To think that 2 pieces of toast does not warrant using a farkin dinner plate??!

[theUrbanDryad]

dh always uses a dinner plate for his 2 pieces of morning toast. why can't he get it through his head that a small plate would do? it's more washing up for me!

also - why can't he put his dirty washing in the washing basket, rather than flinging it in the general direction? i don't even care that much if he does it with his clothes (means they don't get washed though) but he does it with ds' as well and it drives me up the farking wall!!

and - when i ask him about these things - why does he think it's ok to accuse me of "attacking" him and go into injured sulk mode for most of the evening??

ARRRRRRRRRRGH!

ah, that feels better.

but, AIBU?

Well, I wouldn't comment on it if dh used the "wrong" spoon, plate etc, because I know that I am being unreasonable, but it still doesn't stop it from irritating me ( in the same way as a shelf of books in the library that have been put back in the wrong order).

I know I am fairly abnormal with my obsessive tendencies, so I try not to be critical, but there are still loads of things that annoy me!

FFS its a plate YABVU! Have you ever thought that buttering 2 slices of toast creates less mess on the work top than using a small plate, where all the crumbs drop off the edge? Thats why I use a dinner plate instead of a small one.

YANBU about the laundry in the basket though, that would hack me off. So we don't have one, everything gets put straight into the machine!

MaryBleedinShelley - cannot buy more plates as this will lead to them breeding in the sink, along with the washing up sponge, festering in the sink with stale water, butter blobs, jam, etc etc.

sorry thats meant to read 'buttering 2 slices of toast on a dinner plate creates....'

LA what about Fairy Liquid - remeber i washed up at yr house

Urban you are mad child!!!!!!!

get him some cereal bars

And Tori you use a big plate cos you eat half a loaf in toast

Urban you are mad child!!!!!!!

get him some cereal bars

And Tori you use a big plate cos you eat half a loaf in toast

Who was it who asked what small plates are for?
They are for CAKE!

Ohhhhhhhh yes! Phew!

I hate when people don't rinse after washing. I wash up again if there is evidence of that happening.

Mind you, you don't share tea towel issues with me do you. I have tea towel use phobia

Coffee when I am just a teeny little bit more sorted unless you want to visit us on a cricket weekend? V. welcome

i rinse after washing up (which of course takes more time, if it's a big plate, plus more water of course! ) and also have tea towel phobia, euurgh disgusting things breeding germs, all damp

Shosh - cereal bars are a fab idea, but are expensive, and we are Very Poor at the moment.

Orangina - i've only got one ds and he's 9mo, so it's not like i don't have time to wash up (although he can be demanding, don't get me wrong!)

bulk supply of paper plates. only way forward.

i think you may be right legalalien...

UD:

"1) put bread in toaster
2) get small plate, place on chopping board (which is handily located next to the toaster)
3) put 1 slice toast on board, 1 slice on plate. butter.
4) put both slices of toast on plate
5) eat"

What about the Jam/Marmalade factor? Two slices on top of each other on a small plate? Jam getting onto the bottom of the second slice of toast?

Completely unacceptable.

PMSL theUrbanDryad - your dh sounds like my dp.

Even at lunch today (he was working from home). He made lunch (lovely) mine and ds's lunch served on small plate.. he has his on dinner plate makes no sense at all. His reason for using a large plate was that he had crusts on his bread. I personally think it a a male ego type thing. 'Me have big plate, me big man'.

Ditto the laundry thing too...

My added moan is that dp eats so darn fast, i barely sit down to eat and he is nearly finished. Really gets on my nerves.

DaDaDa - it doesn't matter if you have a bit of jam on the bottom of your toast! anyway, you can put 2 pieces of toast side by side on a small plate!

Poppycock, you can't have 2 pieces side by side on a small plate - they'll overhang the sides and slide off.

As for Jam on the bottom of the toast - that's where I get OCD-esque. Totally wrong.

Small plate = cake. Definitely.

you can use a fucking whole service if you want in this house

this is becuase you use it
you wash it

everyone who lives here is....... A GROWN UP shock fucking horror

tap and fairy - non of this dishwasher must be full shit.

tap and fairy

tell your dh he is a lazy fucker and as a grown man he should wash his own fucking plate.

tell him i said so
and next time he does it i will kick his shins - with steal toe caps

but Custy - i feel guilty, cause he works...

Urbandryad my DH always uses a dinnerplate for 2 bits of toast too, and I seethe every morning after he's gone to bed (he works nights) to see plate and mug left on the table for the cleaning up fairy to deal with

I've tried just leaving it (got to 3 dinnerplates and 6 mugs) but it encourages the dog to climb on the table so it's not a good idea.

He also leaves his dirty clothes next to the laundry basket; behind the bathroom door; and on the bannister on top of the damp clean clothes I've hung there to dry.

you don't work?

have you ever even seen a wohm v's sahm thread?

I sympathise, but it really can't be more washing up1 a plate is a plate regardless of size. I like a big plate for 2 pieces of toast - its the spreading. Or I eat off the breadboard.

I always remember my friend to her ex-flatmate 'a plate is not just to rest your food on, it stops you dropping crumbs all over the floor, and jam on the toilet seat'.

custy - i have, not sure of the relevance here though?

i don't work at the moment, because it's not financially viable for us. after i'd paid out childcare costs, the best i could do is break even. so i'd be putting my ds into daycare for nothing. also, ds is still 90% bf-ed, so it would be very traumatic for him to be away from me all day. the other option is for me to go out to work while dh stays at home, but he has a higher salary than me, so that makes no financial sense.

apart from anything else, i didn't go through 9 months of pregnancy and go through 7 shades of shit establishing breastfeeding, just so i could pay someone else to look after my kid. although i accept that being a SAHM isn't for every woman, i (mostly) enjoy it, and when our kid(s) are school age, i'll go back to work.

not sure why i felt the need to justify myself there, but i obviously did.

btw - i just had 2 pieces of toast and maramlade. ate off the bread board. no crumbs, no washing up (dh got up too late to have breakfast this morning!!)

also - although i know i'm entering muddy waters here, and perhaps i should start another thread - i've never understood the need for it to be SAHMs vs WOHMs. we're all mums, we all make different choices, and we all have to live with them. it doesn't make you a better mum if you go out to work, and it doesn't make you a better mum if you stay at home, just the same as giving birth in a pool bellowing like a whale doesn't make you more of a valid person than having a c-section, and just the same as ff-ing doesn't make you less of a valid person than bf-ing.

we're all doing our best, as parents, as mums. why, why, why do we feel the need to pick at each other constantly? we should be supporting each other! we're all women, we're all mothers! why this constant competition? what purpose does it serve, other than to make us feel shit about ourselves?

the reason i started this thread was a moment of exasperation, coupled with exhaustion and anger at the fact that my dh is such a slob and makes my day 10 times harder by simply not thinking. as with most things, we could make other people's lives a lot nicer and easier if we weren't so fucking self-centred all the time, and just thought about something other than ourselves once in a while.