To window show based on occupation 😂

[Shoregirl8]

I'm only being light hearted. But do you ever get curious what It would be like to be with a different type of man. Not to cheat or anything. Just a curious to what's the difference.

I'm with a lovely man who works with computers. So he's not an outdoorsy man really. He likes a walk. But he isnt into sport apart from formula one. He's a really hands on dad. Does a little around the house but he's useless at keeping tidy. he happily pops anywhere to get anything and he's very caring. But he is not one of those blokes that cuts the grass regular. Gets on with painting (I always have to do it to get him to help) and he's not a drinker or one of the lads if that makes sense. He's always moaning he's tired and if he cuts the grass his backs gone for the rest of the day lol!

I have some workmen outside doing a driveway. Group of 6. They are very blokey. Smoking.(not saying this is attractive lol) working hard for 10 hours a day lifting and digging etc. I can't help but think ooo they look manly. It's just something about an outdoorsy tradesman.

Probably making myself sound a horrible person. I just sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with the more man's man man 😂

I want to make it clear I'm happy but appreciating the flexing muscles outside and the dirty white t shirts 😂😂

I actually made DH bring home his old mechanics overalls when they switched to shirt/trousers. He now uses them to do work around the house knowing that they turn me into a sure thing

Definitely! I'm bored of sexy firefighter, sexy cop etc. Let's start a range of tradesmen themed fantasy clothes. Slightly grubby overalls, polo shirts with company logo, saggy cargo shorts...

A tool belt! With some fun “tools” 😉 ..... I’m lucky DH is all “suit, tie and incomprehensible jargon” for work (still sexy) but also loves DIY and has beaten up cargo trousers, tools AND the skills so I get TWO styles of DH in one!

Is it just me or is it getting hot in here 😊

The comments about working class tradesmen getting pissed, gambling, being sexually selfish etc are disgusting
I work with sex offenders and domestic abuse perpetrators, plenty of them are 'nice white collar professionals

Yup, remember that case of the young lawyer, been to good schools and oxbridge I think, convicted of domestic violence against his girlfriend and burnt an iron into her body. Judge essentially let him off as didn't want to ruin his promising career. Same attitudes here.

It's confidence that does it for me. Be they in a suit or overalls. Competence and quiet confidence with sparkly blue eyes and I go weak at the knees! Nothing wrong with a bit of window shopping.

Sorry to explode all the stereotypes here but my DH has two University degrees and worked as an Auditor and then an IT Manager for many years, first for a big company, then for a smaller company then self employed.

A very large client went bust another died suddenly and another was bought out by a company that wanted to use their own IT department so he went from a successful business to no business overnight.

Threw it all up to return to his first love of gardening (he has an HND and City and Guilds in Horticulture). Suits and ties went into the wardrobe and now only come out for weddings. Now drives a van, wears steel toecapped boots and those work trousers with kneepads and lots of pockets. Doesn't shave. Does lots of stuff with fearsome looking power tools. Owns a cement mixer.

It's a bit weird for clients because he isn't your usual jobbing gardener. Knows his plants, clearly very intelligent and well spoken. Not afraid to get his hands dirty. Very physical and sweaty.

I absolutely love having the best of both worlds. He loves being a tradesman and being outside all day but reads technical journals in his lunchbreak and is thinking of doing a PhD.

He's so far had ONE potential client diss him. Said he was quoting too much and when he pointed out he was qualified (City and Guilds) she turned round and said, "I also have a degree from St Andrews University but I didn't choose to waste it mowing people's lawns for a living". Snotty cow.

I know you mean to be lighthearted but this is simply silly so YABVU.

You lost, me at "I'm with a lovely man who works with computers. So he's not an outdoorsy man really." Stereotyped much.

With you on that one. I fancy our plumber

Just 'cause a man works with computers doesn't mean he's not outdoorsy or sporty! DH works in tech and is and can look quite nerdy. But at the weekend/holidays he's a bearded, muscly, competitive sailor and is such a good skier that I've seen people actually stop to watch and admire.

It's like being married to superman.

Rough hands well they have in my fantasy-

@SisyphusDad don't know if you are actually a bloke, but I guess you have a point. My DH is in IT (as am I, just less technical), and could not be more outdoorsy. He'd be ice climbing all the time if there was ever a hard enough winter! I do know what the OP means though. Even though my DH is very very good at DIY, there's just something about proper dirty work wear and boots and tool belts...

Lighthearted thread highlighting that toxic masculinity is ingrained.

I wonder if my husband day dreams about a wife who is more feminine (according to whatever stereotypes he has absorbed) and has a more submissive occupational role and possibly more caring than the great job that I actually have, and do well?

@monkeyonthetable

One of my oldest friends from school is a builder. And a couple of friends' husbands are too. Their houses are an absolute state. The last thing the men want to do when they get back from work is fix up their own homes.

Tell me about it And you are never allowed to get someone else in to do anything, because they can do it (but don't).

Yanbu. There’s something hot about the masculinity and capabilities of a tradesman.

My ex wore a suit for work and it didn’t do anything for me 🤷‍♀️

You are mainly U because of your use of emojis and lol.

For good looking men...Definitely Outdoorsy ones...I know of some very handsome Carpenters and Oak timber Framers... They are intelligent, sporty, often toned and muscular, and the ones I know of are polite and well spoken..They have to be as it makes dealing with the clients much better.

@Arthur2shedsJackson

You are mainly U because of your use of emojis and lol.

Well I have a pigeon to look at. Gonna take him a diet coke at 11.

I know what you mean. Our office has had workmen in and all of them have been seriously gorgeous! It's been fairly warm so one was in his vest and it was honestly like that old diet coke advert!
I've dated both tradesmen and 'white collar professionals'. There's pros and cons to each job but I do find tradesmen to be more down to earth and fun to be around.

Oh and re. Wanting a guy to do things around the house. C'mon girls we are capable of that! I always do the majority of tasks like building flat pack furniture
putting up wallpaper, fitting lights, painting and plumbing in a washing machine. Wikihow and YouTube are a wonderful thing!

I’m not much of a window shopper because DHs work gives him every aspect (someone mentioned novelty?) of different jobs. But in saying that.... there are certain parts of his job that just make me swoon like a teenage girl all over again 😂

My poor tradesman husband, is this what you all think of him?

FWIW he worked in an office with some awful, cheating coke head men then he had a huge breakdown. Now he’s outside all day and much happier.

Shoregirl8 Obviously having a diet coke break!

I nearly fainted when I went to get my tyres changed and spoke to a 6ft, blonde, well muscled Adonis in shorts and t shirt. Honestly he looked like a movie star, and appeared totally unaware of his looks. My short chubby DH came a very poor second in the looks department 😂😂

@Tootletum,

Yes I'm a man, so I'm afraid that your "proper dirty work wear and boots and tool belts..." doesn't do it for me