Sayings / arguments on Mumsnet that you hate?

[Polkapoo]

There's a few but one I see often that just makes me is 'what if they were your kids?'.

It's obviously always said in response to someone who is not the child's parent and therefore surely a completely pointless argument?!

What others do you always see and eye roll at?

Yes same spelling. Also windy (as in weather) and windy (as in curved).

Its the humble bragging.
Someone mentioned this one earlier, but posts along the lines of 'is £10,000 per month of disposable income enough for me and my pony to live off '
Please everyone look at my million(s) pound / 30 acre small holding and tell me why is it not selling. You never get someone asking about their terraced house in Preston.
Threads about cleaners ' Should I fire my cleaner, for knocking over my bottle of Bollinger.

Thanks Toasty I didn't know that one either. I clearly wasn't listening the day I was meant to learn this stuff.

"Smile sweetly" given as advice when the op is dealing with someone they don't like. Usually followed by "and ask her if she meant to be so rude". It makes me irrationally angry and makes the poster seem like an idiot.

'Get a grip' and 'You sound unhinged'. So unnecessarily nasty.

"Just that really" after putting the whole question in the title

I do not understand the personal attacks on here. I can only presume so many posters are nasty in real life.

Posts that are full of unintended irony/hypocrisy usually slagging someone off in one breath then telling that same person they need to be kind. People on a diversity high horse then telling another poster what they can and cannot think.

People who insist on telling you rather vaguely about their job title and then thinking it gives them a monopoly over what is the right and wrong answer, eg “I work in a school (think big building lots of kids) so any answer I give is the only acceptable answer in relation to children” or “I’m a lawyer (who seem to comprise 50% of the MN demographic) So any answer I give on anything is the final word on anything”. (Obviously not all lawyers on here are like that).

I really hate when the default comment is 'I would just leave him' and quick to give advice on divorcing. It's like marriage means nothing! Some cases are clear but it seems the advice is hardly ever to work on your marriage because it's precious and worth fighting for.

Should I fire my cleaner, for knocking over my bottle of Bollinger.

Bollinger, no.

Louis Roederer Cristal Brut 1982 Millennium Cuvee Methuselah, perhaps.

Sanpro

Nobody uses this term surely?

@ChelseeDagger

Sanpro

Nobody uses this term surely?

Americans.

Posters who argue "after school fees, house payment, cars, food and adding to the savings pot we have nothing left!" Huge eye roll.

When people have a post about helping their adult children you always get posters saying, "Ridiculous OP, When I was 18 I was a single mum to 5 kids, a morgage, worked a 60 hour week and 4 hour commute". It's like well done to you, but it's irrelevant to this situation.

Eh?

Absolutely loathe it. Deliberately being obtuse.

There is a definite mind set on here that 18 yos are adults and should be 100%.independent. The real world just isn't like that. The majority of kids are in their mid 20s before they move out / hit independence. Uni supported by parents doesn't count as independence.

@TorkTorkBam

I am American and I had to look up "sanpro".
I have never, ever seen the word, never mind heard it but it's on here a great deal. That one is all your lot in the UK!!

[quote elp30]@TorkTorkBam

I am American and I had to look up "sanpro".
I have never, ever seen the word, never mind heard it but it's on here a great deal. That one is all your lot in the UK!!
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I agree. I live in the US and the only place I have seen or heard sanpro is on Mumsnet.

I want to move to Scotland

I'm struggling to put my finger on why these annoy me so much

Yes Scotland is a village. You can move here. It's exactly the same throughout the whole country.

GTF. Or to coin the very common phrase. Get tae fuck

When people have a post about helping their adult children
When I wrote a post about my adult son coming back to live with me for a while.I got my arse handed to me.

I think some posters don't realise life changes quickly for some people.And life turns shit.

My "girls' welfare" teacher in the 80s used to talk about sanpro. You were supposed to put it in the Bunny to incinerate it. Don't think anyone ever did.

Everyone is a 'DP'. Dating someone for 5 minutes? He's 'DP'. I find the opposite on mumsnet! If you've been together 20 years but don't live together valid reasons he's just a boyfriend and there is no commitment there. Equally people thinking marriage is the only way for women to protect themselves when they have children! Imo it's much better to make the relationship equal so split parental leave and both go back to work. Many women don't seem to want to do that though sadly.

"Personally" and/or "but that's just me". Usually said after something everyone does/wants like "personally I'm trying to bring my children up to be good people, but that's just me". You can feel the smugness! As if everyone else is trying to bring their children up to be bad people!

@rayoflightboy

When people have a post about helping their adult children When I wrote a post about my adult son coming back to live with me for a while.I got my arse handed to me.

I think some posters don't realise life changes quickly for some people.And life turns shit.

Presumably ten years down the line these will be the families where a mum to a toddler is desperate for someone to look after the toddler so that her partner can be with her whilst she gives birth to her second child and her mother is refusing because it might clash with book club/she has already raised her family/it would involve changing trains half way through the journey.

I can't stand any of the posts about how often people shower, wash their towels, wash their bedding etc. They seem to be full of people making out that someone else is filthy because they don't shower 2 or 3 times every day and don't wash all towels after every use. You usually get a "Don't come on here telling me this is bad for the environment" type of post on those threads. It is bad for the environment to use all that water and fuel to heat the water.

Can't stand posts where people seem to have absolutely no concept of the financial struggles people are in. "Sell some bits on e-bay" "Take in some ironing"

The one thing that some people do which really drives me mad is come onto a thread and claim that Mumsnetters wrote the opposite replies on a thread the day or week before, in other words claiming that posters are inconsistent. eg. Just last week posters were shouting about wanting facemasks to be made compulsory or yesterday posters were saying that x was true, now they are saying y.
They don't seem to get the fact that different posters respond to different threads or that different wording in the OP can lead to different responses.

"What did they say when you talked to them about that?"
Usually said when the poster knows full well that the OP has not yet talked to the person about whatever the problem is because they've come onto Mumsnet for some advice before tackling the problem.
Why the need to say it in such a nasty manner? If you think the OP should talk to the person then just say it instead of that horrible passive aggressive response.

"What are you going to do" over and over when it's evident the poster doesn't have a clue otherwise they wouldn't be posting for advice! It's like they're wanting the OP to say I've left my husband and now have a high flying career 10 mins after posting.