Is anyone else finding it all a bit much now?

[champagnesupernovainthesky]

Constant doom mongering on the news..... constant fear of school bubble closures.... stress of getting available test if need one...feel like nothing to actually look forward too.... the list goes on....

I suppose I just want to have a moan..... it all just seems to be going on and on with no end in sight again....

Yep
It's why they need to also give recovered figures and how many test percentages instead

@Lemonyfuckit

YADNBU. I found out yesterday I'm being made redundant which has come as a complete shock. I'm petrified about finding a new job in the current climate, worried about family (my DF is waiting on a biopsy result) so coupled with this and the doom and gloom, constant incredulity at just how much this government is cocking everything up, all to be made worse by a no deal Brexit.... I'm usually very optimistic but right now I'm feeling very down indeed.

I'm sorry to hear that.

I'm in a similar boat. I was made redundant at the start of July. I also have sick and vulnerable elderly parents who were in and out of hospital over lockdown with issues which thankfully weren't Covid related but could still have finished them off without me even being able to see them alive again (I don't live nearby).

It has happened again since lockdown eased but this time I was able to go and spend a fortnight looking after them and ensuring adequate care arrangements were in place as their problems will be ongoing now (so I guess being made redundant did have that much going for it, as I had the time to give).

It is shit all around. 2020 has turned out to be the year that just keeps on giving!! Not always in a good way. There have been high points, like my DD getting her A Level results and securing a place at Cambridge so I hold onto that. The day she got that news our whole family ease relieved to finally have a piece of good news to celebrate.

Overall though, the rest of my circumstances have me wondering where the next shower of shit is coming from, and when.

What I’m most fed up with is the government’s increasingly ludicrous set of rules! I mean, after outlawing talking to other people in the street, whatever’s going to come next?!

I like @Heyahuns suggestion of day trips. We've just had to postpone our Family break again as over the numbers so now we've got a week with not many plans for October.

I had been thinking maybe DH and I could go away for a night if we could get someone to look after DS but then it gets messy and complicated, whereas days out are easier to plan. There's a few things we haven't seen locally that I've always meant to do, so can research those.

Frankly, I think anyone who is NOT "finding it all a bit much" isn't really paying attention. The virus itself is one thing, but the government's incompetent handling of it is something else. I presume the Pollyannas on here aren't vulnerable, in danger of getting evicted, or losing their jobs/trying to survive on Universal Credit as a result. There are always some who think if we just adopted a more positive frame of mind, everything would be just fine...

A no-deal Brexit will be the (self-inflicted) icing on the cake.

Overall though, the rest of my circumstances have me wondering where the next shower of shit is coming from, and when.
Well, unless we get struck by a meteor between now and then, it will be when the transition period ends on 31st December if the government doesn't get its act together and start acting in the best interests of its citizens.

YANBU

I have sort of stepped away from it mentally. I know worry about my family, and that's it. I cant take the weight of the world and its mother on my shoulders. It's impossible to stay sane if you try to care about it all. I do what I can to make life normal, I refuse to live in fear or sit in my house forever, and I pessimisticly accept that there is nothing I can do about the situation outside my home.

Yanbu. Feeling similarly.

I literally can't cope with any Brexit discussion. If DH tries to bring it up I have to stop conversation or leave the room.

I can only cope with so much and there is literally nothing I can do as regards to Brexit so I stick my fingers in my ears and go La La La.

@VoyageInTheDark

YANBU I'm having to isolate for 14 days due to DD having a cough and no tests available and it's like being back in March again

Get through the form part of the website to where it tells you there are no drive through or walk in tests available and leave it there - just flip between switch to walk in or switch to drive through periodically and you should be able to snipe one when something comes up remotely accessible.

Took us a good 2 1/2 hours this morning to get one booked next city across.

As for covid and the covid doom mongers - my reply is best summed up by youtube

I know there's a virus out there, I know there's a pandemic... I am out of fucks to give that Sharon on the internet has decided that a broken fingernail is now a symptom of covid and you must burn your house down in response.

Yes I've been down since July. I have really lost myself. I know eventually I'll pop back out of whatever this is. But I'm feeling lost. After being stuck indoors since march. DD goes back to school, gets a cold and now can't go back, due to the lack of tests.

I feel some people have taken it all in their stride and they are out. Having their hair cut, going shopping, eating out and going places. I'm kind of just at home with zero Interest in anything. My energy is crap due to months of minimal life.

I worry that the neighbours workmen think I'm some saddo who never leaves the house. My partner has been working from home since. I worry they think he's a dosser who also never goes out. Ridiculous I feel that way.

