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Sayings / arguments on Mumsnet that you hate?

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Polkapoo · 17/09/2020 18:40

There's a few but one I see often that just makes me Hmm is 'what if they were your kids?'.

It's obviously always said in response to someone who is not the child's parent and therefore surely a completely pointless argument?!

What others do you always see and eye roll at?

OP posts:
Spiderbaby8 · 19/09/2020 21:17

That if you don't name your child some common British name like William/Edward/Andrew they will never get a professional job in 20 years time.

ShebaShimmyShake · 19/09/2020 21:23

@MamaGothel

I just hate the pile-ons. If the last 10 posters have said the exact same thing you are going to say, just don't bother. Wait for the OP to respond.
I think a response function would help with this enormously. On the one hand, I think it can be useful to get an idea of what the general consensus is, if there is one. I also don't think responses should be limited to who got there first. On the other, these things do have an effect and it isn't always in anyone's best interests to have a thread go this way. If we could have an "agree" or "like" button, that could show when people are largely in agreement without people feeling a need to type it all out again.
Nottherealslimshady · 19/09/2020 21:24

Raising children vegetarian is forcing your beliefs on them. All of raising children is forcing your beliefs on them, it's the whole point of parenting. You want to teach your children not to snatch toys off other children or to fear/respect God, I want to teach mine not to contribute to the abuse and murder of sentient animals 🤷‍♀️

StillCoughingandLaughing · 19/09/2020 21:27

‘The car’ and ‘the garden’. Not an issue with the phrases themselves, but the way some posters assume they exist for the OP. E.g. :

‘My kids are driving me mad and I can’t cope’. ‘Can’t you stick them in the garden for a bit?’

‘I’m having the most horrendous day. I feel like I’m about to flip’. ‘Just get in the car and drive; you need a break’.

Does it really never occur to some people that quite a lot of people don’t have a car or garden? It’s not even a question of money; lots of reasonably affluent people in London live in flats and don’t have cars. There’s an assumption in certain corners of MN that we all have, or at least aspire to, detached properties with large gardens.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 19/09/2020 21:29

It’s funny isn’t it, @Nottherealslimshady, that no one seems to suggest that feeding children meat is ‘forcing’ an omnivorous lifestyle on them?

brushandmop · 19/09/2020 21:32

@chrislilleyswig very long time ago I was originally from Castle Douglas!

MamaGothel · 19/09/2020 21:35

Sheba I think a "like" function could be really interesting. I think the issue I have is that it can be really intimidating to offer a different view when there are 2 or 3 pages full of one opinion, having an option for posters to agree without making a separate post could help to balance opinions a bit.

silentpool · 19/09/2020 21:36

Educate yourself.

ddl1 · 19/09/2020 22:11

Like a few others, I can't stand 'boils my piss'. It boils ... well no it doesn't do anything so graphic; it just makes me cross!

The overuse of 'entitled' snd 'enabler'. Not that these characteristics don't exist but I think they are sometimes overused.

Not an expression, but I sometimes find a certain intolerance of people who can't drive. As someone who has invisible disabilities that prevent me from driving, I find intolerance of that very upsetting; and it's not always obvious when someone has a genuine reason.

MandyGalbandi · 19/09/2020 22:13

Haven't read all the comments but surely most people get annoyed with the strange use of Think on Mumsnet.( As in I had my tea: think, chicken nuggets) it really gets on my wick.

ShebaShimmyShake · 19/09/2020 22:21

@MamaGothel

Sheba I think a "like" function could be really interesting. I think the issue I have is that it can be really intimidating to offer a different view when there are 2 or 3 pages full of one opinion, having an option for posters to agree without making a separate post could help to balance opinions a bit.
Yes, that too...then you probably wouldn't feel so intimidated even if there were a few posts with a bazillion "likes" on them.

I know some people don't like those systems because they think that people will compete for "likes". I don't think this really happens unless there's some kind of reward for many likes (which is why I prefer it to an "upvoting" system). It just helps you leave your view without creating the kind of situation you're talking about, which can come over as hostile.

imfatletsparty · 19/09/2020 22:34

"Are you very young? You sound young."

Lily193 · 19/09/2020 22:38

'Posh crisps' or anything else preceded by 'posh'

Family money

MrsDrudge · 19/09/2020 22:46

Howling
Used to sneer at posts and suggest they are so ignorant or ridiculous as to make people howl with laughter. Whereas it suggests to me a werewolf or hyena (not too far off from people using it sometimes...)

Often followed by “ educate yourself” - a smidge away from calling someone an ignoramus, or thick.

Both snide and say plenty about the people using these terms.

End of rant.

Thisischocolate · 19/09/2020 22:53

“Point them in the direction of the fruit bowl”

If the DC are hungry posters claim this is all they should be offered between meals, and if they don’t want any then they aren’t hungry. Fruit might be good for you but it’s also loaded with sugar and won’t fill you up like a healthy protein-based snack will.

rayoflightboy · 19/09/2020 22:54

Or not realising not everyone is from the UK.
You always get a smart arse trying to trip someone up.Cause they posted at 4am[UK time]about going to the off licence,gym,school.Doesnt occur to anyone that maybe its night time,day time where they are.

WaterOffADucksCrack · 19/09/2020 22:55

@ShebaShimmyShake it wasn't "gently taking the mick". And the fact you've followed me around mumsnet and are now insulting me for no reason is concerning. It says a lot about you. I'm glad you think me having to learn English on my own due to being forced out of my home country is funny to you though.

Viviennemary · 19/09/2020 22:58

Family money irritates me too. Till the partner disappears into the horizon with the family money ie their salary.

80sbambino · 19/09/2020 22:58

‘Have your arse handed to you.’

It makes me think of an arse being presented in a silver cloche by a waiter.

CoopsMalloops · 19/09/2020 23:00

“You sound unhinged” 😫

WaterOffADucksCrack · 19/09/2020 23:11

It makes me think of an arse being presented in a silver cloche by a waiter I had to google what a cloche was and I'm so glad I did 😂 It's a powerful image!

SinisterBumFacedCat · 19/09/2020 23:26

WTF is with every other thread starting with “WTF?!??” at the moment Confused

maybelaterdear · 19/09/2020 23:41

Can someone please tell me what the little flower means?Can't find it on my phone.See it used a lot.

Sciencebabe · 19/09/2020 23:44

'put/get him/it/them in the bin'

Marmaladey · 20/09/2020 00:43

The smug “well if that were me I would have said/done this” responses to everything. Because obviously we all think of the absolute perfect response in the heat of the moment, and not 5 hours later while sat on the loo.

The humorous poems. Maybe the first one is funny, but then they just keep coming. Each one worse than the one before.

But my top has to be the much mentioned on this thread already “are you on glue?” It has never been funny.

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