’m ok. ALL.THE.TIME

Yesterday evening I was sitting next to him watching a programme, not speaking, not looking his way, nothing unusual at all. “Are you ok?” YES!

First thing in the morning, open my eyes, look at ceiling,

“Are you ok?” YES!

Looking at my phone, crafting a text to a friend,

“Are you ok?” FUCK OFF!!!!!!!!

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion Fair enough, it sounded so much like my abusive ex (who also grew up with abuse) that I couldn't think properly for the sound of alarm bells, but of course it's a thread about the bad stuff.

Apologies for being so trigger happy!

Starting a conversation when I'm counting my knitting or watching tv with headphones. Then complains that I don't answer him. :)

@Oysterbabe

He doesn't turn over in bed like a normal person, it's like the orca show at Seaworld.

I know that feeling. Or he lifts the entire duvet to get in, making me cold.

I can get into bed without him even realising. Because I only lift the part of the duvet that I need to actually get in the bed.

He went through a phase of watching me prep veg and would ask if that was the best way - until I gave him the knife and said he should do it all the time then as he obviously knew better. Never again has he uttered those words.

@Pizzaistheanswer, thanks for the supportive message though. He does back down when he's told, and I certainly don't live in fear of him. He just pisses me off no end, and has A LOT of annoying personality traits.

Mine will also get things into his head while driving, and wants me to Google everything for him right that very minute, because it can't wait 15 minutes until we get home.

Or if we watch a film or TV progtogether he talks through it I am very much a silent watcher and can't stand chit chat. I used to go to the pictures alone on my odd days off so I could sit in silence.

Also sometimes he puts head phones in yo watch things on his phone, but then shouts everything he needs to say because he won't take the head phones out.

@MoonDelay @Weave it's infuriating isn't it! Then after the 5th time in an evening I'd snap at him and he'd look all hurt 🙄

@weave that did make me lol 😆 it's so annoying though. I get over- hugged too. I like hugs but I also like my own space and I go quiet after chatting and being animated. I need down time for a while. I do things that annoy him too but he doesn't complain, it's just me haha

I do a few things on this thread too though... leaving egg shells in the egg box. My dad has always done this so I do too! It doesn't seem to bother anyone else though.