Sayings / arguments on Mumsnet that you hate?

[Polkapoo]

There's a few but one I see often that just makes me is 'what if they were your kids?'.

It's obviously always said in response to someone who is not the child's parent and therefore surely a completely pointless argument?!

What others do you always see and eye roll at?

A stepmother thread ...

I maybe biased as shock horror I am a stepmum myself .

But as soon as the word stepmother is involved your automatically in the wrong , you could be the nicest person in the world , but no because your a stepmum your bad ... followed by , you knew he had kids when you got with him .

@Stinkyguineapig

Another vote for Give your head a wobble and get your ducks in a row. The other thing I hate is the superior type supermum. OP: I'm really struggling with my toddler and newborn Replies : my DH had 15 min paternity leave, all my family live 10 hours drive away, I had 6 children under 4 and went back to work when the youngest was 3 hours old, so I think you'll manage.

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I always used to hate “did you mean to be so rude” but decided one day to try it out in real life. The person I said it to was very taken aback and apologised. I was amazed at how well it worked.

I will hate “no is a complete sentence” until the day I die. There are very few circumstances in which it would be anything other than rude and unnecessarily combative.

Like others, I hate those black and white posters who don’t seem to grasp you can have a range of feelings about different issues and life isn’t always all or nothing.

E.g....

OP: ‘I’m missing my mum, she’s self isolating and I know it’s safest we don’t see each other but I miss being able to hug her’.

Poster: ‘Well think of the families who have lost their loved ones to Covid. Can they hug them? Exactly’

OP: ‘I had a really bad day at work, then I realised I had a flat tyre so had to get towed, and DS is going through a difficult patch so I had a really tiring evening. Feel a bit lost at the moment’

Poster: ‘it seems a by much to moan about such small things. Some people can’t even get jobs, or afford cars, and don’t even have a DS!! At least you’re not living in a war torn country’

It’s perfectly possible to be upset at a range of different things with different levels of sadness!

Here's my list of irritations that I've seen on MN but also elsewhere (sorry I'm digressing a bit here)

Give your head a wobble
Picky tea
Chippy tea
Girlie (why not say girl ??)
Dinky or ickle to describe small
Nesting
Rooting for someone
Nip in the bud
Holibobs
Cheeky gin/wine/takeaway
Making memories
Living their best life
Having a pamper
Anything prosecco related
Winner winner chicken dinner
Softly softly catchy monkey (or whatever the phrase is!)
Lil instead of little

God I sound like a real miserable old sod here !!!

After reading my list back I've gone off topic a bit sorry. Got carried away!!

“Your baby your rules” - don’t see that here all that often but it is always in response to an OP doing something that goes against the most basic care guidelines.

Unnecessary capitals to make something sound even more official/important than it is: "my Diabetic Diet"; "DD's Piano Exam": "he's a Fully Qualified Chiropractor".

Adding letters to emphasise a word. Usually the wrong letters. I can just about understand "gives me the raaaaaage!" (although I don't like it particularly), but "gives me the raaageeeee!" is silly.
Who says "ragey"?

If x has happened why aren't you doing y instead of posting on here.

Seriously do people not think posters will do y before faffing on MN???

I'd no idea that seriously injured people don't cry, hours after the event, feeling a traumatised worried about long term damage and nobody to talk to in RL I turned to MN. One of the first replies was why are you on here and not at A&E!

I also dislike the posters who read a long, heartbreaking thread on relationships and simply write -

Run

Or

Run. Now.

I always wonder if they sit and read someones problems and sit smugly on their phone dishing out their groundbreaking, earth shattering, wonderful advice thinking they have improved someones life immeasurably with their word/s.

Hi all, my name is Mary and my husbands name is Peter, I'm 33 and he's 35, we have two children, our son is seven and our daughter is five, we have been together twelve years, just wondering if anyone else has a similar issue to us...............

First response, very vague op , it would help if you told us if you had children

Second response, it all depends on what age the children are

Third response, are you married op, what age are you

How can anyone here possibly help you when we don't know if you have boys or girls.

Drives me bloody mad!!

I mean this genuinely but it would be easier if people who post a story or long post say 'only reply if you agree with me' or 'I am just letting it all out you don't have to answer for me' or 'I get you think I mad I am just writing to get my thoughts together'

in a forum people are going to reply what they think but if the original poster does not want replies just say so or you will get people telling you

Give your head a wobble.

. If you’ve got something to say just say it.

This thread is brilliant OP, "you need to set boundaries" I've not seen it as much in the last year or so but it used to be said on every thread.
I remember one poster moaning how her DH had eaten the nice food from the fridge (clearly just venting) and someone came along and told her she needed boundaries in place....over an item in a fridge

"I say this kindly" and its multiple variants. I don't know why it annoys me so much. Probably because I've never heard anyone say it, ever.

Thanks for this thread, OP. I know I've used some of these, and I should stop doing it. Reading them back is entertaining, though.

"Sounds like you hate your step children"
Said piously after said stepchild has done something vile and OP just wants some genuine advice.

"No wonder I'm itching"
Standard response to another sanpro product being scented.

DillonPanthersTexas

Some poor OP who is in shock and still digesting that her marriage of 20 odd years is over is getting henpecked and criticised for not walking out the door by page three of the thread.

100% this

'this says more about you than it does about (them)' to the OP.

Hate that phrase, it's both pompous and trivialising the OP's viewpoint.

Similarly I also hate 'you sound like hard work OP'.

'Youse are just jealous' or similar either sounds like your 8 or been watching too many TOWIE episodes.

Honestly I am really not jealous

I love 'No' is a complete sentence and I think it is very wise. It's very helpful to be able to just say no.

I don't like 'meh'.

It's been said already , but the labelling of your friends from A through to E and telling a complex story about them really annoys me. By sentence two I've no clue who did what and my brain hurts.

I hate the a said to b and b said to c type posts. I cannot read that shit

Please just make up names

In fact don't bother, I can't read fanny said to Jack, jack said to Ernest etc etc blah blah either

I swear I didn't copy off you, skin head!

Also : littlest

Is it actually even a real word?