Sayings / arguments on Mumsnet that you hate?

[Polkapoo]

There's a few but one I see often that just makes me is 'what if they were your kids?'.

It's obviously always said in response to someone who is not the child's parent and therefore surely a completely pointless argument?!

What others do you always see and eye roll at?

100% of the A said this to B or and Jane did this Sam etc. I have read can be shortened to just the original poster wanting to be told they are in the right

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

I also dislike the posters who read a long, heartbreaking thread on relationships and simply write -

Run

Or

Run. Now.

I always wonder if they sit and read someones problems and sit smugly on their phone dishing out their groundbreaking, earth shattering, wonderful advice thinking they have improved someones life immeasurably with their word/s.

The hills are that way

@Monkeynuts18

Such a minor one but I really hate ‘fast forward to now’ or ‘fast forward two years’ when telling a story. Your life isn’t a film.

well yes, but it's even more irritating when the post is almost a page long because they haven't fast forwarded. especially the ones with no paragraphs or breaks.

Kids - who gave birth to goats?

@stayathomer

DH, DS, DD, DM, DMil etc. Just type my husband, my son or whatever. It's more confusing when there's even more acronyms used, cant think of the example but some are so confusing!!

It's even worse when they go on to describe "D"H, "D"M etc being a complete shit, and clearly not a a dear anything.

Have RTFT and I'm amazed that nobody has cited having the rage!
You are angry, you are enraged - you don't have "the rage" - it really winds me up, every time.

A post that simply links to something crap - like a daily mail headline, and asks 'what do you think of this?'
If I wanted to read the daily mail and form an opinion I would.

And don;t, isn;t, she;s,,,, - because that's mostly me, and my fat fingers have hit the wrong key, Again. (gives me the rage!)

Police. Now.

Vanishingly small.

The phrase 'red flag' being thrown around in completely innocuous situations.

The very try-hard overuse of Fuck. Posts are peppered with it like it gives the user some kind of gravitas. It doesn't - you sound like a 12 year old knob desperately trying to impress their friends online with how cool and grown-up you are. And i'm very sweary in real life.

Also, the smug lunchbox mummies who claim that their primary aged kid is just thrilled to have a pot of hoummous and 'raw veggies' in their school packed lunch, instead of a cheese sandwich and Hula Hoops like everyone else in the class.

@NoSquirrels

“Education is not childcare”

Not because I undervalue teachers and education, but because it’s a dumb saying that nearly always misses the point a poster is trying to make.

Agree with this as it’s astoundingly thick. Of course we all keep a nanny on retainer for potential sick days.

‘Fast forward to...’

New Covid related terminology like ‘shielding’. I don’t know why 🤷‍♀️

"Get a grip"

So condescending.

Do we need another thread on this, OP?

Probably been mentioned but "gently"

"I gently told her to fuck off and now she's upset"

@Anordinarymum

'Put your big pants on'.

Excuse me but only me knows what size my pants are.. well I'm saying that but of course the man next door knows obviously. He sees them on my washing line and they require two pegs

When somebody trots out the WHO advice on BF in any thread on bf 4 year olds. Pretty sure the WHO advice doesn’t have little Jonty from Henley on Thames in mind with that advice.

'You knew he had children when you met him'. This magical crystal ball that only exists in Mumsnet land

How dare you complain about your stepdaughter who was fine at 4 but has turned into a devil child at 13

Yep. And the worst thing about this is that no one would ever say to a parent who was complaining about their own teenager/child, whatever 'you knew what having kids would be like...' because people seem able to accept that actually no, a lot of people don't know what it's like until they have them and therefore things can be a bit of a struggle sometimes. Except if you're a step parent obviously then you're just supposed to know everything that may happen, ever.

Probably been said, but when ‘why’ is moved to the end of the sentence as in:
And you had children with this man, why?
Sometimes the use of flowers makes me cringe a bit too. Your husband is a total shit OP. I’m so sorry

Also the accusation of "drip feeding".

If the OP hasn't laid out their entire life story out in the first post, the angry drip feed accusations get rolled out. In MN terms, I believe it's a crime akin to strangling a puppy with your bare hands.

“Doing my hobby”. I have never, ever heard anyone refer to their “hobbies” in real life.

HTH.
A pathetic attempt to shut down an argument. It's like the equivalent to sticking your fingers in your ears and going laalalalalaaaaa so you don't have to listen to someone else's point of view.

. If you’ve got something to say just say it.

Same goes for a response consisting of and nothing else. It always means one of two things - either ‘I don’t want to troll-hunt in so many words as my post will get deleted, but I just have to let the world know how clever I am for spotting a lie’; or ‘I disapprove and/or think you’re a bit common, to the point that I don’t even need words to express my disdain’. Why is there never a house brick nearby when you need one?

"What do you get from this relationship now?" On every single thread in Relationships.

I also hate 'gentle' or 'gently'
'gentle reminder' 'gentle parenting'

Tinkly laugh does my head in !!!!!!

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay

I have just read the whole thread too and like you expected to see “gives me the rage” many times. 🙂 That is my most disliked phrase on MN. I have never heard it in real life.

I also hate talk of “hobbies”, it is usually “DH’s hobbies”. Why not just say “DH goes to the gym / cycles/ plays computer games three times a week”. The author appears to think they need to say “hobbies” because if they said what it actually was they would be “outing” themselves, when of course they really wouldn’t.

And the worst thing about this is that no one would ever say to a parent who was complaining about their own teenager/child, whatever 'you knew what having kids would be like...' because people seem able to accept that actually no, a lot of people don't know what it's like until they have them and therefore things can be a bit of a struggle sometimes.

I'm not so sure about that. I'm thinking of all those posters who ask if it would be terrible to have a doze on the sofa whilst their 3 year old watches CBeebies on a Saturday morning because they aren't feeling well and are just worn out. Loads of people will jump in with 'you knew that there would be no lie ins with children, it's just lazy parenting'. Then they'll produce a newspaper story about a child being abducted from their own home whilst their mother dozed on the sofa as proof that if you aren't staring intently at your child at all times, they will be abducted and murdered. But the story will be from 25 years ago and it will be from somewhere like Brazil. And this will be the gotcha moment used as evidence that a child living in a middle class suburb of a UK town will be in grave danger if their exhausted mother has a doze whilst they play.

How every MIL is a Narc.No matter what she has done.

Would love to hear teh Mils take on it sometimes.Bet it would be eye opening.