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Am I "weird" to do this for dd - she says I am

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coffeelover3 · 12/09/2020 21:14

so we moved to a new area back in March and dd aged 16 nearly 17 hasn't made a single friend here. of course no school, no clubs, no opportunity to meet people her age. She started college last week, but just one day, and they have 2 days next week I think. But are encouraged not to 'hang out' after class. She is very down. So I put up a post on f/b in a local group asking what teens round here did, and what could she do/join to make friends. Scouts came up - so I emailed, and she was all set to go next Friday, but just heard from the leader that all meet ups are suspended cos of covid - we in B/ham so have gone into 'mini lockdown'. Meanwhile, a girl messaged me privately on f/b and said she was in the scouts, and she would chat to dd, she seemed really nice, she said 'tell her to msg me, I would be friends with anyone' - she had a very nice/normal f/book page, so I got excited and I messaged her and then I got DD and she (reluctantly) gave me her Instagram to give to the girl. The girl then followed her, and they had a very short convo on insta. Given that things are so bad, and it's so hard to meet people, I've said to DD she should message her again, and try and make friends, but DD wont as she says it's too embarrassing, that it makes her look like a loser :( She's currently crying her eyes out that she doesn't know anyone. I don't know what I can do really. She's managed up to now with her old friends on video calls and messages, but they are back at school now, and everyone's busy IUKWIM. I feel so sorry for her, but helpless.

OP posts:
chachachia · 13/09/2020 17:25

Birmingham has loads of youth centres - www.birmingham.gov.uk/homepage/178/find_a_youth_centre

On that website it lists the contact info for each area's youth officer, maybe your daughter could give them a call or email to find out about local opportunities?

ExclamationPerfume · 14/09/2020 06:36

There is an App I think it's called Uebo or something like that. My Dd has made friends from there. It's a bit like Tinder but for friends.

IndieTara · 15/09/2020 10:17

Op how about Girl Guides? They go up to age 25 and are starting back this week with zoom sessions. ( DD is a guide, we are also in the Midlands )

Binny36 · 15/09/2020 10:23

I think what you did was lovely. I would have loved having a mum like you when I was growing up. I can slightly see she may be embarrassed but your intentions were good. Don’t be hard on yourself and just learn from it. Next time maybe ask her what she’s like to do. Please don’t be hard in yourself and don’t overthink, you did a good thing

StormzyInaDCup · 15/09/2020 10:49

Hi @coffeelover3, I've Inboxed you. I have a young for their age 16yo in Birmingham too 👌

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