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Is anyone else finding it all a bit much now?

275 replies

champagnesupernovainthesky · 15/09/2020 21:20

Constant doom mongering on the news..... constant fear of school bubble closures.... stress of getting available test if need one...feel like nothing to actually look forward too.... the list goes on....

I suppose I just want to have a moan..... it all just seems to be going on and on with no end in sight again....

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LastGoldenDaysOfSummer · 16/09/2020 08:04

I don't know anyone who isn't fed up with it.

It has to be endured, unfortunately. There will always be foolish people who think people should just go back to normal despite the dangers to the community but, fortunately, they aren't in charge.

Pretending it isn't a deadly pandemic is just stupid.

KnobChops · 16/09/2020 08:04

@Silvercatowner

We're in the midst of a global pandemic. It's never going to be fun. Heaven help us if an ebola like virus or plauge (with a very high mortality) hits us.
Hmm I suspect people would have more tolerance for this if it was Ebola, which has high mortality. Covid 19 does not have high mortality. It has almost zero mortality risk for people middle aged or younger. These are the people who will be paying the price with unemployment, poverty and ruined education to look forward to. A big ask.
userxx · 16/09/2020 08:07

Ah so you want me to die do you?

Quite frankly I'm getting to the point where I don't care and if it makes you shut up then, well you know 🤷‍♂️😉

Neron · 16/09/2020 08:14

YANBU

I am particularly sick of the self righteousness. Doom on the news, out and about it's the mask police, even on here, multiple threads full of people divided and now people are being urged to report their neighbours.

notheragain4 · 16/09/2020 08:15

I've been feeling like this for the last few years with Brexit and Trump, yearning for a time when politicians were at least expected to look competent. So this year has blown my mind and I'm pretty much at a loss for words.

midgebabe · 16/09/2020 08:23

It The I'm alright Jack attitude , seen clearly when people say oh the risk is low , is what has shocked me over the last few years ...I first noticed it during austerity, then with Brexit

It shows an undoing of civilisation. The human species evolved, and countries succeeded when people started working together, when they could see that their lives would benefit more form long term collective success than from short term individual success

Middle income countries are controlling this virus better than the top of the heap western countries simply because they have a better balance between individual rights and society needs, the Far Eastern countries will rise and the UK and USA will continue to decline in significance over the next centuary because of this

MyPersona · 16/09/2020 08:24

@yawnsvillex

Because *@MyPersona* we should be allowed to do our own risk assessments. I'm amazed you've got this far, are you constantly told what to do and controlled?

That's far more scary than a poxy virus that isn't actually killing anyone!?

The problem is @yawnsvillex that your ‘risk assessment’ potentially affects me. I object to that. You clearly aren’t competent to assess the risk if you believe the poxy virus isn’t killing anyone and haven’t managed to understand the impact on public health and the economy of letting it spread unchecked. Stop getting your information from people similar to yourself on social media and try to access some higher quality information. You can google any words you don’t understand.
Inkpaperstars · 16/09/2020 08:25

Experts have been saying throughout that Covid is a much greater threat than Ebola, I guess because it is much harder to conteol transmission. It isn't the fatality rate they consider so much as a combination of that and how contagious it is.

Tumbleweed101 · 16/09/2020 08:26

I’m struggling more now than earlier in the year. I’ve worked all the way through since March. Homeschooling the children and leaving them home while I was working. Because we were less busy I was doing less hours through lockdown so that wasn’t so bad and they were home together.

I’ve found the ‘pretend’ going back to normal hard. Hate masks as can’t get the glasses steaming up sorted so can’t see half the time I’m in a shop so hardly go out now. There is nowhere to go on spur of moment as you have to prebook.

Two days back to school and my daughters class is having to self isolate for 14 days due to a teacher testing positive. She’s just started Y7 so brand new school. Unfamiliar learning platforms and it’s been tough going. I’m upset her first experience of secondary school is spoiled and she’s not really getting the level of learning she should be. I’m working full time and having to leave her home alone as her siblings are able to go to school whereas during proper lockdown they were all home together. I’m a single parent so have to work if I’m to keep on top of our bills. I can’t use my support bubble as my daughter is isolating and my mum is vulnerable.

This week has just tipped me from barely coping to struggling big time.

In proper lockdown there was an air of novelty to the situation, something unreal that gave meaning to the restrictions. Plus we got daily updates and an idea what what happening. Now there’s no leadership.

On top of all that my eldest daughter has just been laid off as her workplace is so quiet so needs to find a new job 😬.

So... moan over and I have enjoyed things like doing my garden this year but actually I just need a proper holiday now. Away from this house. Yes I know things are worse in other places and for other people but this is where I am with my experiences right now.

ScribblyGum · 16/09/2020 08:31

Yeah, I’m finding all a bit much now.

I have a dread fear in the pit of my stomach of the health service I work for is now going to see a steady rise of people with serious respiratory disease, people who are in hospital, short of breath, desperately unwell and afraid, and sadly aren’t allowed to have relatives to comfort them through this.
I’m finding it a bit much that this disease may rampage through care homes again with a criminal lack of concern from our government. I’m finding it a bit much that staff there, the staff on absolute shit pay, will be providing the absolute lion’s share of the palliative care for people who they care for, know and love.
I’m finding it a bit much that my good friend who is an intensivist will have to go through again the ordeal he did in April this year. A continuous and unrelenting wave of patients needing intubation and respiratory support, many of them dying and him having to support relatives through their loved ones death via an iPad screen. I’m constantly reminded of his words to me when I asked him how he was “It shouldn’t be like this. I care for people who are dying and it should be like this.”