I know I need to stick a mask on my face and go to Sainsbury's one weekend. Face up to this shitty new normal and take the kids in the shops. But so far I've dodged it all online. Because I feel like a dick in a mask. My makeup ends up on it. I really hate it. I am one of those who struggles with covering my face. I also hate scarves and hats. I like to be free to breathe in the air.

So yes. I've had enough. It's ruining my life and I'm sure it's ruined many others too.

@userxx

Ah so you want me to die do you?

Quite frankly I'm getting to the point where I don't care and if it makes you shut up then, well you know 🤷‍♂️😉

That made me laugh so hard - thank you.

@rookiemere

I literally can't cope with any Brexit discussion. If DH tries to bring it up I have to stop conversation or leave the room.

I can only cope with so much and there is literally nothing I can do as regards to Brexit so I stick my fingers in my ears and go La La La.

I did the same for a long time. For a good 6 months I banned the words 'Donald Trump' and 'Boris Johnson' from the house.

Also, when DH now says 'did you hear/see this today?' I automatically respond with 'I dont care'.

I am an educated person, DH has a degree in politics, we always discussed and kept up with current affairs and politics. I cant do it anymore. It's too depressing, and like your attitude, there is nothing I can do about any of it, so I refuse to worry about it.

I am beyond fed up.
I miss seeing my dd and going into her home, she has sn(and lds) so I don't think she gets it.
Yet I could play football, go to the pub......
yet can't hug my dd.
I am fed up with people saying the vulnerable should just stay home,
wish to fuck they realised that vulnerable does nor = old.

@ScribblyGum
Thank you for taking the time to tell it like it is 🙏

What depresses me is what Covid has revealed about how fragile capitalism is - how our role is to be consumers and that's all
I agree but surely there is a silver lining here, now that we can all see it plain as day it's harder for those in power to obfuscate.... The people will demand change

@MadameBlobby

So sorry *@Lemonyfuckit*, I was made redundant out of the blue too, it was awful x

MadameBlobby I'm so sorry to hear that too, it's horrible. for you and crossing fingers for all of us in this position that things turn up.

Topseyt I'm so sorry to hear that about your job too and your parents. You're certainly right that 2020 is the year that just keeps on giving. 2020 can do one. I also worry about what is next (in terms of bad news) - I'm normally very optimistic but I feel like I've been very 'lucky' in my life so far, and worried about when that will run out. I'm trying to focus on the most important things, loved ones and their health, (and tell myself we'll just muddle through somehow on the job front) so am crossing everything for your parents too and mine. I'm glad you were able to visit your parents and help with their care. and hang in there.

I do love MN for the support of strangers at difficult times (as well as the humour of the nest of vipers )

Thank you @Lemonyfuckit, I managed to get something so fingers crossed for you x

I was very down yesterday, but feel a bit better today. I think it's all very hard and maybe we should give each other a break for coping in whatever way works for us.

Some people need to catastrophise a bit because it's a way of working through the worst that could happen and going back from there. I don't think I've phrased that very well but it makes me think of when DD was tiny and I'd have 'visions' sometimes that I'd dropped her down the stairs or squashed her, or something. I don't think it's that people WANT all these awful predictions to come true, it's that they want to be prepared if they do and also that they will feel a bit better if they don't because it's not as bad as it might have been.

And others do jigsaws.

The world is not in a great place politically or environmentally at the moment and it can all feel so enormous and overwhelming that it's easy to throw your hands up and say 'oh FUCK THIS'. The really hard bit is doing that, then picking yourself back up and getting on with living in the best way we all can.

I don't have an answer to how to do that. I just feel a lot of sympathy for lots of us all muddling through this shitshow together.

What I’m most fed up with is the government’s increasingly ludicrous set of rules! I mean, after outlawing talking to other people in the street, whatever’s going to come next

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Holocaust

I feel the same

I think this sums it up!

www.facebook.com/watch/?v=916426955466719&extid=O55azKrIZ0u3ka5w

Yes totally.

So much doom and gloom (especially on here). Some of the MN threads feel like we have reached the end of times and then someone will sense and perspective comes along and says 12 people died of covid today and although infections up MOST people are recovering well. Then along comes misery moaner who says only 12 but they were people.... forgetting that people die everyday of other things but no....COVID COVID COVID COVID.

I think I am going slightly mad

I’m with you OP, it feels like there isn’t much to look forward to. I think we’re going to be in this limbo for a long time though so we need to try and accept what is happening and make the most of what we have. It’s going to be a long winter otherwise, that’s for sure.