Would you cook the whole two weeks?

[Confusedasusual78]

Just interested in others thoughts on this.
I live in another country and my parents and family come to stay a few times a year for two weeks at a time in our house.
Obviously love seeing them.
During that time, we eat out one night and have takeout maybe one or two nights, the other nights I make dinner, wash and clean up etc for everyone..would you do this?
Interested in how others organize things in a similar situation or if you go to stay with family for a length of time.
I was speaking to a friend who said when her Mum comes to stay, she leaves her to get on with it and her mom cooks her own bits, washes up etc.
I don’t akways mind it, but do feel a bit exhausted at times as have a hyper toddler and am recovering from illness..it’s just always been this way though 🤷‍♀️

I encourage them to come in the summer, then buy loads of stuff to do on the grill and hand my husband the grilling tools (It’s his parents)

I think there's a few people on here who have an idealistic view of having guests stay for 2 weeks - a 3 course meal every night that has to be a bit special etc, homemade. It's not easy. Especially when they don't help!

@Confusedasusual78 perhaps dh and I are unusual but we’ve always helped with dgs when visiting ds and dil. Bathing dgs, washing up, cooking we help with all of it. Dh would do diy or gardening, I will bake with dgs.
We’ve just had dgs for 5 weeks over summer without his parents. Obviously he’s older now but even as a toddler he’s stayed for a few days on his own.

@Coffeecak3 That’s lovely 💜
I sometimes wonder if my mum feels uncertain to take the lead in things like that, do you just take the initiative and bathe them/bake with them etc, or do they ask/you ask first?
I think I’d be the same as you, but I realise we’re all different!

I'm buggered if they get three course meals - they get what we'd normally have, one course, if you're still hungry, help yourself from the fridge, and we make sure the wine flows. They're family. It doesn't have to be 'special' every evening, we make sure we do some nice meals, and some comfort meals, and we normally cook every meal from scratch bar one night a week, most weeks, so that's no different.

[quote Confusedasusual78]@Coffeecak3 That’s lovely 💜
I sometimes wonder if my mum feels uncertain to take the lead in things like that, do you just take the initiative and bathe them/bake with them etc, or do they ask/you ask first?
I think I’d be the same as you, but I realise we’re all different![/quote]
Doesn’t sound like it sadly as upthread you said they wait for you get up and do the dishes. They know what they’re doing, wise up. They stay too often to be treated like this. How many weeks in total per year are you putting up with this?

My MIL treats us to her cooking when she visits buts that's just because she loves doing it and loves treating us and is good cook we pay for her flight over and treat her to pub lunches as she is v poor so it's what she can give us

I assume you have no partner? If you do then WTF is he doing !!! That would be the real issue

Ok read the thread and you do have partner
He should do his bit, ok he is home late but what is stopping him making and freezing a dish on the weekend ?
Guest for two weeks is long and I assume you are out of your country for husbands work ?
The real issue is not the catering for guest as I think that is a family dynamic thing that you seem to have balanced in my opinion. But the gender roles are all but old fashioned in my opinion , he should do all the washing snd clearing away if you have done the cooking