I’m finding it a bit much the thought that if numbers surge and nhs resources are drawn back to caring for the most sick, how we are are simultaneously going to care for the rest of the population. In my job I don’t know how we are going to manage supporting patients in the community with Covid and patients in the community with flu and other respiratory tract infections, as winter approaches. I’m scared about how we are going to support our patients when many of us are likely to become sick ourselves. Stress in clinical staff right now seems to be widespread.

I’m finding it all a bit much the problems for our patients we are having to metaphorically kick down the road. I’m trying not to worry about what is happening to the most frail and isolated patients in our communities and the impact this is having on their physical and mental health. I don’t know if the nhs has the resources to pick all the pieces of this back up again when we finally get beyond the pandemic.

And I am truly, truly finding it a bit much those who are now just bored with all this. People who stood outside their houses and clapped in April but are finding it all just tiresome now. People who lack the mental capacity to imagine solutions to this problem that require nuance. That rules will change as the understanding of the disease and daily data of infection rates do. That maybe the answer to some of these problems is reflection on your own personal behaviour and responsibilities.

dottiedodah · 16/09/2020 08:38

I couldnt agree more! Every time the news is on ,more doom and gloom I have got to the stage where I switch over to virtually anything else! Even Childrens TV! /Gardening .

loobyloo1234 · 16/09/2020 08:39

YANBU. I keep hoping for some light at the end of the tunnel but it doesnt seem to come in the UK

I love Sports, and its been nice to see some countries in Europe (France/Germany for two) having small crowds back to watch them. Funny how some countries with a higher infection rate seem to have some normality back in their lives though. Im jealous

jessstan2 · 16/09/2020 08:42

It's certainly very hot, one shouldn't complain but it does get a bit much without air conditioning or a working fan.

Lemonyfuckit · 16/09/2020 08:46

YADNBU. I found out yesterday I'm being made redundant which has come as a complete shock. I'm petrified about finding a new job in the current climate, worried about family (my DF is waiting on a biopsy result) so coupled with this and the doom and gloom, constant incredulity at just how much this government is cocking everything up, all to be made worse by a no deal Brexit.... I'm usually very optimistic but right now I'm feeling very down indeed. Sad

Inkpaperstars · 16/09/2020 09:05

Lemony so sorry to hear that Flowers

Lemonyfuckit · 16/09/2020 09:19

@Inkpaperstars

Lemony so sorry to hear that Flowers
Thank you Inkpaperstars! A kind word from a stranger really does lift the spirits.
wheresmymojo · 16/09/2020 09:23

@Guineapigbridge

This may not help at all. It's a jigsaw kind of comment really. But I'm reading a book about Victorian England, "The Five: The Untold Lives of the Women Killed by Jack the Ripper". It's so wonderfully written and so descriptive of life back then for the working classes. It's made me very, very grateful to be alive right now in these times of comfort for most.

Thanks @Guineapigbridge - this is the kind of thing that helps me.

Will definitely be checking out this book.

At times like this I think of my ancestors who lived 15 to one terrace house and worked in the pits six days a week for their whole lives and remind myself that, overall, things are pretty good for me in comparison

(that's not meant to 'shame' anyone else about their feelings, it's about me only)

Ynwa1234 · 16/09/2020 09:24

I feel like I'm on tenterhooks all the bloody time phone calls from school to say to collect them, normal colds doing the rounds, cancelling work (self employed), kids suffering as a result of no tests but they just have a cold. I think I will also have to stop reading and watching news as its depressing the hell out of me. I've been in tears but I think as a pp said covid fatigue is absolutely the right words for what's going on. I just feel for the children.

wheresmymojo · 16/09/2020 09:25

I'm definitely going to stop reading threads about COVID.

I'll just keep up with the numbers thread so I can make a fact based decision about what is a reasonable risk for my area, stick to the guidance but otherwise just stop focusing on the pandemic.

MadameBlobby · 16/09/2020 09:28

So sorry @Lemonyfuckit, I was made redundant out of the blue too, it was awful x

Jocasta2018 · 16/09/2020 09:30

YANBU! I've stopped watching/reading the news - what with Covid plus Brexit looming, I've reached my limit on shit!
I no longer even find enjoyment reading Private Eye anymore Confused

MsStillwell · 16/09/2020 09:45

My friend has just opted out completely all the way through. She’s just had a weekend in Dublin and is off to Turkey for a week next week. Doesn’t own a mask, shopped every day etc.

Tootletum · 16/09/2020 09:46

@RobinlovesCormoran yep spot on. And I'm so sick of people who say oh well at least you've bot post anyone to covid. Yeah. At least I have enough food to eat. At least I have clothes on my back. It's like we're no longer allowed to miss the trivial joys of life. It's about as effective as telling kids to eat mushrooms because there are starving kids in Africa who would jump at the chance. OK...

VoyageInTheDark · 16/09/2020 09:55

YANBU I'm having to isolate for 14 days due to DD having a cough and no tests available and it's like being back in March again Sad

Tootletum · 16/09/2020 09:55

Not lost. Ffs.