Would you want to be told if your husband was cheating.

[MessyMummy15]

I don't want to be outing.
But I'm in a position where I have found out someone has cheated on his partner.

He doesn't want to tell her.
She doesn't know.
I am good friends with both but finding it hard to remain impartial.

Would you tell her?
Would you want to know if your partner had cheated?
should I just keep my nose out?

In the end either way you will probably lose this friendship.

I would say please tell her. I knew a girl whose bf popped up on another acquaintances tinder, and we never told her bc it just seemed like shoving our noses where they don't belong. That girl ended up moving to Australia for him and then getting screwed over!! I wish I had told her so she had all the info before making that kind of jump

Yes i would want to know so would 100 tell her. He has no respect for her and could be giving her crabs, chlamydia or hpv.

Yes I’d want to know! I found out my DH had cheated and it hurt that nobody told me.

Yes. Always tell, no exceptions, no excuses.

Yes I would want to know.
But it does depend on personality..

not only would I want to know, but I'd be pissed off if I found out a friend knew and didn't tell me.

Yes

Yes I’d want to know. Sorry you are in this position op

Tell her. Your friendship with him should already be over.

Yes I would want to know, yes I would tell her

I would like to know, however, depending on who is telling me, I may not believe.

Yes yes and yes. Always. A friend told me a long time ago that my then partner ( and father of Dc1) was cheating and it was the final confirmation I needed that I was in a deeply unhealthy dysfunctional relationship. I have since moved on to happier things and will always be grateful to her.

I think it’s a tough one. Given you’re a friend then yes I’d want to be told as I wouldn’t want to find out you knew and hadn’t told me if it all came out.

If you were an acquaintance / someone else then I’d rather not know. I wish I hadn’t ever found out about DHs affair. Although I think it also depends on whether the affair is over / ending.

I would definitely want to know but you are in a no win situation here.